Page 9 | To get married with COVID

Moongazing · 2022-07-14T20:34:35+00:00

I am having a major meltdown. I have tested positive for COVID today as part of workplace testing, I don't have a single symptom. I am getting married on Saturday and having a large wedding with 80 day guests and an additional 100 at night. We have spent around 16k on the wedding and I have contacted my insurance provider and they are telling me I am not covered as current guidance would allow me to go ahead. The venue have also said it is too late to cancel as they have ordered all the food and drinks etc We have saved for years and years to have our wedding the way we want it, I really don't know what to do, if I cancel I will lose so much money and won't be able to have our dream wedding ever

cottagegardenflower · 17/07/2022 11:20

Let the guests and the vicar know. Just in case there are any vulnerable people.

Ontomatopea · 17/07/2022 11:26

cottagegardenflower · 17/07/2022 11:20

Let the guests and the vicar know. Just in case there are any vulnerable people.

Don't do this now if you didn't for yesterday. That would be really mean.

Allezlesbleus · 17/07/2022 11:33

@RealityTV you would save yourself a lot of stressful, angry typing if you took the time to read the OP’s posts

arrogantorwhat37 · 17/07/2022 11:43

Immaterialatthispoint · 14/07/2022 21:35

I’d go. Enjoy your day.

And you are exactly why numbers are increasing again. What a selfish attitude

AuntieMarys · 17/07/2022 11:52

Blimey reality.....you will spontaneously combust if you go on like that

dianthus101 · 17/07/2022 12:00

Moongazing · 15/07/2022 10:52

Update

I have done 3 LFTs today the first one early this morning had a faint line, the next 2 I have done appear negative. We have told all guests and staff/suppliers the situation and nobody has cancelled.

Thanks again for everyone's ideas etc

Sounds like you have immunity at the moment and kicked it off pretty quickly. I hope you had a lovely wedding!

Ifitlooksandsmellslikeit · 17/07/2022 12:08

Amazing that you managed to test negative on day 4 (negative Monday so assume 1st positive would have been Tuesday -day 0) just in time so you get married.
Congratulations.

luckylavender · 17/07/2022 12:10

kitcat15 · 14/07/2022 22:49

I went to a wedding last Friday where the bride had covid ( no symptoms) and the mother and father of the groom were still testing positive for covid
..we were all told before...out of 70 guests just 4 declined to come....I'm still OK as is my partner ...but I'm guessing there were a few more with covid who hadn't even tested
.....personally I'm done with covid now ....so I would definitely come to your wedding if I was a guest

We're all 'done with Covid'. It seems not to be done with this though.

luckylavender · 17/07/2022 12:13

Siameasy · 15/07/2022 07:59

I would never have tested. People who are that worried about Covid are unlikely to go to a wedding. I would keep quiet and carry on as usual. People on here won’t like it but we don’t even have to test any more.

Some jobs, like the OP, have to test. It's quite an ignorant thing to say actually.

RealityTV · 17/07/2022 12:15

Allezlesbleus · 17/07/2022 11:33

@RealityTV you would save yourself a lot of stressful, angry typing if you took the time to read the OP’s posts

I'm neither stressed or angry! COVID is NOTHING to play with and this post should never have been a question! EVER! Not telling people you have COVID is like not telling people you have an STD! Her subsequent comments are good. I have since seen that she intends to tell people, but the question should never have even had to be asked because you do the right thing no matter what! Some people here actually suggested she keep quiet! That's completely disgusting behavior! I make zero apologies for my strongly worded statement because NO ONE should ever even consider not telling everyone! There should be no moral crisis there that even causes a moment of hesitation.

Carpy88999 · 17/07/2022 12:21

JemimaPuddleducksWaddle · 14/07/2022 21:39

You need to let every single guest know and the venue. They can make the choice whether to attend or not.

My family personally wouldn't and neither would a lot of my friends.

Why you aren't mandated to lick the bride?

JemimaPuddleducksWaddle · 17/07/2022 12:46

Carpy88999 · 17/07/2022 12:21

Why you aren't mandated to lick the bride?

