Told my ex to “go fuck herself”

[Jasong92]

I need some advice/guidance please?

Me and my partner recently split up, everything was going well but social services got involved, told her a load of lies about me and she believes them and left me (I’m awaiting CAB to phone and to take SS to court as they’ve lied about me to my ex so I can clear my name)

Anyway she had unblocked me again today after reblocking me many times and was ready to start talking at first but then each time it got to where she was having a go at me.

I’ve had so much pressure on me this week with that and being emotional and upset losing the women I had a marriage booked with who I love with all my heart, I was upset at her behaviour and told her to “go fuck herself” I instantly regretted it and apologised several times but it wasn’t going enough she said don’t ever contact me again or come to my house I’ll see you in hell and blocked me on everything, my behaviour was bang out of order and I apologised many times straight away, but she didn’t care and says she wants nothing more to do with me but she’s pregnant with our child, have I ruined it and is she gone forever do you think?😞😭

Thank you

Asking on here as women know what things like this mean, thank you all again!

Riiiiiiight.

Leave her alone and get your shit together. This relationship was toxic, and if she has any sense, she will not get back together with you.

"she said don’t ever contact me again or come to my house"

"Asking on here as women know what things like this mean"

It's a real mystery.

What lies did SS tell?

You had me at "go fuck yourself".

I dunno. What do you reckon?

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Why did SS get involved in the first place? They don’t tend to rock up unannounced with a spiel of lies for no reason whatsoever, they tend to be quite busy.

Why did Social Services get involved? And why would they lie to your ex about you?

Do you already have children with her? Confused why SS are involved. They don’t generally get involved in random adult relationships without children do they? Or is it something to do with the unborn child?

How were you even known to SS in the first place?

If you are confident you can prove SS lid about you then I think the best thing you can do is leave your ex alone until you can provide evidence of that.

You've apologised for the way you spoke to her so I think you need to leave her alone now.

There are some huge chunks missing from your story here. Why were SS involved? What did they say to her? You sound a bit volatile to be honest from what you’ve already said, so to be fair it’s probably for the best either way.

Another one who thinks we really need to know why SS were involved/ what they said to your ex

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Fuck off and leave her alone.

ffs. imagine having this little self awareness

"Anyway she had unblocked me again today after reblocking me many times"

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This is such childish behaviour from both of you. You sound about 12. Grow up and leave each other alone.

Trying20, well how the fuck could anyone here advise whether the OP's ex is 'gone forever'? We have no idea what they are thinking, so it's a bit of a daft question, isn't it?

We can however ask for more details about SS involvement and the breakdown of the relationship, as this might give some insight and help when answering. Of course the OP absolutely doesn't have to respond to any questions if they don't want to.

But responding to posts and asking questions is generally how conversations go, not sure why this bothers you so much.

Why SS were involved is of any relevance at all to the OP’s question.

Well I think if SS told her OP was a convicted sex offender or murderer and they would take her child off her as soon as he/she is born unless she ends the relationship then we could quite confidently say she is unlikely to come back. That she left at all would suggest SS disclosed something serious.

but social services got involved, told her a load of lies about me and she believes them and left me (I’m awaiting CAB to phone and to take SS to court as they’ve lied about me to my ex so I can clear my name)

I wouldn’t hold your breath.

Social services have presumably ‘got involved’ for a reason; they don’t spring from nowhere like the Spanish Inquisition. They don’t just pick a random couple and stir up rows for a laugh. They clearly have strong evidence that either your ex or her child might be at risk, either because of your past history or because of other people you are linked to.

Leave your ex alone. Stop harassing her. She has told you she doesn’t want any contact with you. Respect her boundaries. When she gives birth you can apply for access to your child.