To be absolutely furious about this and drop DSS off at her house anyway?

[CottonCandy11]

It's me, DH, our son and my DSS who is 9. He's a lovely kid this is nothing to do with him personally but his mother.

He was due to go back to his mum's last night after being with us the previous 3 nights. She rang in the day and asked if he could stay another night as she had been invited out to something.

My husband asked me as he had to start work very early this morning (travelling down south so had to set off at 4am).

I said yes on the very strict proviso she comes to get him at 8am as I have a day out planned.

My son is 4 and I've planned a mother / son day out. Booked tickets for something and am really looking forward to just spending some fun downtime with him on our own. He's been poorly recently too and just got better last week so it's a nice treat for him (and me!).

Anyway, DH has just rang me saying she's messaged him saying sorry she won't be here for 8 as she ended up staying out so won't be home yet until about 11.

I'm so angry. I know her partner is at home (they have a baby so he's been in with their DC) and I know DSS has a key if he's still asleep. I'm seriously minded to go and drop him off with her partner. She'll be furious but I literally couldn't give a shit about what she thinks now, she cares about no one else whatsoever. It's always been the same, hers are the only plans that matter.

But I'm not missing my day with my son, I've been looking forward to it and I'm not having him and me miss out because she wanted to go on a piss up last night and didn't get home.

I had a key when I was 9.

One 3 occasions my older siblings came to my primary school to get my key off me because they couldn't find their own.

I didn't spend much time alone until I was 11.

Not sure what is so confusing about this point.

And yet... She doesn't comprehend her own words spoken back to her.

You feel my pain.

You broke it down as well as it could possibly be explained. Thank you for trying.

But at this point I believe it is willful ignorance at work, to avoid conceding.

Who is the “she” you mean @KnockedInn ? Because YouSee was responding to Endlessly with her “not sure what is confusing” comment. While you were agreeing with Endless but complaining about Debussy not understanding … I think maybe you thought a certain comment was made by Debussy when it was in fact made by Endless. 🤷‍♀️

You know what, you're right @DuchessDarty. I stand corrected. There's two of them not comprehending. 😂😂

Thank you very much for pointing it out to me. It never occurred to me that someone else wouldn't be able to grasp the meaning of what was being said. And I failed to notice the different usernames, because the content just seemed to fit the same frustrating person.

It's not that hard to admit when you're mistaken about something. So I am truly sorry for the confusion.

@DuchessDarty id give up if I were you. @KnockedInn is not going to get it!

That’s true. Either parents have unreasonable expectations or the step parents haven’t communicated their wishes clearly. Some sort of failure in communication between the adults it seems.

And I failed to notice the different usernames, because the content just seemed to fit the same frustrating person.

Yes easy mistake to make as Endlessly suddenly sounded like Debussy. Weird. But then this whole thread has turned a bit batshit.

Agreed! 🤣🤣🤣