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You don't need to lick the bride to catch covid FFS

Also I have had a close friend die from covid and been seriousliy ill with it myself so take your sarcasm elsewhere.

Carpy88999 · 17/07/2022 12:49

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QueSyrahSyrah · 17/07/2022 12:50

Ifitlooksandsmellslikeit · 17/07/2022 12:08

Amazing that you managed to test negative on day 4 (negative Monday so assume 1st positive would have been Tuesday -day 0) just in time so you get married.
Congratulations.

Exactly this happened when I had covid. Negative test Sunday (before I attended an event), Positive test Tuesday morning, positive Wednesday and Thursday, faint positive Friday, clear as a bell Saturday.

dianthus101 · 17/07/2022 14:06

Ifitlooksandsmellslikeit · 17/07/2022 12:08

Amazing that you managed to test negative on day 4 (negative Monday so assume 1st positive would have been Tuesday -day 0) just in time so you get married.
Congratulations.

Not surprising considering no symptoms.

JemimaPuddleducksWaddle · 17/07/2022 15:46

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ODFOD.

Yeah I mean not wanting to end up in hospital again or attending the funeral of someones else through covid, is hysterical, silly me.

No I'm not hysterical. Just wouldn't want covid again.

HTH

saraclara · 17/07/2022 16:29

Ifitlooksandsmellslikeit · 17/07/2022 12:08

Amazing that you managed to test negative on day 4 (negative Monday so assume 1st positive would have been Tuesday -day 0) just in time so you get married.
Congratulations.

We don't know how often OP is required to test at work. It may well be that she'd been positive for days before she knew about it.
My daughter has to test on Monday and Friday. So she could easily be positive on Monday night, but not know it until Friday morning.

Milly2016 · 18/07/2022 09:40

RealityTV · 17/07/2022 00:52

Not telling your guests about your POSITIVE COVID TEST is like not telling someone you are about to have sex with that you have an STD! Why would you EVER want to do that to someone? Think about that diabetic person coming to your wedding, thinking they will be safe who you expose to COVID! They may NOT recover from it all because you wanted to have some "dream wedding"! MY GOD! What possesses people to be so incredibly SELFISH? TELL PEOPLE! Inform them and give them the CHOICE to come! Think about the people who would HATE YOU if someone dear to them DIED because you didn't want to have fewer guests at your wedding! The fact that this is even a DEBATE FOR YOU shows that you aren't thinking clearly! Imagine your mother, father, sister, uncle or aunt passed away from COVID because YOU didn't let them know you are CONTAGIOUS with a disease that has LITERALLY KILLED OVER 6 MILLION PEOPLE! IMAGINE THAT! You can't do that to people! Think about the people at the venue who will be serving you and working at your wedding! What happens to THEIR FAMILIES if they bring home COVID from you? You don't care about them right because it's just about you?

I am so disgusted that you would even have to ask this question! YOU are the reason why I trust NO ONE when it comes to COVID! I am vaccinated, have not attended events, won't attend events, I mask, I glove and wear eye protection STILL and I don't trust ANYONE other than myself! PEOPLE ARE DISHONEST LIARS and they don't care about the scientific data or about others who may get infected down the line! They only care about me, me, me! That's just not right!

LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU ARE COVID POSITIVE!

I agree. To even ask what to do shows a level of moral bankruptcy on the OP's part.
Like I said previously, most would go anyway but give them the choice fgs!
Cannot believe some would advocate lying about this.

Brefugee · 18/07/2022 09:49

I think you should tell everyone and give them the choice to attend or not.

If i went to your wedding and then got covid and found out you'd been positive i would immediately end the friendship.

saraclara · 18/07/2022 09:51

To even ask what to do shows a level of moral bankruptcy on the OP's part.

No it doesn't. OP had just got the test results and was panicking. It's perfectly normal behaviour to react with 'what do I do?' and talk it out somewhere.

