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So resentful of my husband it’s going to destroy our marriage

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WaterMeloncholy · 01/08/2022 19:57

I know I’m being unreasonable.

we have 9 month old baby boy, very loved and very wanted. My husband is a fantastic father but the baby is breastfed and has been unwell the last few weeks and will only settle with a breastfeed in the night. Rationally I know my husband can’t help with breastfeeding and if he takes him at night he just screams to the point of being hysterical. But I’m so exhausted. I do all the feeding, as well as working part time and also trying to spend time with the eldest. My husband works long hours and takes him when he’s home so he didn’t get a rest either but he gets a full nights sleep every night. Last night I got 3 hours and had to be up early for work. I just feel so resentful that I honestly hate my husband. I sit in bed and I just want to punch him. Baby will not take a bottle. We have tried and tried and it’s my fault anyway as he was combi fed but when my husband went back to work I got lazy and just breastfed and now he won’t take a bottle. I’m so tired and I have a medical condition that requires a good amount of sleep so I’m just a miserable zombie. I haven’t spoken to my husband all day because I’m just so mad at him. I don’t know what to do.

OP posts:
WaterMeloncholy · 04/08/2022 23:01

So a bit of an update. He’s taken a bottle! I haven’t breastfed for 24 hours now. Last night and tonight he had a bottle in my bed and then I took him through to his room and sat in bed with him, and met him get himself to sleep. It only took about half an hour. Both nights he’s woken around 10, I’ve offered him some water and he’s gone back to sleep. Last night he then slept though till 5:30, had a morning feed then back to sleep till 8:30. So fingers crossed for tonight but I feel like we’re making massive progress!

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ChloeKellyIsAnIcon · 05/08/2022 08:15

Good news OP!

TheKeatingFive · 05/08/2022 08:22

That's great news OP, well done

Minimalme · 05/08/2022 10:28

Fabulous!! My eldest wouldn't take a bottle but suddenly did at 8 months when I went back to work which was a huge relief.

converseandjeans · 05/08/2022 15:35

Water melancholy

That is brilliant news. Well done & hope it gets better from now on. Sometimes things seem never ending. Hope you feel better after some sleep 🙌🏻

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