To get married with COVID

[Moongazing]

I am having a major meltdown. I have tested positive for COVID today as part of workplace testing, I don't have a single symptom.

I am getting married on Saturday and having a large wedding with 80 day guests and an additional 100 at night. We have spent around 16k on the wedding and I have contacted my insurance provider and they are telling me I am not covered as current guidance would allow me to go ahead. The venue have also said it is too late to cancel as they have ordered all the food and drinks etc

We have saved for years and years to have our wedding the way we want it, I really don't know what to do, if I cancel I will lose so much money and won't be able to have our dream wedding ever

[MeatballMeatball]

Friend tested positive just before his wedding, from stag do so loads of wedding party probably had it too.

he told everyone,they got venue to set up ‘vulnerable’ table near windows for guests who were vulnerable but still wanted to go.lots of ventilation, circulating outside etc. you are lucky with weather so you can go outside! Have a lovely day.

[babyjellyfish]

I would go ahead, OP.

Even if you didn't have Covid, other people at your wedding will be positive without even knowing it.

Everyone knows this, and people who are CEV and can't afford to risk coming into contact with people who have Covid can't afford to risk going to a wedding at the moment.

Just let people know and allow them to make their own minds up.

[catfunk]

How are you feeling today op ?

[Nipplestoyou]

@tiarax

You need to let every single guest know and let them make the decision. Whilst some people are not vulnerable themselves they may care for vulnerable people and it would not be a risk that they are willing to take <3

I think if people were that worried about passing it to people they care for, they wouldn't / shouldn't be going to a wedding (or to work or the cinema or the supermaket etc etc) at the moment - because Covid is everywhere. Even if the bride didn't have it, there's a strong likelihood that three or four others in a party of eighty would be positive and infectious and anyone with a brain would know that.

I have Covid at the moment, caught, I'm almost sure, at a similar function last weekend. I knew it was a risk but I wanted to go - and got unlucky.

[dianthus101]

@Nipplestoyou

I think if people were that worried about passing it to people they care for, they wouldn't / shouldn't be going to a wedding (or to work or the cinema or the supermaket etc etc) at the moment - because Covid is everywhere. Even if the bride didn't have it, there's a strong likelihood that three or four others in a party of eighty would be positive and infectious and anyone with a brain would know that.

I have Covid at the moment, caught, I'm almost sure, at a similar function last weekend. I knew it was a risk but I wanted to go - and got unlucky.

Covid has been incredibly high for months though and people can't stay indoors forever. Close friends and family will want to go to weddings. People should test before going to weddings and inform people if positive so they can stay away from them.

[HuffleWoof]

So a woman posts about going for a meal with Covid and she's the devil incarnate but this poster is getting married and that's cool?

[Ontomatopea]

@HuffleWoof

So a woman posts about going for a meal with Covid and she's the devil incarnate but this poster is getting married and that's cool?

Difference is she knows who will be at her wedding so can contact them all in advance

[Sunnysideup999]

It could be a false positive, esp if a lateral flow test.
re test ?

[Animallover87]

@pinksquash13

Just go ahead and don't even worry about it. I wouldn't tell people as I wouldn't want mass hysteria / swathes of drop outs. The bonus of it being your wedding is presumably you know if anyone is particularly vulnerable. I would tell someone going through cancer treatment for example. People are aware that going to a wedding at the moment will likely expose them to covid as numbers are quite high. Plus you would never have known had it not been through work. Most people aren't testing.

This 100%.

[NewNamePrivacyneeded]

Warn all your guests that you have covid. Any with vulnerable relatives etc can then at least be prepared should they get it from you. They can chose not to attend. However, what about the other people you come into contact with? Do they not matter at all? A big sign - the bride has covid - kiss or hug her at your own risk

[NewNamePrivacyneeded]

"Ontomatopea · Today 09:02
HuffleWoof · Today 08:56
So a woman posts about going for a meal with Covid and she's the devil incarnate but this poster is getting married and that's cool?
Difference is she knows who will be at her wedding so can contact them all in advance"

What about the minister/registrar, the waiting staff, the bar staff, etc etc obviously they don't matter at all. It's difficult but some might be vulnerable or not want to catch and give to others who are and usually people try not to pass it on if they can. Perhaps tell people so at least they all know?

