To think I've absolutely gone and ruined my chances?

[arrghhh]

I met this guy at my 30th night out a few months back, I added him on Facebook and we'd been speaking periodically - nothing heavy. He had asked me if I wanted to go and grab a drink with him sometime which I replied yes.

Anyways last night I'm child free so crack open the wine, he messages and turns out he is near me visiting his mum so naturally (after a few glasses of wine I invite him round).

He came round, I was very attracted to him, he's six years younger but I was quite shocked with how mature he came across and how intelligent and well spoken he was. He asked questions about me and showed an interest.

However I hadn't eaten all day yesterday. We ended up kissing - a lot and at one point I think I remember my tits in his face however this is speculative as I was far too drunk at this point.

Next thing I know I'm waking up on the sofa with a message from him, "Hey you kinda passed out so I just popped your blanket over you and bolted for the train didnt want you thinking I legged it tried to wake you for 5-10 but no luck 😂😂" and a missed call from him about 30 minutes after that message.

I am absolutely mortified. I wish I'd never even invited him over, I knew I shouldn't be drinking on an empty stomach. The worst thing is I liked him and thought he had some potential but now I don't even want to reply this morning.

So mortified. Should I just block and pretend it never happened? Should I acknowledge it?

He sounds decent and like you hadn't scared him off!

He sounds like he was nice by messaging you and phoning you. I wouldn’t block him, I’d reply and just honestly tell him you’re embarrassed and not usually like that.
just next time maybe be a little more careful, I know you’re an adult and can make your own decisions but it was maybe a little unsafe.

He sounds respectful and he messaged and phoned after. I'd just be honest and say what you have said here, although please be careful in future- it sounds like he didn't take advantage or whatever else but some might.

Nah don’t block him OP! Have you text him back yet? Do it, he sounds decent tbh!

Everyone does daft things sometimes, this isn’t the end of the world, just text him.

He sounds like a really nice man. Don't block him, you could be missing out on something great.
Message him and let us know how it goes.

One of my friends got so drunk on a first date she passed out and this was at a pub. They are married now. If you like him then see how it goes.

Unfortunately I just can't message him today. I'm too embarrassed and hungover and just can't deal with it.

100%

Can you imagine?

“I’ve been chatting to a guy on Facebook that I met on a night out a few weeks ago. Last night he invited me around to his house, I got there and he was so drunk he passed out on the sofa. I tried to wake him but couldn’t so I covered him with a blanket and left him to get the train home. I tried ringing him later on and have sent him a text but have had no reply”

The replies would range from:
“He’s clearly an alcoholic”
“I’d stay clear, he sounds reckless”
“Why did you leave him in that state, he could have choked on vomit and died in his sleep??”

This is just the hangxiety talking.
It's not bad at all.

Just reply saying you apologise, shouldn't drink on an empty stomach blah blah blah. Hope you made the train. Next time let's eat first!

Then thats what's ruining your chances. Not last night.

I was thinking that too.

If he’s still taken the time to message and try call then don’t write it off yet! Don’t ignore him today either, you’ve messaged here so can message him back even with the hangover! He might make you feel better about the situation too.

I'm with the posters having concerns about your decision-making here.

You invited a guy you hardly know to your home, got ridiculously drunk & passed out. I'm really glad he was decent & respectful but you put yourself in a really unsafe position.

Whatever you do with the guy, please think about this.

There's nothing wrong with drinking / getting drunk or casual hook-ups but please make sure you are safe.

Okay I just messaged him saying 'Thanks for that! So sorry I got in to that state 😬 should not drink on an empty stomach. Hope you got home alright.'

Look after your hangover
then text him-lovely to see you, sorry I got so drunk, now to self, no drinking on an empty stomach! Would love to see you again and will definitely not be getting plastered! Hope you got your train ok

Ah he sounds really nice! just message as soon as you can rather than later because it will only be awkward if you ignore him.

He has tried to make you feel better by gently telling you what happened and tried to check up on you....

@arrghhh hope it works out

Ah, OP, don’t beat yourself up. Just remember, right now the beer fear is making everything seem 10 times worse!

Bit worrying that you invited a man you don't really know to your home then got so drunk you passed out.

Things always seem so much worse with a hangover. Glad you have messaged him. If he likes you he will message back. In the meantime, lots of vitamin c and relax.

It's not something I regularly do.

Well done for replying op - lesson learned! Good luck

The fact he covered you with a blanket, he texted you, he called you, usually means a half decent guy. Dont let this one get lost because you are mortified. At least apologise and see where it goes first. Fingers crossed he replies.

He replied just saying 'don't worry about it, glad to know too your alright'.

You didn’t really leave him much to come back with! Your message could easily be read as a disinterested brush off.