To think it's acceptable for my DN to wear a body suit with no Bra?

[Sunshineandrainbow]

I would like some perspective on this please. Niece is 17 wearing an all in one body suit with no Bra on holiday, bra size is 30 a/b. Occasionlly you could see nipple through top.
Is it acceptable for family member to tell her to put a top on over bodysuit to cover up?

omg

I just AS @BorschtBitch (the pervert who asked for a photo)

never posted before until this one

OP is jealous of her niece I think 🤨

I'm a B cup and I haven't worn a bra in about 10 years. I'm nearly 40. Fuck bras. They make me feel sweaty and uncomfortable.

Couldn't care less what anyone thinks.

Are you in Abu Dhabi or something?

It is silly. Men are basically walking around with their pants on on holidays!

Absolutely fine to wear that . Ridiculous policing of a girls clothing

I thought a body suit was tight fitting so you didn't need a bra?

On holiday, no issue. There might be some circumstance where wearing a top or cardigan would be appropriate, but you probably wouldn't be wearing a body suit then in any case.

Men not talking to a woman's face (Boris Johnson when interviewed by Laura Kuennsberg was a blatant example) is the man's unacceptable behaviour, not the woman's problem.

Do you mean they could see an erect nipple or the areola colour and diameter through her top? Because my nipples poke through even padded bras 😐
I think some bodysuits are more covered up than others so need more description or a photo. I think too much unnecessary nudity on holiday or not is vulgar.

ok I will give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are a very very fucked up individual so just pause for a second - you want the OP to sneakily take a photo of her DN’s breasts and upload them on to mumsnet?

I took it to mean a description/photo of the type of bodysuit, like how thin the material is or whatever, rather than one with her niece in it, whether this shows just erect nipple or full breasts as they say with areola.

Personally, I don't care either way, although unfortunately society and it's sexism has made me self-conscious about areola showing through, I don't care if my nipple shape/erect nipples without a bra show. Ah, to have the confidence.

I've been out without a bra today and you could see the outline of my nipples because I got cold. I have DD's so not huge but I'm also 29 so not 17, but I think it's fine.

Does your 17-year-old niece know that you have posted about her on a public forum for the whole world to discuss?

Does your 17-year-old niece know that you have posted about her on a public forum for the whole world to discuss?

Who gives a fuck if it's anonymous? She isn't named.

I'd feel pretty disturbed if you were my aunt. Get your nose out of your nieces business/breasts and focus your efforts inwards, my word it sounds like you need to.

It'll be pretty obvious it's her if it gets picked up and published though, won't it.

It'll be pretty obvious it's her if it gets picked up and published though, won't it.

Nobody who reads it would know it was about her though. She would, and she can take up with OP as sees fit, but as she isn't named it's not like everyone who reads it will go "Oh, this is about Molly Smith"

I can't believe women are posting as if they genuinely believe wearing a bra is magical protection against leery pervy men.

Jeez! I meant a photo of the bodysuit or more description of the bodysuit to which the op replied with it being dark.
Some people are so ready to fight and take out their aggression that anyone who dares have a different view gets their head chopped off. It is possible to have a discussion with people who have different views without calling names or insults, you know? Try it sometime.
And no, nipple exposure from breastfeeding in public is an absolute no issue in my view.

I think some posters are disingenuous. Nobody is suggesting she wears an abaya or leaves her body at home or whatever ridiculousness but there is a world of difference from wearing a t shirt and knee length shorts to hot pants and a braless boob tube. By all means wear what you like, you should rightly still be treated with respect and not harassed but do not be surprised that people may feel uncomfortable around you or you might get catcalled and negative attention. It's the reality of life, unfortunately. You may not mind what others wear, YOU may find total nudity in public ok, but the vast majority of people even in a Western country like the UK are not. People judge us on what we wear it's a fact.

It sends mixed messages not wanting to be objectified but then you are dressed in a way like you are a stripper on fag break. This is not about the OP's 17 year old DD but a wider comment on dressing scantily in public in general as the conversation on this thread has moved on beyond the OP's situation. Hiding this thread so adios.

@BorschtBitch
is there a reason why you decided to sign up to mumsnet or change your name just to post your post asking for a photo?

I couldn't agree more. "what was she wearing?" is just to make women complicit in their own sexual assaults.

I wish I could "like" a comment so I didn't have to type up a whole message and extend the thread further with something impertinent but "a good airing" really made me chuckle thank you 😂

I wish everyone would wear a bra tbh but I know it won't happen so I avert my eyes.

Why on earth do you care whether other women wear bras or not?? Is it just womens bodies you have a problem with or bodies in general?

I don't wear a bra unless I'm at work, I find them uncomfortable. If anyone has a problem with it they can "avert their eyes" as you say.

Who said that???

By all means wear what you like, you should rightly still be treated with respect and not harassed but do not be surprised that people may feel uncomfortable around you or you might get catcalled and negative attention. It's the reality of life, unfortunately.

I've been cat-called and harassed in jeans and a hoodie, in a big winter coat, whilst pushing a baby in a pram, in a very unflattering work uniform. Street harassment doesn't happen because women dress a certain way, it happens because some men enjoy making women feel uncomfortable. That's the "reality of life". If a woman is harassed it has nothing to do with what she's wearing and everything to do with male entitlement. Whilst some men may try to use what a woman was wearing to justify their behaviour (and as seen on this thread plenty of women are willing to enable that nonsense) women shouldn't have to choose their clothing or change their own behaviour to make themselves invisible to men for fear of being harassed.

@neverbeenskiing - those are excellent points.
It doesn't matter what girls and women wear. Nothing stops the perverts.