DH examines his family members

[mercury101]

Is this strange? My DH is a doctor. I am too.

Whenever we go and visit his family, if one of them has a cough or cold they
ask him to bring his stethoscope and to examine them by listening to their chest.

My family have never asked this of me and I don't think ever would. Even if they did, I think I'd ask them to see their own GP anyway.

I find it weird him examining his sister and mother.

AIBU?

If your family member asks you as a doctor to look at a mole,

If they were looking for diagnosis, fair enough to direct to a gp, but I was quite specific that the relative has not asked for an exam and has decided not to go to see the gp.
But if you don't like the mole scenario, pick something that has more to do with your speciality. Would you avoid looking at it because then you'd feel bound to follow it up and it might or might not change the treatment a gp would pursue?

TBH no I can't pick something from my specialty as I am not going to examine random relatives.

As a PP has said 90% (or more) of diagnosis is on history and examination is not often the deciding factor.

In the OP, the DH is getting asked to examine the chests of relatives who are basically the worried well. In that example, they probably don't need examining at all, just told how to cope with a cold.

I have supported relatives with conditions relating to my specialty but I am always v careful as there is nothing more unpleasant than 'the medical relative' trying to be a backseat driver and interfering in a treatment plan.

Quite a simplistic view. Where does treatment start?
Would the doctor's medical insurance cover them if they missed something?
What would happen family relationships if they were perceived to have missed an important sign?
Easier to advise they consult their own doctor.
Who mentioned antibiotics?

😂

I have had several appointments since Covid struck. They were over the phone, but would have converted to face to face if needed. I am of an enquiring mind, so when I ring to request an appointment I never, ever, start with who I am, but rather with why I need an appointment/my medical history. It's only after the appointment is offered that I give my details, which probably does then result in a marker on my file flashing "consultant at local hospital". I've never been comfortable about pulling rank to get special treatment. Though I did cheat in one way...I asked around for the best practice in the area before registering. It's actually a bit uncomfortable that I've helped train several of the GPs, as I do want them to provide the best treatment, not just what I think I need.

Returning to the topic, a friend of mine, whilst a GP trainee, got in considerable trouble with the training scheme when it was discovered that she was treating her step children for things like chest infections. She had come from a country where this was normal. Thank goodness they decided to treat it as a training issue, rather than roping in the GMC, because as a brown Muslim doctor she'd probably have been hung out to dry. (And yes, the GMC processes appear to be significantly racist, which is very frustrating)