Milly2016 · 18/07/2022 10:19

saraclara · 18/07/2022 09:51

To even ask what to do shows a level of moral bankruptcy on the OP's part.

No it doesn't. OP had just got the test results and was panicking. It's perfectly normal behaviour to react with 'what do I do?' and talk it out somewhere.

I disagree.

What she wanted was for people to tell her to keep quiet about it.

There's no asking ffs-you just tell people you have covid and let them decide.

There is a dilemma I admit but the dilemma lies in whether to call the wedding off or not, not outright lying by omission.

Yes that's the - very reasonable- dilemma.

Of course you let people know that you have it, though, it's a no brainer!!!

user1496146479 · 19/07/2022 13:44

RealityTV · 17/07/2022 00:52

Not telling your guests about your POSITIVE COVID TEST is like not telling someone you are about to have sex with that you have an STD! Why would you EVER want to do that to someone? Think about that diabetic person coming to your wedding, thinking they will be safe who you expose to COVID! They may NOT recover from it all because you wanted to have some "dream wedding"! MY GOD! What possesses people to be so incredibly SELFISH? TELL PEOPLE! Inform them and give them the CHOICE to come! Think about the people who would HATE YOU if someone dear to them DIED because you didn't want to have fewer guests at your wedding! The fact that this is even a DEBATE FOR YOU shows that you aren't thinking clearly! Imagine your mother, father, sister, uncle or aunt passed away from COVID because YOU didn't let them know you are CONTAGIOUS with a disease that has LITERALLY KILLED OVER 6 MILLION PEOPLE! IMAGINE THAT! You can't do that to people! Think about the people at the venue who will be serving you and working at your wedding! What happens to THEIR FAMILIES if they bring home COVID from you? You don't care about them right because it's just about you?

I am so disgusted that you would even have to ask this question! YOU are the reason why I trust NO ONE when it comes to COVID! I am vaccinated, have not attended events, won't attend events, I mask, I glove and wear eye protection STILL and I don't trust ANYONE other than myself! PEOPLE ARE DISHONEST LIARS and they don't care about the scientific data or about others who may get infected down the line! They only care about me, me, me! That's just not right!

LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU ARE COVID POSITIVE!

Are the CEV or something?
You seem very over the top!!!!

hesttreat · 19/07/2022 14:52

RealityTV · 17/07/2022 00:52

Not telling your guests about your POSITIVE COVID TEST is like not telling someone you are about to have sex with that you have an STD! Why would you EVER want to do that to someone? Think about that diabetic person coming to your wedding, thinking they will be safe who you expose to COVID! They may NOT recover from it all because you wanted to have some "dream wedding"! MY GOD! What possesses people to be so incredibly SELFISH? TELL PEOPLE! Inform them and give them the CHOICE to come! Think about the people who would HATE YOU if someone dear to them DIED because you didn't want to have fewer guests at your wedding! The fact that this is even a DEBATE FOR YOU shows that you aren't thinking clearly! Imagine your mother, father, sister, uncle or aunt passed away from COVID because YOU didn't let them know you are CONTAGIOUS with a disease that has LITERALLY KILLED OVER 6 MILLION PEOPLE! IMAGINE THAT! You can't do that to people! Think about the people at the venue who will be serving you and working at your wedding! What happens to THEIR FAMILIES if they bring home COVID from you? You don't care about them right because it's just about you?

I am so disgusted that you would even have to ask this question! YOU are the reason why I trust NO ONE when it comes to COVID! I am vaccinated, have not attended events, won't attend events, I mask, I glove and wear eye protection STILL and I don't trust ANYONE other than myself! PEOPLE ARE DISHONEST LIARS and they don't care about the scientific data or about others who may get infected down the line! They only care about me, me, me! That's just not right!

LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU ARE COVID POSITIVE!

Jesus I hope you that rant saved as typing that out with capitals and bold, must be quite time consuming!

You DO know that you DO NOT have to type in CAPITALS or in bold, your message can still be read without either.

You may also want to learn how to filter OPs posts so that you don't need to write your ridiculous diatribe !

By the way TLDR.