[Ontomatopea]

@NewNamePrivacyneeded

"Ontomatopea · Today 09:02
HuffleWoof · Today 08:56
So a woman posts about going for a meal with Covid and she's the devil incarnate but this poster is getting married and that's cool?
Difference is she knows who will be at her wedding so can contact them all in advance"

What about the minister/registrar, the waiting staff, the bar staff, etc etc obviously they don't matter at all. It's difficult but some might be vulnerable or not want to catch and give to others who are and usually people try not to pass it on if they can. Perhaps tell people so at least they all know?

Yes I mentioned in one of my earlier posts she needs to make sure they all know and are happy to continue too and perhaps offer to pay for PPE

[Ontomatopea]

@Ontomatopea

Yes I mentioned in one of my earlier posts she needs to make sure they all know and are happy to continue too and perhaps offer to pay for PPE

I haven't said they don't matter at all in fact they very much matter and that's why I said she needs to contact them earlier too

[theworldhas]

Just tell everyone the truth - including that the venue won’t allow you to reschedule - and then relax and enjoy your day. You’ll go up in your guest’s estimation for your honesty, regardless of whether they attend or not. In the scheme of things whether X number or Y number of people attend isn’t a big deal.

[Hurstlandshome]

There will be another 4/5 people in the room with covid too, so don't worry about it. Anyone truly vulnerable will be avoiding large gatherings for this reason, no?

Congratulations and have the best time x

[heattreat]

You won't be the only one with covid!

Hope your day is fun, the weather looks good!

[theworldhas]

Unfortunately a lot of organisations and companies - big and small - have now passed on the financial/health risk to the end consumer and their own staff. So their staff must now come into frequent contact with customers with Covid who attend a service because the organisation offers zero in the way of rescheduling or refund in cases of confirmed positive Covid test.

[theworldhas]

@NewNamePrivacyneeded
What about the minister/registrar, the waiting staff, the bar staff, etc etc obviously they don't matter at all. It's difficult but some might be vulnerable or not want to catch and give to others who are and usually people try not to pass it on if they can. Perhaps tell people so at least they all know?

Unless the venue is offering full refund/cancellation in cases of confirmed positive Covid, responsibility is really on the management of the venue.
In this financial climate most people can’t afford to burn hundreds/thousands of pounds. Their policies are putting their staff, and the wider public, at increased risk and they realise this.

[babyjellyfish]

@HuffleWoof

So a woman posts about going for a meal with Covid and she's the devil incarnate but this poster is getting married and that's cool?

Cancelling dinner out doesn't usually cost you 16,000 quid.

You can't honestly expect us to believe you'd just suck that up without complaint.

[roses2]

180 guests. Statistically 36 of them will already have covid. You are no longer legally obliged to stay at home and like another poster said, you will get a lot of drop outs if you tell people. You can't get any money back either.

Ignore the people on here who think you should stay locked up two years post pandemic for an illness that tests don't even seem to pick up these days unless you test 5+ and 10 days in a row. The world needs to move on.

Go, keep quiete (maybe feign covid after the event if you feel really bad) try to relax and just stay away from people who you know are vulnerable.

[MadamCommonOrGarden]

The OP had already said she’s going to inform people!

We're generally not going out but would probably have gone to a wedding.

This - there may be people attending an event as important as a wedding who are otherwise lying very low. Yes, they’ll know they’re taking a risk, but they’re doing it because they support the couple getting married.

[dianthus101]

@roses2

180 guests. Statistically 36 of them will already have covid. You are no longer legally obliged to stay at home and like another poster said, you will get a lot of drop outs if you tell people. You can't get any money back either.

Ignore the people on here who think you should stay locked up two years post pandemic for an illness that tests don't even seem to pick up these days unless you test 5+ and 10 days in a row. The world needs to move on.

Go, keep quiete (maybe feign covid after the event if you feel really bad) try to relax and just stay away from people who you know are vulnerable.

If there are dropouts if people are told it means they don't want to catch it and they may have good reasons! Not giving people the choice if you know you are positive would be incredibly selfish.

[HuffleWoof]

@babyjellyfish as I work with kids who have cancer I beg to differ. All my colleagues at my wedding, putting them at risk to kill our patients? Not a chance

[Icanstillrecallourlastsummer]

Covid is all over the place, and people are not bothering to test. Don't matyr yourself "doing the right thing" when noone else is. There's zero point. Take reasonable precautions and otherwise enjoy your day.

[babyjellyfish]

@HuffleWoof

@babyjellyfish as I work with kids who have cancer I beg to differ. All my colleagues at my wedding, putting them at risk to kill our patients? Not a chance

If you work in such a high risk environment you shouldn't be going to a wedding because clearly some of the guests will have Covid.