Who is in this wrong in this situation re diary

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At my parents' house with a boyfriend of a few months and in my old room. We come across my old diary in which I wrote a ton of hideously cringy things as you do when you're a teenager. Very personal stuff too.
He wanted to read it but I said I'd prefer him not to. He was insisting he read it and wrestling it off me.
In the end he gave up and went to the toilet. Whilst he was out, I ripped out the two most embarrassing pages in my eyes.
He came back and said can I read it now? So I said ok then..he opened it and noticed the 2 ripped out pages and went mad.
Saying, "If you lie about this, it makes me wonder what else you lie about?"
Who was in the wrong here? Surely I have a right to privacy

Well spotted.

You have to wonder what kind of kicks people get from basically encouraging abusive behaviour.

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As if it’s acceptable to demand to know someone’s innermost secrets. Fucking absurd that some people think the boyfriend is in the right here.

That you “understand” a man getting physical with his partner over something apparently small makes your opinion totally worthless.

enjoy your shit stirring!

Op was embarrassed, said no. That should have been the end. Only overreaction was by him.

Overtly female username too.

Condoning abuse isn’t an opinion that can be quietly ignored.

Mumsnet seems to be littered with people with lazy (or non-existent) critical thinking skills, lack of empathy and a sense of entitlement that their opinion should be heard and understood (again, and again, and again) I'm wondering if it's just a few posters name-changing and bored or many posters with similar mentality, I just ignore. I'm getting I look at the name and don't even read if it's a repeat offender. Which is a shame but reflects real life I suppose.

See?

I don’t see you wrong @ReneBumsWombats

So every time you meet a new person, do you have them sit down and take you through every thought they have ever had since the age of six or whatever.

Maybe they didn’t keep a diary, I dare say the majority didn’t, so do you try hypnosis? Truth drugs? Or just keep them chained up for days on end until you have extracted a satisfactory download of every thought they have ever had. Because unless you know every thought they have ever had, it would be a big no from you.

You and OP’s new boyfriend are perhaps very well suited.

isn’t that the point of being with someone? That you tell them everything you feel?

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Some very odd posters on this thread.

No one has the right to read anyone’s diary. It’s a private document. And anyone who wrestles something private out of their partners hands and whines and pushes boundaries is a toxic jerk.

The end.

I don’t feel protective over my upbringing or past but I completely understand why some people would. The fact you don’t is what’s baffling.