To get married with COVID

[Moongazing]

I am having a major meltdown. I have tested positive for COVID today as part of workplace testing, I don't have a single symptom.

I am getting married on Saturday and having a large wedding with 80 day guests and an additional 100 at night. We have spent around 16k on the wedding and I have contacted my insurance provider and they are telling me I am not covered as current guidance would allow me to go ahead. The venue have also said it is too late to cancel as they have ordered all the food and drinks etc

We have saved for years and years to have our wedding the way we want it, I really don't know what to do, if I cancel I will lose so much money and won't be able to have our dream wedding ever

The best of luck, OP. I can't imagine how stressful this must be for you both.

I think if as much as possible can be moved outside, and everyone is told that that's the plan, hopefully you won't get to too many people pulling out.

I do hope that you still have a lovely day.

Go but let people know in case they want to pull out

Sounds sensible. Hope you remain asymptomatic, and enjoy the day. FWIW, I think you’re doing the right thing. Many congratulations to you both in advance!

Best of luck OP

If told there was covid I’d look at my health and what I had planned over the next couple of weeks that could be the impacted by me being ill. available outside area is good

I'd be proper annoyed if not told. Happy to make my own decision

tell everyone and enjoy your day

If you are going ahead please don’t forget to advise your registrars, you don’t know if they are vulnerable and they are likely to be going on to another wedding so could spread it there too. I hope you are not too ill.

Sorry if I have missed it but have you only done one test? If you have no symptoms it may be a false positive. I would do two more tests. If both negative you very probably don't have it. If positive go ahead with the wedding as long as every guest is informed.

I’m glad you’ve got a plan OP and hope you stay well. A slightly different situation, but I was at a wedding recently where they asked everyone to LFD before coming. Quite a few people including close family members of the bride came up positive. The wedding was outside, most of the positive guests didn’t attend but the close family members came masked up and standing well away from everyone.
Of course it wasn’t totally ideal (father of the bride couldn’t walk her down the aisle for example) but it felt like a really good compromise situation.
And I have to say as a guest, I was really grateful they asked people to test so that nobody walked away with covid unexpectedly that night.

@dianthus101

Yes, only done one test and went straight in to panic mode, didn't even consider doing a second test because I wasn't thinking straight. Feel a bit silly for not thinking about that, I'm in bed but will recheck tomorrow morning for peace of mind

I have had 2 false positives on LFTs on the past, had to go straight for a PCR with those and they came back negative

What rubbish timing I’m sorry

yeah let everyone know and moving the venue outside as much as poss- weather looks good for Saturday, not too hot.

if I was your guest, I’d probably avoid hugs and kisses and poss wear a mask but I’d still go.

ps I would have thought guests have mostly already calculated that the chance of catching covid at it is quite high and are coming on that basis

we had a work event in April where we all turned up with a negative lft but three days later about a quarter of us were positive

Good luck OP and I really hope you have a lovely day. I think you’re doing the right thing.

There's a difference between knowing you've got it and not.

Life goes on and I think going about as normal unless you know you have it is the best compromise we have.

I'd go ahead but you really should let people know so they can decide for themselves.

You're taking a chance that some will drop out but how will you feel if you pass it on and someone gets really sick?

So go ahead but inform your guests.

There's no perfect solution to this but I think this is the least worse one.

I think only a few people will drop out, anyway.

False positives will be incredibly rare at the moment because rates are so high in the community.

A positive LFT result followed by a negative PCR does not mean that you don't have Covid.

I think the outdoors advice is based on original covid. I've just been to an outdoor event and in the following days at least 15% of people have tested positive. Good luck whatever you do but don't be lulled into a false sense of security with outside events.

I would do another test

Look at it this way: if your guests were that concerned about covid they wouldn't agree to attend anyway.

BUT you should tell them so it's off your conscience.
You must have a conscience to be even asking.

Telling them is a win win as far as I can see: it's off your conscience, the onus is on them not you and the vast majority will turn up anyway.

You know the solution, tell them!

If anyone is desperate to swerve Covid at present, it's their responsibility to assume that at an event on this scale, they will be exposed to catching it from multiple people.

Those accusing OP of being selfish to continue will of course be willing to cover towards the lost £16,000 that the insurance won't touch? We've spent two years cancelling life to protect others and can not expect people to keep doing it ad infinatum (or at least until LFTs are redundant because of mutations)

OP, stay well and have a fantstic time.

Swerve close contact, do what you can outside and maximise ventilation (which you probably will for the weather anyway)

I would never have tested. People who are that worried about Covid are unlikely to go to a wedding. I would keep quiet and carry on as usual. People on here won’t like it but we don’t even have to test any more.

The OP has to test twice a week for her job, like many of us do. She has said that on this thread already.

Let people decide. For example none of my husband’s family know about a condition he was diagnosed with over lockdown. It makes him clinically vulnerable. Literally no one knows expect me and his mum. If he was to catch covid and he has once before it’s pretty debilitating & we’re going on holiday so I think for him he wouldn’t come if he knew.

Just say you’ve tested and it’s negative. She knew her wedding was coming up. They aren’t actually standing there when you do it. This shit is meant to be done with now. Testing isn’t law any more.

Let everyone know. If my DH got Covid now he wouldn't be able to start his chemo next week. And if I get it, I wouldn't be able to drive him there.
We're generally not going out but would probably have gone to a wedding.

Just say you’ve tested and it’s negative. She knew her wedding was coming up. They aren’t actually standing there when you do it. This shit is meant to be done with now. Testing isn’t law any more.

You do realise that if she's testing for work it's likely she works in an NHS, care or another setting where she works with vulnerable people. Are you genuinely saying she should lie about the test?

If no symptoms, and more than one subsequent lateral flow test are negative it means covid unlikely.

Well I would have cheated the mandatory LFT this week and never known! So I guess I'm a terrible person! Oh no, hang on a minute most the guests wouldn't have mandatory testing and yet statistically 1 in 7 of them will also have covid.

Literally sick to the back teeth now. Just carry on as normal and have a wonderful day.