To think I've absolutely gone and ruined my chances?

[arrghhh]

I met this guy at my 30th night out a few months back, I added him on Facebook and we'd been speaking periodically - nothing heavy. He had asked me if I wanted to go and grab a drink with him sometime which I replied yes.

Anyways last night I'm child free so crack open the wine, he messages and turns out he is near me visiting his mum so naturally (after a few glasses of wine I invite him round).

He came round, I was very attracted to him, he's six years younger but I was quite shocked with how mature he came across and how intelligent and well spoken he was. He asked questions about me and showed an interest.

However I hadn't eaten all day yesterday. We ended up kissing - a lot and at one point I think I remember my tits in his face however this is speculative as I was far too drunk at this point.

Next thing I know I'm waking up on the sofa with a message from him, "Hey you kinda passed out so I just popped your blanket over you and bolted for the train didnt want you thinking I legged it tried to wake you for 5-10 but no luck 😂😂" and a missed call from him about 30 minutes after that message.

I am absolutely mortified. I wish I'd never even invited him over, I knew I shouldn't be drinking on an empty stomach. The worst thing is I liked him and thought he had some potential but now I don't even want to reply this morning.

So mortified. Should I just block and pretend it never happened? Should I acknowledge it?

No don't block! This could be a funny story about your first date in 5 years time. He probably had a great time. I would reply saying something like oh no hope you made your train 🤣. And see if the convo continues

Well firstly; I hope your hangover isn’t too bad today!

If you like him, don’t ignore or block him. These things happen sometimes you don’t want to lose this opportunity just because you made a mistake.

The first time I stayed over at my now DHs house (his parents house to boot!) I got horrifically drunk and threw up everywhere. I passed out and was so embarrassed the next day I wanted the ground to swallow me whole.

How he handled it - he made a joke at my expense and made me feel normal - told me all I needed to know. We’ve been together almost 20 years now!!! The story still gets told and is one of legend now!

Definitely reply!! He sounds lovely.

I'd reply something breezy - "god I shouldn't drink on an empty stomach! Anyway - did you catch your train?"

And go from there 😊

If you still like him I’d laugh it off. Everyone does something mortifying at some point. Your head may have let you down but maybe your spectacular tits made up for it. 😀

Hahaha well there is that 🤣

He sounds lovely, and I fully agree that he was enjoying himself-and your tremendous tits! Give him a text and say 'good morning xxx'

Awww don’t block him, he sounds fun

Sounds like a decent person. Don’t block message him back

Ask him if tits in his face was real or a dream? Brazen it out! Xxx

While funny I wouldn’t. He might take it that if you don’t remember that part that op was already to far drunk and either be mortified that he took advantage of that, or second guess whether op actually likes him or was just inebriated.

make a joke about tits in his face by all means though

Omg OP you were just having fun!! And rightly so!!!! Carry on and see where it goes.

First thought was that was pretty dangerous what you did! Inviting him to your home when you didn’t know him; but no one else seems to be saying that so maybe it’s just me!
but agree sounds like he responded nicely to the situation so just message and apologise for getting so drunk

I bet he’s laughing about it and had a great time. Another one here who threw up the first time I met my IL’s - I was so nervous I just kept drinking, they found me passed out in the loo. DH put me to bed and when I shamefacedly toddled downstairs the next morning my FIL said “welcome to the family!”

Mortified. Just style it out OP.

He sent you a text and tried to call you - that doesn't sound like a horrified man! Don't block him and just make a joke it. You were just having fun and there is nothing wrong with that. Hope head isn't too sore today!

He’s already texting and phoning you so you haven’t ruined your chances. He could have slipped out quietly and blocked you

Message and be upbeat.

'omg, think I had a bit too much fun last night! Note to self: don't drink on an empty stomach. I would like to see you again if you are brave enough - I promise not to pass out on you next time 😂'

OP, unwise to get so drunk and invite someone you barely know. I know you’ll feel crap about it this morning and I don’t want to pile more on, but I think you need to address the drinking. Especially since you have a child to consider as well.

He sounds lovely actually.

I agree, I’m surprised you’re the only one who has brought it up.

I don’t think getting blind drunk and inviting over a man you don’t know (and then getting yourself into such a vulnerable state that you pass out with him still in your house) is all that funny personally.

That aside, he sounds nice enough (luckily!), I’d reply and just say “hope you got your train ok x” and see if he replies.

He was harmless

I hope he was someone you know through friends or something.
Anyway - agree with others- he wouldn't have bothered texting if he was horrified. But it may have been a bit off-putting so I wouldn't laugh it off. Apologise profusely - maybe offer to take him out to make up for it?

He sounds lovely.

I’m worried about you though. Not eating all day, then drinking alone, and getting so drunk that you pass out and can’t be woken, isn’t normal or healthy. (And obviously inviting a stranger to your home was unsafe - he turned out lovely but that was pure luck.) I don’t want to offend you but either you have a drinking problem or some other issue you need to look at.

As for the guy - you’re 30, he’s 24, have fun if you like but I don’t see it going anywhere as by the time he’s ready to settle down and have kids you’ll be nearly 40.

Blocking a nice person, without first messaging to explain why you’re ending contact, is pretty immature too.

God if it was a man who had done this, and the woman had left to catch her train the MN vipers would have been all it, calling him a loser and to block/not bother with him again. Double standards strikes again.

*all over it

He sounds very decent. Don’t block him. Give him a call and just be honest: you hadn’t eaten when he called, you drank too much in the heat of the moment and you’re now rather embarrassed. Perfect opportunity to suggest meeting up next time and going for a pizza!!