WIBU to refuse to go out with DH?

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TellMeImNotWrong · 31/07/2022 08:42

We're on holiday - a walking holiday. DD woke up saying she felt sick and has a grumbly tummy and a headache. We did a walk two days ago when she said towards the end that she was dizzy and that evening had a bit of stomach ache and needed the toilet suddenly.
We didn't do a lot yesterday and had a short walk (3 hours, about 400m up) planned today which she wanted to go on.
Tomorrow we'd planned a bigger walk, (900m to a peak, at least 5 hours) which she also wanted to do.
DH thinks she is making excuses and has no ambition and said that we should leave her here in the hotel and do the bigger walk today with DS. He's now gone off with DS, incredibly annoyed with me for not agreeing to leave her alone in the hotel for the day. She's 10 and says she feels like throwing up His parting shot was if half of us don't want to take part in the holiday we might as well pack up and drive home tomorrow.

YABU - I would have left my 10 year old in the hotel with the tv in these circumstances, you're babying her.
YANBU - don't be daft, you can't leave an I'll child alone in a hotel.

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Happyandyouknowit82 · 31/07/2022 19:15

DaughterofDawn · 31/07/2022 18:35

Because between those posts there are reasonable helpful people who have more to offer then "just end it". Btw I've only asked for help twice in the entirety of our relationship. But there are times when randos pitch into a conversation half way through and take something wildly out of context and they're like "omg your partner is a horrible person!" People just like to feel morally superior. That's why they are quick to destroy good things. Then they can walk away and not deal with the fall out but tell themselves they did a good thing.

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Or some just have shitty low standards for themselves and their children.

Happyandyouknowit82 · 31/07/2022 19:17

@DaughterofDawn

you are incredibly happy but

There have been many times I've had people on the internet screaming for me to divorce him.

So you have posted “many times” about your wonderful husband in such a way that posters think the opposite of “wonderful”?

Tigofigo · 31/07/2022 19:19

Is he usually this much of an awful person, or has he just saved it for your holiday?

MeenzAmRhoi · 31/07/2022 19:26

Your latest update...what did I just read??
What a horrible, self-centred nasty man. How dare he make his dd feel worse when she's feeling ill and treat you like a monster for taking care of your child.

Op, this is NOT normal behaviour!

ReneBumsWombats · 31/07/2022 20:01

TellMeImNotWrong · 31/07/2022 15:03

Oh he's furious with me. Back and livid I would call his parenting into question. If I don't want to hike with him I should have said so before we booked the holiday. I can't possibly argue that a child who is old enough to be held criminally responsible before a court is not old enough to stay in a hotel room for the day....

and no, I don't know what he would have done if she'd called to say she'd thrown up and we were at the top of the mountain.

it's not hot and it's not humid for anyone who's asking.

he has thrown a tantrum and conceded he will stay (after telling the DC that he was going to go home and leave us here) but will do his own thing. And never come hiking with me again.

Like I said, the only one who needs to take a hike is him.

Yes, she's old enough to be held responsible if she'd committed an indictable offence. That doesn't mean she's old enough to be left alone, sick, while her family goes up mountains to appease a domestic tyrant. You called his parenting into question? What parenting?

How do you live with this prick? You've been parents for over ten years, how can he still not have worked out that that means not always doing what you want, when you want? Did his life not change when he became a parent?

IfIGoThereWillBeTrouble · 31/07/2022 20:11

“One, two, three, four, United States Marine Corps”
is he an army drill instructor?

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