Sibling fallout - who is being unreasonable

[wasabipeas]

I’m trying to keep this neutral because I’ve lost perspective on this situation so please be gentle…

3 siblings - A, B and C. All married with DCs

A is very well off, big house, lots of holidays, skiing etc
B is doing ok, has a holiday every year but camping/Eurocamp or self catering sort of things
C has the least money of all of them, due to working in a low-paying industry and wouldn’t ordinarily take DCs ‘away’ on holiday but would do day trips locally etc

For the last few years, family A has offered to take family C on holiday. Not joining their usual long haul but Centreparcs or a week in a cottage which Family A pays for

A and C have returned from a holiday recently, and B asked C how it was.
C said it was great, B said, half jokingly ‘I look forward to it being our turn for the free FamilyA holiday scheme one day’

C tells A what was said, A contacts C and says that it’s not about free holidays so much as giving kids who wouldn’t otherwise have a holiday something, where as B’s kids get a holiday every year, so this isn’t something that B is going to come to as long as they are able to give their kids a holiday

A is cross and B being entitled, B is cross at their kids being excluded, C is stuck in the middle of it

Who IBU?

if it makes any difference, A and C are the same gender

B is a brat.

C is a stirrer for telling A what was said.

B in my opinion is unreasonable. What their children get is perfectly reasonable. Unless it was just a flippant, tongue in cheek comment that's been blown out of proportion.

B is being very unreasonable.

B is probably facing a no holiday future, like a lot of people who can currently "only" afford cheap breaks and is a bit uneasy about it. B poss starting g yo struggle.

B is a twat.

C is not stuck in the middle; C is shit-stirring. I can understand why B FEELS excluded, but is acting a little entitled, with the 'half' tongue in cheek comment.
A was lovely to have taken C and family away, but I wonder whether A would be so quick to offer another time after the unnecessary, low level sibling drama/tension it has created.

Why did C tell A? Either way, could B go away with A and C so all the siblings/cousins get a holiday together? It sounds like B is more bothered that they and their family gets left out than anything money related really and I can understand that.

Can't a b and c all go together but a pays for c and b pays for b? Then no children miss out and fun is had all round.

C wasn’t deliberately shit stirring, it was more of a ‘heads up, B is in a cob about us going on holiday, so if they are weird with you, that’s why’
B has form for being in a cob with people and not telling them why

B is an arse

It's not as simple as one side BU.

-If A was so magnanimous, they'd see the difference between what they provide for C and what B can afford and do something for B too

-B shouldn't have been so arsey,

-C shouldn't be such a shit stirrer

C shouldn’t of told A what B said..that’s just shit stirring

B is being unreasonable, to get a strop on, but I can kind of see their point, in a 'squeezed middle' way. I mean, whilst B gets a holiday, a week camping is different to a week in Centreparcs and B may not be able to afford Centreparcs, so their children are missing out, in a different way.

Let me guess, you are C and your sister is A. You have a brother who is B.

B is an arse and C is a shit stirrer.

might B be feeling left out, not just of this specific holiday but more generally? Do A & C hang out together more?

And yes, B could well be feeling the cost-of-living pinch too.

Next year should be a joint holiday for all 3 families together with a suitable split of bills.

B is being unreasonable. But C should also look for a better paid job so they don’t need to relay on A for holidays.

No, C was shot stirring. If B wanted A to know about them feeling excluded they would tell them.

and now with cost of living going up, if B can’t afford holidays is A paying for theirs too? I don’t think A has to pay for B holiday. But I also get B feeling a bit miffed about it.

C definitely is a shit stirrer.

You best tell us who you are OP

it’s entirely A’s choice to treat B and family to a holiday. And very kind of her.

B’s passive aggressive comments show how she really feels, jealous and un sympathetic to C’s plight. A touch of the ‘Whataboutme’ syndrome.

C shouldn’t have told A what B said.

C is a shit stirrer.

I can get that B feels left out of big family memories and feels their kids miss out on cousin stuff.

B is unreasonable but likely jealous that they just barely afford camping/a lesser self catering while C gets taken to Center parcs not exactly cheap and I’m going to go out in a limb and say A probably pays for actives or at least the food/eating out while there.

if it’s for the children a better option might be a bigger centre parcs house and B chips in a small amount or somewhere cheaper where again everyone goes.

but ultimately it’s up to A how they spend their money.

She's C

B is being very unreasonable and should be happy that A is giving C & family a holiday that they otherwise can't afford.

C.