To want to meet a wealthy man

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Is there anything wrong with it?

I wish I’d made different decisions when younger and considered ambition and drive when looking for a partner.
I met my ex in my teens and was with him until two years ago (I’m 44 now)
I’m single now with a young dd. I live abroad around a very wealthy area and it’s all I see.
I have always worked hard, in a satisfying role that makes a difference, but ultimately doesn’t pay massively well, I adore my job and get by okay.
I keep thinking about going out in my area/going to the local gym, in the hopes of meeting a wealthy man. It’s not just about the finances…it’s the ambition, drive, likely intellect etc
Is this wrong to think like this/want this?

You have a daughter, OP. What would be your reaction if her ambition was to meet a rich man. Not saying that this is your ambition. But teaching the next generation of young girls is really important that women should be independent.

Yes definitely wish I had chosen better. Single parent and constantly broke. Have so many friends who despite not earning much themselves enjoy a great lifestyle and multiple holidays with their kids thanks to well earning husband. And they all seem happy at least from what I can see so naturally I do get envious. Just having someone to share the financial load must be wonderful.

And I have told my dd to choose wisely when it comes to a partner because as well as getting a good job herself you need someone who can offer financial stability because live alone won’t pay the bills. And having no money is a very miserable existence.

Meant to be love alone!!

Surely, as a mum, the most important thing if you start dating again is having a good man who you share values with and who your child will feel comfortable around and get along with? I would be more concerned about those things than anything else...

however a man who had debts/was poor with money, was not generous towards children from previous relationships (or on the flip side was still under the thumb of his ex) or had a sketchy work record would put me off.

What is it they say in Russian?

Stupidity leads to a first marriage, love to a second and convenience to a third.

What a terrible advise to give a daughter.

I’ve been living happily alone all my life and not only I have paid my bills fine but managed to save a very decent amount of money.

And I’ve never had to put up with BS of any sorts from any man.

Sorry to be blunt but how many rich men do you see chosing a 44 year old woman with a child when there are 20 somethings drooling over them?

Rupert Murdoch (married Jerry Hall in her 60s). He was late 80s. I think the secret is to be 20+ years younger. So OP needs to be on the hunt for a billionaire in his 70s.

Jerry Hall also had substantial wealth, no need for Murdoch to worry she was a gold digger.

You mean she needs to meet a man in his 60's.

I believe that old "she's an older single mother so she's doomed" is such a misogynistic bunch of bollocks that has been pushed down the throats of women and internalised. I know many older single mums women who have found themselves a wealthy man. Emmanuel macron (the French president) was a very wealthy man before he became president of France, he married his wife Brigitte who is 25 years older than him, a school teacher with three kids. Ashton Kuscher is a very very wealthy guy who married a woman 15 years older with three kids, Jason Momoa, prince harry etc... So many wealthy men out there who are not looking for a trophy wife to breed with, but maybe someone sane, kind, fun who can be a good companion to them.

Not every wealthy man is looking for a 25 yo bimbo.

No, not at all. I was in a relationship where I was the one with the higher salary and I felt used. As soon as I couldn't give him money each month because my own circumstances changed, he fucked off.

This was a man who said he loved me and wanted to marry me until that point.

It's shit to realise that you are only with someone because they want you to bankroll their life.

Either live within our means, or earn your own money.

This made me laugh

you “know” them, do you?! 😂

I do, fact is I've met many cases (first hand) of couples around me were a wealthy man has wed an older non wealthy lady with a child or two.

I want to meet a wealthy man

Well it worked out well for Meghan.

How do you define wealth? Are you talking mega bucks or just a healthy £80k+ salary?

Sorry, I meant a wealthy man in his 60's marrying a non wealthy lady in her 40's with a child or two.

You haven't got the monopoly on that one.

This my personal experience. I have a fairly good career and wanted a relationship with a man who was equally as solvent.
My DP turns out to be very wealthy but I didn't know this at the time. Like it or not this changes the dynamic. It makes him more attractive for people who know his background.
My special sauce? I do not give a fuck about money. However you can put me in any environment and I will engage with anyone. I'm not trying to sound smug but I bring people together, keep the party and wine flowing and I know that aside from the normal relationship feelings he admires me for my ability to keep an entire room entertained and engaged and vibrant. Yes he probably could have a glamorous twenty or thirty something on his arm but they wouldn't be me.

You mean like Karren Brady..the hypocrite who says women should get on without using their sexuality? Her daughter is doing exactly that. All these morals and principles don't pay the bills. They also don't stop some kids from turning on their virtuous parents, fogetting all those sacrifices, when those kids grow up.

So I’m well past it, being an old 44 year old and a single mum to boot!!

The environment I’m in, I’ve never genuinely seen a wealthy man with a much younger woman, they’re all around a similar age. The women are attractive though, lots with surgery.

That’s fine by me as I wasn’t looking for it. Thanks god it’s 2022 and I don’t have the monopoly of this one ☝️

You sound quite bitter.

Bitter why? (Out of curiosity, sorry 🤣