Dd left her phone on the side of the bath, I moved it as I was about to have a bath myself: When I picked it up it had a text notification from 'mum' definitely not me as I haven't had a reason to text her for days. I could t help myself so I asked her who it was and it turns out it's from her dads girlfriend he's been with 2 years max who is barely 10 years older than our Dd.
I'm just floored and heartbroken. Her excuse was she was angry with me but fuck me I feel like someone's ripped my heart out.... how do I deal with this?
AIBU?
To be absolutely heartbroken by my 14 year old DF doing this?
TSwizzlescat · 27/08/2022 10:30
Dalekjastninerels · 27/08/2022 13:04
Incorrect!
OP is the daughter's Mum
Dad's girlfriend is not and never will be.
I count my blessings I am childless and unmaried if this i how things end up a husband who leaves and a daughter who who calls Dad's girlfriend Mum.
JustLyra · 27/08/2022 12:53
Absolutely ridiculous advice.
Why would anyone even jokingly suggest the OP do something that would put her DD in the firing line with her nasty father?
Dalekjastninerels · 27/08/2022 12:48
Seriously though do the same but put the name as the skanky fucker's first name.
If you daughter asks; say whatever her name is is Dad's girlfriend but not her Mum.
You are her Mum OP, if her dad's girlfriend is encouraging this it is very wrong/
Draughtycatflapreturns · 27/08/2022 12:27
Wait till your daughter is asleep, get hold of her phone, and replace ‘mum’ with ‘skanky fucker’.
Agrudge · 27/08/2022 12:13
Maybe her other mum respects her privacy
Murdoch1949 · 27/08/2022 18:07
She's a teenage girl who wants to kick back. She knows who her mum is, and it's not the gf. Ignore it, be your usual loving mum, and be there to pick up the pieces when needed. Say absolutely nothing about the gf, her age, actions, presents etc, grit your teeth and move on.
JustLyra · 27/08/2022 19:01
It’s amazing how many people are completely ignoring the situation with the girls father, his form for this sort of thing (therefore the pressure she’s possibly under), and the fact she’s seen him completely cut off her sister.
This isn’t just a standard teenager being a dick situation and the OP has to use more caution than most until the true situation is totally clear, as it’s not atm.
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