To think I've absolutely gone and ruined my chances?

[arrghhh]

I met this guy at my 30th night out a few months back, I added him on Facebook and we'd been speaking periodically - nothing heavy. He had asked me if I wanted to go and grab a drink with him sometime which I replied yes.

Anyways last night I'm child free so crack open the wine, he messages and turns out he is near me visiting his mum so naturally (after a few glasses of wine I invite him round).

He came round, I was very attracted to him, he's six years younger but I was quite shocked with how mature he came across and how intelligent and well spoken he was. He asked questions about me and showed an interest.

However I hadn't eaten all day yesterday. We ended up kissing - a lot and at one point I think I remember my tits in his face however this is speculative as I was far too drunk at this point.

Next thing I know I'm waking up on the sofa with a message from him, "Hey you kinda passed out so I just popped your blanket over you and bolted for the train didnt want you thinking I legged it tried to wake you for 5-10 but no luck 😂😂" and a missed call from him about 30 minutes after that message.

I am absolutely mortified. I wish I'd never even invited him over, I knew I shouldn't be drinking on an empty stomach. The worst thing is I liked him and thought he had some potential but now I don't even want to reply this morning.

So mortified. Should I just block and pretend it never happened? Should I acknowledge it?

@arrghhh He sounds awful now from the texts you've mentioned. And he did try to get off with you while you were plastered. Please block him.

OP, I know a few people have suggested this in earlier posts, but are you absolutely sure he didn't have a chance to interfere with your drink in any way? He's almost enjoying describing how disinhibited you were, and you have no memory of any of it

@jennakong Most cases where people think their drink was spiked, they've 'just' had a lot of alcohol. When I drank more it was not unknown that I would get to the point where I acted inappropriately and/or didn't remember what happened.

But @arrghhh you don't know if what he's describing is true. Either way he sounds awful and blockworthy.

Yes maybe he spiked one of the 38 drinks she pounded...

No judgement I get hammered myself now and then but drop the dramatics he didn't spike her - she was just steaming. We've all been there mate!

Omg are you crazy! He sounds lovely. Text him back!

The leggings anecdote sounds a bit dodgy... If you were THAT drunk, he should've called it a night, not tried to shag you when you couldn't properly consent.

How can you know for sure, unless you were there, mate?

Dodged a bullet there.

I know I’m late to this post but I think you had a lucky escape. The unfortunate thing about blackouts is that the body carries on whilst the brain is asleep and you have absolutely no recollection in the morning.

You will never know what happened that evening and it doesn’t matter. It does seem as though this guy is now playing some weird psychological game with you. Don’t play along. You are young, attractive, have a good career and friends (from what I deduce from your posts). Please have confidence in who you are and don’t let people guilt-trip you about your drinking. You may have a problem but the only person who can sort it is you,

You sound like an amazingly strong woman who has had incredible challenges and is succeeding in life. Well done you! Please don’t let this encounter bring you down x

At least read the OP's posts if nothing else.

Please have confidence in who you are and don’t let people guilt-trip you about your drinking

I don't think people are 'guilt tripping,' why would we? No one suffers except the OP (and maybe her kids, to be fair, if she makes a habit of this, let's face it she'd still've felt rough the next day, and been distracted for days wondering what went on.)

We just have been there and suffered various consequences of drinking etc, and know how much they can hurt.

Thats disgusting 😝
I can't think of anything worse.. he must've had one hell of a personality 😂

I've just caught up with this
bloody hell

at first I wondered if he was making stuff up to mess with your head but it can't be as he looks so dreadful now

jeez. So many really nasty ones around at the mo, it's quite scary.

If you like him, reply to his messages, or call him and tell him the truth. He probably realized you were drinking on an empty stomach.
Hopefully, it will be something you can laugh about together in years to come.

@bluesapphire48 please read all of ops posts. Hes actually a vile man.

So if you hadn’t in a drunken stupor pulled your leggings up, you would had been fucked by some random guy you just met and have no memory of what went on. This story simply beggars belief.

No he doesn’t, keep up.

I met someone who didn't live near me so I went to visit him for a weekend away, got absolutely pissed out of my mind and was sick in his suitcase (full of his brand new clothes) and in his shoes. He forgave me that but the next day I had the shits sooo badly (because alcohol doesn't agree with me) and because I didn't want him hearing me pooing I put loads of loo roll in the toilet (to subdue the noise of the pebble dashing) 🤢 and totally blocked the toilet. I couldn't unblock it as I had made a sort of poo/toilet roll lasagne in there. He ended up having to ask the b & b owner for a plunger and I sat on the edge of the bed horrified as he was elbows deep in my loose stools. I heard gagging noises coming from the bathroom and just wanted to die of embarrassment as he emerged with a carrier bag full of "lasagne"
Long story short we've now been married 3 years. And if I start getting too pissed he reminds me (very subtlety) of the 'creation' I made in the hotel toilet 6 years ago 😂
So just text him, and good luck x

Sorry, I was late to this thread and I've just read the later replies. He sounds dodgy AF. I'd block him if you haven't already.

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