Dd is now old enough to learn to drive.
I mentioned getting her a provisional licence and a few lessons, putting her on the family car insurance etc, and she was not keen at all. I agree that learning to drive isn't everyone's idea of fun, but it's just something you do, isn't it?
I got the forms and have been reminding dd that we ought to get going with it. She is now pushing back more than I realised. She absolutely DOES NOT want to learn to drive. Her reasons are: Only old people think cars and driving are important. Her generation won't drive. She intends only ever to live in big cities anyway. Her aunty doesn't drive so not everyone has to drive.
I realise I definitely was unreasonable to push blithely onward with this and not acknowledge her genuine objections. No debate about that. I've apologised and we've had a good chat.
BUT... I still think you just have to learn to drive. Who knows what life has in store - being able to drive is non-negotiable. I do have friends and relatives who can't / won't drive and it's a pain. Genuine question: AIBU? I'm starting to doubt myself.
AIBU?
AIBU to want dd to learn to drive?
Flamingoose · 19/07/2022 21:04
Am I being unreasonable?
356 votes. Final results.
POLLXelaM · 19/07/2022 22:27
It's an absolutely essential life skill and I have always lives in big cities. I in London now and I drive A LOT!! People who don't drive and need constant lifts are a total pain. I want my daughter to learn to drive the day she turns of age! I keep telling her, as I'm absolutely sick of giving her and her friends constant lifts.
Flamingoose · 19/07/2022 21:13
Yes, I do a lot of dropping her at work / picking her up / dropping her at friends etc. There are buses but she's not very keen on using them because we're in the suburbs and it's often a 2-bus trip rather than 1. E.g. today she finishes work late morning and I can't pick her up so rather than bus or walk home (40 mins) she's going to wait at a friend's until I finish work and come and get her. Her brother (younger) gets buses or bikes or walks everywhere.
daisypond · 19/07/2022 22:41
Idont understand why so many people dont want to be adults. Driving is a right of passage!
eh? Why on earth would you relate driving with adulthood? It’s unrelated. If anything, it’s childish - needing a car because you can’t manage public transport or walking or cycling. No one needs to be driven around (except by public transport).
Sparklingbrook · 19/07/2022 22:46
Unfortunately not everyone lives somewhere that public transport is frequent or reliable. Or they do at the moment but that might not always be the case. It's not childish to need to drive because of your circumstances.
Flamingoose · 19/07/2022 21:13
Yes, I do a lot of dropping her at work / picking her up / dropping her at friends etc. There are buses but she's not very keen on using them because we're in the suburbs and it's often a 2-bus trip rather than 1. E.g. today she finishes work late morning and I can't pick her up so rather than bus or walk home (40 mins) she's going to wait at a friend's until I finish work and come and get her. Her brother (younger) gets buses or bikes or walks everywhere.
Flamingoose · 19/07/2022 21:13
Yes, I do a lot of dropping her at work / picking her up / dropping her at friends etc. There are buses but she's not very keen on using them because we're in the suburbs and it's often a 2-bus trip rather than 1. E.g. today she finishes work late morning and I can't pick her up so rather than bus or walk home (40 mins) she's going to wait at a friend's until I finish work and come and get her. Her brother (younger) gets buses or bikes or walks everywhere.
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daisypond · 19/07/2022 23:01
No, but it’s not a mark of adulthood either. Being able to drive is not an indication of adulthood. It’s definitely not a rite of passage, as someone said. It’s a marker of wealth perhaps.
Sparklingbrook · 19/07/2022 22:46
Unfortunately not everyone lives somewhere that public transport is frequent or reliable. Or they do at the moment but that might not always be the case. It's not childish to need to drive because of your circumstances.
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