To think I've absolutely gone and ruined my chances?

[arrghhh]

I met this guy at my 30th night out a few months back, I added him on Facebook and we'd been speaking periodically - nothing heavy. He had asked me if I wanted to go and grab a drink with him sometime which I replied yes.

Anyways last night I'm child free so crack open the wine, he messages and turns out he is near me visiting his mum so naturally (after a few glasses of wine I invite him round).

He came round, I was very attracted to him, he's six years younger but I was quite shocked with how mature he came across and how intelligent and well spoken he was. He asked questions about me and showed an interest.

However I hadn't eaten all day yesterday. We ended up kissing - a lot and at one point I think I remember my tits in his face however this is speculative as I was far too drunk at this point.

Next thing I know I'm waking up on the sofa with a message from him, "Hey you kinda passed out so I just popped your blanket over you and bolted for the train didnt want you thinking I legged it tried to wake you for 5-10 but no luck 😂😂" and a missed call from him about 30 minutes after that message.

I am absolutely mortified. I wish I'd never even invited him over, I knew I shouldn't be drinking on an empty stomach. The worst thing is I liked him and thought he had some potential but now I don't even want to reply this morning.

So mortified. Should I just block and pretend it never happened? Should I acknowledge it?

@ThirtyThreeTrees

it really wouldn’t be bother me

if they were fit, good job, intelligent and good crack (assessed before they got too pissed) then I wouldn’t be put off by them doing what op has done no

if it was every single time we went out then yes but as a one off, no

@LuckySantangelo35 ,fair enough and agree with once verses every time. I know I would be gone if it happened more than once and probably just the once if I'm honest.

Ah OP I'm glad nothing bad happened but solidarity cos I've been there and done that. Met a really really nice bloke and got absolutely arseholed and spent half the night crying (?) before he popped me in a taxi to go home. Woke up the next day with horrific hangxiety cos I right liked him. Must of made a half decent impression as we've been married 15 years.

"Want to see what I'm like when I'm sober?"

Yep - that's about the only line you can go with.
It sounds like he has been put off bit no harm in having one last go, as your previous messages haven't spelled it out to him that you are still interested.
You may get turned down but nothing ventured nothing gained and all that.

He sounds like he's trying to keep the conversation going! Go on. I've nothing to be doing here for the long weekend. You must report back instantly so that we can guage the response times though. Including when you get the blue ticks.

The blue ticks is a disease you could have picked up last night along with herpes 😉

just text him " You dropped by and I had such a great time that I forgot to eat. Next time, I promise to eat. What's your favourite dish ? "

That's what emojis are for! I would send a 😵‍💫emoji and then say 'maybe next time we meet, it could be at name of local coffee shop?'

He wouldn't have messaged if you'd put him off .
He sounds nice and caring.

Anyone decent would have a problem with your decisions to be honest.

@Thornethorn

omg - you sound like you could do with a bit of what op was drinking last night

live a little

Can I lease clarify that this is literally just how I talk. I'm kinda joking about myself here. Its a standing joke at work with all the weirdos and drunk old men that seem to follow me around /try to talk to me at work. I'm.famous fir being a bit of a magnet for waifs and strays.

We all have quite dark humour about ourselves. I also told them to bump me off I turn into my parents. Or if I'm.still getting drunk at 60 amd waking up in strange places.

I if course do nor advocate hurting yourself

I don't want to sound preachy and certainly not 'victim blaming', but inviting a bloke you don't know into your house and getting drunk is always risky, what if he hadn't been nice and put a blanket over you? Or he could have stolen something while having the run of your house. Are your keys etc safe. You've only met him once before, in a bar - do you have mutual acquaintances or is he a stranger to you?

Do you always pass out after a few glasses of wine or might something have happened to your drink? I just think it all sounds odd - would getting paralytic-shitfaced drunk on some wine be normal for you, even without eating? Perhaps I just have an incredibly low opinion of men, sorry if I am expressing undue suspicion.

Why hadn't you had any food @arrghhh ? Do you have issues with eating/body image? Please be sure to eat regular meals. x

No I was just at a work thing all day yesterday and I don't feel comfortable eating around strangers so I didn't eat. Was planning on having dinner but couldn't be bothered by time I was in.

That’s really quite a jump there, good god, sometimes people just aren’t hungry - there’s nothing the OP has said that suggests not eating is a regular thing whatsoever.

In other news I had been messaging another guy pretty much daily for past week and last night as I was occupied and my phone was on do not disturb I never text him. Woke up this morning to EIGHT messages from him and a missed phone call. So glad he showed his red flags before meeting him.

@OldFan

do you honestly never ever miss a meal?!

it’s not some terrible eating disordered think you know - sometimes people just aren’t hungry or something gets in the way

Somewhat reminds me of my younger days. Aw memories! 😄
Enjoy it for the fun it was, he might message again otherwise leave him to it for now!

She's lucky she wasn't raped and robbed? You must spend your time with some real charmers to think that's good luck

Don't block him if he's still interested I would go for it. Maybe next time invite him for a takeaway, drink and Netflix night. So your not drinking on an empty stomach.😂😂😂

There are some right dickheads on here. One drunken binge and she's an anorexic raging alcoholic with body image issues 🙄

Yikes that is a bit much.

Glad you didn't meet that one.

Creepy.

Totally agree!