Husband had a private lapdance

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On a stag do. Says he was so drunk he hardly remembers it. He wasn’t the only one but all the others are single.

Not sure how I feel about it tbh.

AIBU

@Discovereads you think the police have the resources for that? I know your naïve but come on!

Sometimes you have to set your own boundaries and say I'm not putting up with your sexual needs upstaging my feelings.

Some women do it much better than others, clearly.

Agree completely.

@Discovereads

I don’t need to look at my boundaries at all. I think you need to perhaps research what happens in countries where vigilantism is rife. It’s not pretty and not something to encourage or celebrate in any form.

Ah but the vigilantism in that thread wasn't as bad as other vigilantism, so by your definition about lap dancing not being as bad as using a prostitute surely it's fine? Or is that rule just for men who want to exploit women?

I’m not naive. You have zero idea about my life.
As I said to you, the OP should have reported the photo to HR. And as I said in the thread you claim to have read my posts on, this is because management abd HR have the latitude to make policy and prohibit things, even things that are not illegal as a condition of employment. HR could have instructed the photo be removed. No police needed to be involved at all for the OP to have a photo free locker room.

But what the OP did was act as if she were the police by destroying his property. Only the police can destroy illegal property. HR could not do this.

OP handled the situation very poorly. She had better choices.

There isn’t one. That’s how you don’t know which ones are trafficked. So that’s the risk you take when you visit a strip club.

You see this is an issue with your thinking not mine as you tend to lump things together and apply a blunt mallet to issues that are more complex and require surgical precision type of thinking.

Do you care about people being sex trafficked?

Yes, i know, said that pages and pages ago. There is risk, but it’s very low.

It’s isn’t very low but regardless, why would anyone take that chance?

@Discovereads would you say it shouldn't have been destroyed if a child was being abused and management were doing nothing?

So no?

@LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL & @Discovereads

ive reported your post for filling up this thread to disagree about another thread!

You should care, it’s a horrible thing.

I’m not naive. You have zero idea about my life.

Yet it was fine for you to question my life and decide I had problems with LTRs, double standards or what? @Discovereads

You give it, when you get it back you need to accept it!

Sometimes you have to set your own boundaries and say I'm not putting up with your sexual needs upstaging my feelings. Some women do it much better than others, clearly.

Some women don’t agree that their feelings are the only thing worth considering in a situation like this. When they take an action like divorce a husband when they have DC. They also consider the feelings of their DC. The hit to their DCs future life chances and opportunities. The risk of living in poverty.

So it’s not a matter of who is “better” but rather how much weight we give to each person, especially the innocent ones, when considering an action that will affect the lives of many, not just ourselves.

Yes it’s fine to both give and not accept. Don’t see an issue with that.

I’d call the police as that is then evidence that can be used to convict. Destroying evidence is covering up a crime and you’d be protecting the perpetrator.

It is very low. If you are that paranoid , better not eat any fruit as they’ve found debt bondage on our fruit farms.

I’d be angry and upset too, OP. It’s an absolute dealbreaker and DP knows full well what I think about these places.

As high as 66%.

www.humanrightspulse.com/mastercontentblog/taking-a-closer-look-into-the-uks-human-trafficking-crisis?format=amp

Yes it’s fine to both give and not accept. Don’t see an issue with that.

Which explains why you think lap dancers should be treated as they are!

They're just their to give you/your partner sexual gratification.

He made a stupid drunken mistake and told you about it, genuinely I wouldn’t care