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To think it's acceptable for my DN to wear a body suit with no Bra?

224 replies

Sunshineandrainbow · 19/08/2022 11:09

I would like some perspective on this please. Niece is 17 wearing an all in one body suit with no Bra on holiday, bra size is 30 a/b. Occasionlly you could see nipple through top.
Is it acceptable for family member to tell her to put a top on over bodysuit to cover up?

OP posts:
Littleduck80 · 19/08/2022 11:59

Misread your post so now realise it's not you that is BU. But my thoughts stand on whoever does have a problem with it.

girlmom21 · 19/08/2022 12:00

Allmarbleslost · 19/08/2022 11:45

If I was a 30 A/B I'd never wear a bra again!

Me either! I'm so jealous of people who can go out without one!

EmeraldShamrock1 · 19/08/2022 12:00

No.

It's her body, her choice, respect her youth.

Why would you think that it was acceptable to body shame her on holidays.

My DN is 19, flat chested, she never wears a bra she has nipple piercings too.
I admire her confidence.

SnakesandKnives · 19/08/2022 12:00

The first comment covered it perfectly

i am glad that nearly everyone agrees.

but it is a bit sad that some people would still even consider this. Even other women

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 19/08/2022 12:01

Abcdefgh1234 · 19/08/2022 11:13

I really hate how teenager dress this day. If i’m in your position i just tell her nicely to put the bra on. But not pushy or anything. Just mention it nicely. Dont expect her to listen to you though.

I'd be telling you nicely to fuck off

I'm 32 and don't wear a bra. See the outline of my nipple? Don't fucking look

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 19/08/2022 12:01

Fucking hell. The patriarchy has got the wifi password again.

No you do NOT tell her to cover up.
Her body, her choice, and I bet she looks great.

I wish I had avoided the traps of bras/shaming/hair removal as a teen and I salute today's youngsters and their body confidence.

Your family member is living in the wrong century, OP.

MajorCarolDanvers · 19/08/2022 12:02

Whats with all the threads telling women how to dress today?

CrimsonCountess · 19/08/2022 12:02

How do you know her bra size? Why are you wanting random strangers on the internet to talk about a 17 year old family members nipples?

Maireas · 19/08/2022 12:03

MajorCarolDanvers · 19/08/2022 12:02

Whats with all the threads telling women how to dress today?

Yes, it's quite the thing today.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 19/08/2022 12:03

This is a bit gross and perfect wank material for a certain type. I've reported

Cinnabomb · 19/08/2022 12:04

Is it just because she’s young/ nubile and therefore more likely to be seen as attractive?

my mum is in her 70s and barely wears a bra, you can always see the outline of her nipples! (To be fair she looks incredible for her age, had a great figure and small breasts) but won’t wear a bra when it’s hot - also because she just gives zero fucks 🤣

T2r4 · 19/08/2022 12:04

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 19/08/2022 12:03

This is a bit gross and perfect wank material for a certain type. I've reported

This. Let's gather around the fireplace and discuss nipples and a 17 year old that op knows the bra size for 🤔
Wholesome.

bloomety · 19/08/2022 12:06

I would be worried about pervy men starting at her. I would love to not wear a bra but I don’t like the thought of men ogling my breasts. It makes me feel unsafe. If it were my daughter/niece I’d be concerned for her too. i don’t know the best thing though to do as you don’t want her to feel unsafe. It’s nice that she is probably unaware of how creepy some men can be.

Chakraleaf · 19/08/2022 12:06

It is only unreasonable if she is asked to cover u0p

Danceswithkids · 19/08/2022 12:08

Feminism really is dead isn't it?

Hide the shape and movement of your bodies ladies or it's all your fault if men leer at you!

I suggest everyone offended by womens nipples wear a bra over their eyes so they can't see such horrors anymore.

Mummyratbag · 19/08/2022 12:08

Urgggh - totally inappropriate to be discussing a child's body on a public forum for a non medical reason. If you have concerns talk to her parents. I have reported.

Viviennemary · 19/08/2022 12:10

Im quite prudish. But even Im hink there is nothing wrong with this .

iklboo · 19/08/2022 12:10

Urgggh - totally inappropriate to be discussing a child's body on a public forum for a non medical reason. If you have concerns talk to her parents. I have reported.

She's 17 not 7.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 19/08/2022 12:14

She's 17 not 7

So fucking what? If the 17 year old had posted it herself then fine, that's her choice. And she's still a child at 17. Talking about teenage girls breasts on an open forum is gross

InsertPunHere · 19/08/2022 12:14

Leave her alone, it's her choice.

Mummyratbag · 19/08/2022 12:16

Yep @sparepantsandtoothbrush - I wouldn't be happy if it was my daughter. Everything about this feels wrong, which is why I have reported it (first time).

Suzy14837 · 19/08/2022 12:16

WTF?
She's 17 with tiny boobs and all covered up.
Mind your own business!

newtb · 19/08/2022 12:19

My GP has told me not to wear a bra for medical reasons. I'm 36FF. Perky I'm not. Do I give a fuck ? No

DarkShade · 19/08/2022 12:20

So OP how come you know your DN's exact bra size?

I am not about to share stories about underage kids having their nipples on show, fyi.

askmenow · 19/08/2022 12:22

ThreeImaginaryBoys · 19/08/2022 12:01

Fucking hell. The patriarchy has got the wifi password again.

No you do NOT tell her to cover up.
Her body, her choice, and I bet she looks great.

I wish I had avoided the traps of bras/shaming/hair removal as a teen and I salute today's youngsters and their body confidence.

Your family member is living in the wrong century, OP.

Exactly dont we get enough of this all our lives....

No just NO! Leave her alone. You can see men's nipples through their shirts or under t shirts??? Do you equate erect mens nipples as tacky? Bodysuit, dark colour not see thru, no problem. Let her be.