Dd left her phone on the side of the bath, I moved it as I was about to have a bath myself: When I picked it up it had a text notification from 'mum' definitely not me as I haven't had a reason to text her for days. I could t help myself so I asked her who it was and it turns out it's from her dads girlfriend he's been with 2 years max who is barely 10 years older than our Dd.
I'm just floored and heartbroken. Her excuse was she was angry with me but fuck me I feel like someone's ripped my heart out.... how do I deal with this?
AIBU?
To be absolutely heartbroken by my 14 year old DF doing this?
TSwizzlescat · 27/08/2022 10:30
hulahooper2 · 27/08/2022 10:55
Tell her your the only Mum she will ever have , and explain how hurt you are. Get her to Change you back to mum , and the girlfriend can be called anything at all. I totally understand how gutted you must feel. It’s not the fact he has a girlfriend that’s upsetting .
TSwizzlescat · 27/08/2022 10:44
Just for context I knew she'd changed my name in her phone a while ago which I asked why as she said it's because it's a nickname- she's never ever called me.... thought it was off at the time but she's a teenager so who knows what goes through their heads. So I'm not mum in her phone but dads girlfriend is....
Also for context dad had form for this, he tried to make my older daughter from a previous relationship call him dad and her actual father by his first name when we were together. He also told her she was dead to him and he never wanted to see her again as she was too upset to talk to him when he left one day with absolutely no warning. But that's a whole other story!
chillipenguin · 27/08/2022 10:56
This is awful advice.
hulahooper2 · 27/08/2022 10:55
Tell her your the only Mum she will ever have , and explain how hurt you are. Get her to Change you back to mum , and the girlfriend can be called anything at all. I totally understand how gutted you must feel. It’s not the fact he has a girlfriend that’s upsetting .
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