To get married with COVID

[Moongazing]

I am having a major meltdown. I have tested positive for COVID today as part of workplace testing, I don't have a single symptom.

I am getting married on Saturday and having a large wedding with 80 day guests and an additional 100 at night. We have spent around 16k on the wedding and I have contacted my insurance provider and they are telling me I am not covered as current guidance would allow me to go ahead. The venue have also said it is too late to cancel as they have ordered all the food and drinks etc

We have saved for years and years to have our wedding the way we want it, I really don't know what to do, if I cancel I will lose so much money and won't be able to have our dream wedding ever

[BerryTree1]

Have your wedding. Tell no one.

If it wasn't for your work testing you'd never know. And it's highly likely that 5-10% of your guests will have it without even realising.

There is no legal requirement to test or isolate

Have a fab day!!

P.s. I am an ECV and I'd happily attend.

[Thethingswedoforlove]

You won’t be the only one there with covid. Absolutely guarantee many other people will have it and won’t even know. Go ahead

[Dancingwithhyenas]

It’s literally everywhere at the moment. Anyone who goes to a large gathering should expect to encounter it. So go ahead with the wedding. If people want to not come that’s up to them, but I think most (real life) people would still come unless genuinely vulnerable (or a carer).

[spidersenses]

Go ahead, but only if you've told your wedding guests and the venue. It's mortally wrong not to. You don't know everyone's personal health situations - especially the venue staff. You need to let your make up, hair suppliers know also. You can't start your future married life by not telling people - it would be the ultimate act of selfishness. If people found out later relationships may never be the same again.

[Ginandslippers]

I'd go ahead with my plans. I'd tell anyone ECV or elderly privately so they can make their own choices.

[penonpaper]

Have you had a pcr?

If in lft you may be negative by the weekend?

[dailymailwillrotyoursoul]

Go ahead but please be honest with people.

Really very sorry this happened to you

[PoleFairy]

Go ahead of course! And I don't think you need to tell anyone. Covid is everywhere, especially at the moment. If people are accepting going to a wedding with 180 people then I'm sorry they are accepting there's a good chance they're going to come away with covid. They're already taking the risk whether they know you have it or not.

[TenoringBehind]

Only go ahead if you tell every single guest and staff member who will be working at the venue.

Utterly selfish and irresponsible if you don’t.

[RuthW]

Carry on but tell every person. I wouldn't go to a wedding where there was someone with confirmed covid.

[Figgygal]

Tell all your guests so they can make informed decisions as to whether they attend
Id make sure people weren't hugging me etc it'd be weird keeping everyone at arms length but if that or cancel id go ahead

[Jedsnewstar]

Of course go ahead. Let people know. I am sure most people will go. I would. Chances are they are going to be other positive people that don’t know anyway so those who are seriously worried would have likely already pulled out.

Congratulations by the way.

[Moongazing]

Thanks everyone.

None of the guests would be classed as elderly or clinically vulnrable.

If I didn't do workplace testing I would never have known I had it and would be blissfully unaware. You are all right in that most people are not required to test so chances are there will be more than me there with COVID

I have told my hairdresser and MUA because they will be up close for a long time and they are happy to go ahead and don't want to cancel but will wear their masks and do frequent hand washing.

Just need to decide if I should tell every guest or not, you guys seem a bit split on if I should or not and my head is all over the place with the panic

[Sunshinesusan33]

This is how polarised views surrounding covid are right now. There is another thread running where people are telling the op she is a disgusting human for considering going for a meal with a MIL who has tested positive. Yet here people are telling the bride to go ahead! A wedding is a much larger affair, loads more close contact. I would imagine a much higher likelihood of spreading it in this scenario and to people you know too.

Fwiw I probably wouldn't cancel either, not after spending all that money, but I do think you should make people aware. Vaccinations hopefully will make people feel safer but you still need to give them the choice. So many people are walking around not knowing they have it and if you hadn't had to test you'd be one of them.

[HotHeatDays]

If people are accepting going to a wedding with 180 people then I'm sorry they are accepting there's a good chance they're going to come away with covid. They're already taking the risk whether they know you have it or not.

OP knows she has it. Unless she takes precautions she is putting all guests aswell as all workers at risk

Completely reckless.

[Moongazing]

No just the LFT, we do them on Mondays and Thursdays

[PaddingtonBearStareAgain]

None of the guests would be classed as elderly or clinically vulnrable.

Sorry but you don't know as has been said by others.

Very few people would know I am. I don't go around broadcasting it.

You seriously need to let people know. If we were going and you didn't say and either of us found out later then it would put our friendship seriously at risk to say the least.

[CPandme]

Go ahead but tell every guest/venue/make up etc. Some will be absolutely fine coming. Some will be happy coming but wear a mask or stay for a shorter time.

Others won’t maybe for a variety of reasons- a holiday due, vulnerable relative thry are visiting, that they don’t get sick pay but can’t work with Covid.

Imo taking the risk that you may sit with someone with Covid is different sitting with someone that definitely has it.

Also people generally greet the couple and come to chat , if you start behaving differently or are wearing a mask others will work out why and some will be very upset about not being given an option.

[mirrorballer]

@Moongazing

Thanks everyone.

None of the guests would be classed as elderly or clinically vulnrable.

If I didn't do workplace testing I would never have known I had it and would be blissfully unaware. You are all right in that most people are not required to test so chances are there will be more than me there with COVID

I have told my hairdresser and MUA because they will be up close for a long time and they are happy to go ahead and don't want to cancel but will wear their masks and do frequent hand washing.

Just need to decide if I should tell every guest or not, you guys seem a bit split on if I should or not and my head is all over the place with the panic

Of course you should tell your guests! Anyone saying you shouldn't is pretty awful and selfish tbh!

[JustForThisThread13]

Go ahead. Say nothing. Have a fab day.

[DisappearingGirl]

Oh what rubbish luck. If it was me I'd go ahead but tell everyone. I'd also test on the morning of the wedding and if it's negative you can update people. Then people can make their own decision whether to come or not.

Also, if you don't tell people, how will you stop them wanting to come and give you a hug or talk at close quarters?

I'd also try and have plenty of ventilation - maybe even stand outside to chat if it's nice weather - and possibly wear a mask for most of it.

Good luck whatever you decide!

[AverageJoan]

@JustForThisThread13

Go ahead. Say nothing. Have a fab day.

100% this. Hope you have a great day, OP.

[Hbh17]

Just go ahead, and don't tell anybody.
There is no need to test or isolate.
We will all catch it multiple times and it is a minor illness.
There is no need for any drama whatsoever.
Enjoy your day!

[JemimaPuddleducksWaddle]

@JustForThisThread13

Go ahead. Say nothing. Have a fab day.

Give your guests covid as a wedding favour

[Hiddenvoice]

I would keep testing up to your wedding day. I would personally let all the guests know and leave it up to them if they decide to cancel. I know you say no one is vulnerable but you just don’t know how unwell it can make people so personally I would avoid hugging anyone on the day and would say same for your groom as he might me negative now but can still test positive soon.

Rubbish that this has happened to you, hope you’re alright and can still enjoy your dream day!