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To expect some privacy in the bathroom?

202 replies

Crewton · 24/08/2022 09:07

Every time I am in the shower DH comes in. It’s usually to ask me about something I can’t find.

This morning he did it and then left the bathroom door open. PIL are in the guest room and if they’d come out of their bedroom I’d have Been seen stark naked in the shower. I completely lost my shit with him.

We don’t have a lock for safety (toddler can lock herself in but can’t unlock it) but regardless surely a bit of basic respect should apply here.

OP posts:
KettrickenSmiled · 26/08/2022 12:06

YellowTreeHouse · 25/08/2022 17:32

I do think this is weird.

I don’t feel vulnerable/humiliated/upset when my husband sees me naked, showering, walks in on me changing, using the toilet etc.

Why would I? He’s my husband. If I did I would be questioning my relationships

Thanks for your victim blaming @YellowTreeHouse.

If you were ok with being repeatedly punched in the face, would you call OP 'weird' for not liking it?

It's not up to you to inform other people that you find their (entirely reasonable) boundaries "weird". You have no idea what has informed OP's desire for privacy & it's hard to believe how utterly tone deaf your crass commentary is.

Bonheurdupasse · 26/08/2022 12:10

BuildersTeaMaker · 25/08/2022 13:08

This..even if you don’t want this to be about a lock, the lock will prevent him continuing with these behaviours and make him realise you absolutely have boundaries that he will not cross.
atill fit the lock OP… no point wasting money in a hotel etc as hell not learn form that. Hell only learn as he realises how many times he tries to open a locked door and gets the boundary re-enforced. Stop arguing with him. If he gets upset just say you’re upset and he would not respect your boundaries voluntarily

if he takes lock off..the other poster idea about a door wedge is very good. May be even better than a lock actually as if you take it with you when you leave the room hell not know what was preventing him entering.

you might also want to start opening the door whilst he’s having a poo when his parents are there- don’t go in..just walk past and open it and push it back.

This OP

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