It's me, DH, our son and my DSS who is 9. He's a lovely kid this is nothing to do with him personally but his mother.
He was due to go back to his mum's last night after being with us the previous 3 nights. She rang in the day and asked if he could stay another night as she had been invited out to something.
My husband asked me as he had to start work very early this morning (travelling down south so had to set off at 4am).
I said yes on the very strict proviso she comes to get him at 8am as I have a day out planned.
My son is 4 and I've planned a mother / son day out. Booked tickets for something and am really looking forward to just spending some fun downtime with him on our own. He's been poorly recently too and just got better last week so it's a nice treat for him (and me!).
Anyway, DH has just rang me saying she's messaged him saying sorry she won't be here for 8 as she ended up staying out so won't be home yet until about 11.
I'm so angry. I know her partner is at home (they have a baby so he's been in with their DC) and I know DSS has a key if he's still asleep. I'm seriously minded to go and drop him off with her partner. She'll be furious but I literally couldn't give a shit about what she thinks now, she cares about no one else whatsoever. It's always been the same, hers are the only plans that matter.
But I'm not missing my day with my son, I've been looking forward to it and I'm not having him and me miss out because she wanted to go on a piss up last night and didn't get home.
AIBU?
To be absolutely furious about this and drop DSS off at her house anyway?
CottonCandy11 · 15/08/2022 07:04
Am I being unreasonable?
2878 votes. Final results.
POLLSharrowgirl · 15/08/2022 07:21
Everyone more concerned about how to make a point to the feckless ex, than this child’s feelings. Lovely.
NWQM · 15/08/2022 07:29
Going to go against the tide abit here as feel for the 9 year old. Her rudeness to you is disgraceful but it is heartbreaking potentially for him. What does he understand already abouy staying the extra night? Who is going to explain why Mum isnt there when he gets him? Your DH needs to think about this and have words with his ex.
No way I would drop a 9 year old I cared about off like this just to make a point to another adult via a 3rd party. Does it reall ruin your day? It changes it I know but Id be making the best of it.
OddsandSods · 15/08/2022 07:26
He’s 9. He’s a ‘lovely’ kid. He’s being dropped back to his own house which contains his sibling and an adult. Hardly a latchkey kid. He’d probably rather spend a few hours on his x box than hang out with a bunch of toddlers and their mums.
Sharrowgirl · 15/08/2022 07:21
Everyone more concerned about how to make a point to the feckless ex, than this child’s feelings. Lovely.
3amAndImStillAwake · 15/08/2022 07:38
All well and good saying no favours ever again, but that wouldn't stop her pulling this sort of thing after his normal time at OP's. He's expecting to go to his mum's this morning, so that's what I'd do.
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Rightsraptor · 15/08/2022 07:39
No, @Sharrowgirl it is not OP's place to manage the step son's feelings about the adults in his life.
He has 4 significant adults that we know of: his natural parents, his mother's new man and finally OP. In that order. The others do the managing, not OP.
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