WIBU to refuse to go out with DH?

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We're on holiday - a walking holiday. DD woke up saying she felt sick and has a grumbly tummy and a headache. We did a walk two days ago when she said towards the end that she was dizzy and that evening had a bit of stomach ache and needed the toilet suddenly.
We didn't do a lot yesterday and had a short walk (3 hours, about 400m up) planned today which she wanted to go on.
Tomorrow we'd planned a bigger walk, (900m to a peak, at least 5 hours) which she also wanted to do.
DH thinks she is making excuses and has no ambition and said that we should leave her here in the hotel and do the bigger walk today with DS. He's now gone off with DS, incredibly annoyed with me for not agreeing to leave her alone in the hotel for the day. She's 10 and says she feels like throwing up His parting shot was if half of us don't want to take part in the holiday we might as well pack up and drive home tomorrow.

YABU - I would have left my 10 year old in the hotel with the tv in these circumstances, you're babying her.
YANBU - don't be daft, you can't leave an I'll child alone in a hotel.

He sounds like a selfish uncaring miserable bastard tbh. Who on earth would leave a ten year old in a hotel room alone for hours on end. I'd let him go home tbh he sounds horrible

Whaat?? YANBU. She's clearly not well!

I reckon if you can get a 10yo child in perfect health to do a 5 hour hike up a mountain you're some sort of wizard /misses point of thread/

Luckily your DD seems to have one good parent.

WTAF! What is wrong with him?! Of course you don't bloody well leave a poorly 10 year old on there own, in a strange place none the less!

I can understand him taking the child who isn't ill, and carrying on with the plans. But having a go at you for being a responsible parent?! He can get to fuck!! I'd be furious!

You definitely did the right thing. Your husband is being a prick. What an awful way to talk about and treat his own child. I hope your girl feels better soon.

Your ‘D’H is a dick.

Your husband sounds like an uncaring bastard. Of course, you should stay with your daughter. To be honest, walking miles every day doesn't sound like a holiday to me, and I'd imagine the kids would be bored bloody stiff. Kids want a pool, beach, a funfair, that kind of thing

No I would not leave the child alone in those circumstances. Your husband has gone with the other child, so there should be no issue really. His attitude to the situation would annoy me though.

This.

He's being ridiculous, of course you shouldn't leave a 10yo alone in a hotel while you all go out for hours!
But he may have a point. Is she actually unwell, or has she just had enough of hiking up hills? My very active 9yo will pretend he's unwell if he doesn't want to do something, even an activity he has previously enjoyed. I know he'd be 'unwell' at some point if we were on a holiday like this.

Holidays should be enjoyable for everyone. If she's ill she needs to rest and be looked after, if she's fed up with what you're doing there's no point in trying to make her. Stay with her and do something she enjoys today, she obviously needs time out.

Here's to hoping that he ends up puking and shitting himself just as he gets to the top of the peak, them.

Is he always a selfish cunt or is cunt mode only reserved for the holidays

What? What on earth?! He is being selfish prick. Sounds like an endurance test rather than a family holiday. When he's single he can plan as many route marches as he likes, unencumbered by sick children and caring adults.

YANBU. Your OH sounds like a controlling jerk. He needs to listen to your daughter now she's old enough to express herself.

When I was 13 I was dragged on a 7 mile hilly hike although I said I didn't feel well. When we got back I more or less collapsed. Turned out I had strep throat and needed antibiotics. I was in bed for a week.

Wow! Is he always this focused on what he wants to do to the exclusion of other people's needs?

Is he your dd's real dad?

In general can he accept that other people might not always want to do the same thing as he does?

It sounds like a nightmare. Your poor daughter.

You are definitely not being unreasonable.

Is your husband usually such a prick?! Sounds like he's picking on her tbh.

How hurtful for your DD to be great this way by him. Not to sympathise with a child who is ill on holiday is very poor parenting. He is behaving as though his plans for the holiday are more important than his DDs needs.

I wouldn’t leave a 10 year old alone all day anywhere, especially not away from home or sick!
Will you be having a relaxing holiday as well or is this the only one? Maybe it’s too much for the child?

Wow, what a keeper you have! I’d walk RUN from the marriage.

The last place anyone with a grumbly tummy should be is half way up a hill. It's sounds stressful for her and miserable.

Given his love for walking I reckon you and the dc go home taking the car..
He can walk.

No way would I leave a 10 year old in a hotel room alone, good grief who would. Anyone could get in, cleaners, hotel staff that you don’t know. We’ve had to change plans on many holidays due to family illnesses, it’s just one of those things. I used to suffer migraines, DH didn’t fully understand how bad they were, but never expected me to do something I couldn’t do.

Yes to all of this!

Was a walking holiday a group decision, or one he decided he wanted to do and you all just had to follow on with?