To not want this holiday situation

[holidaynightmare]

I'll keep it brief

My husband and I have 2 kids age 7 and 4
We haven't been abroad since before COVID so my little one has never been

It's my husbands 40th and so we thought we'd go away

My best friend is getting divorced - she has 2 kids and doesn't want to go on holiday on her own

She thinks she is coming with us and j keep getting "oh the kids will be so excited" and "I'll have to come over so we can look online together"

I have several issues with this the biggest being I want us as a family to go as a Family not with her and her 2 kids (age 10 and the sulkiest 14 year old on the planet!!)

However don't want to upset her she's had a rough time but I want us to have family time, particularly as it's hubby's 40th

Am I being unreasonable???

Maybe she having an affair with your husband why she so comfortable and assuming she going With you and she divorce you better watch that one

Yes and yes

Question is are you naturally this rude or did you go on a course to learn to be an absolute piece of work and really bitchy or does it come naturally?

I don't think so
unless you on the Mumsnet site probably miles from where we live
Know something I don't know?

Some people

What a bold and intrusive woman! Remind her this is a birthday gift to your husband NOT a vacation rehab for her family. Try not to be concerned about her feelings, because she was certainly not concerned about yours!

You don't owe her and her kids a free vacation, especially when it interferes with your plans for a quiet place because it's for your husband's milestone birthday. Tell her gently but firmly that this vacation is JUST for family.

I'm so sorry, OP. That sounds deeply hurtful. Honestly, despite knowing her for years, I think you're only now starting to see your friend's true colours. This is not how real friends behave.

My hubby is always happy to be scapegoat. Just tell her if he wants a family only holiday after the last few years

Your BF is cheeky for inviting herself and kids along. I hope you’ve managed to tell her but I think you, her and kids could have a couple of days away without your DH?
Good luck!

Quite! And she's actually behaved like this over not getting to come on your dhs birthday holiday that no actual plans have been made for?!

You don’t say..or I have missed…how long u r going for …could she come for maybe the last few days of your holiday with a few days on her own after you have gone back. So u have the first part of your holiday to yourself …not ideal but if she is your best friend ….

Sorry re previous message maybe not ….