… to not expect to have to quarantine like a leper with covid now?

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Neither my partner or I ever got covid as far as we know until now, I was a couple of hours away at a holiday house with friends and was feeling a little peaked so took a test and it’s positive. I told my partner, he was sympathetic and asked if I was ok to drive etc, which I was- drove home without stopping to infect anyone else and he wasn’t home when I arrived- when I looked at my phone I had a message from him saying everything is all set and to let him know when I’ve settled in so he can come back.

Basically he’s fully set up one of the guest bedrooms and is expecting me to properly quarantine with the door closed and to be completely separate from him and to not go anywhere else in the house other than the toilet/shower room on this floor. He’s moved my work desk and computer setup in here (it’s normally in the study downstairs that connects the kitchen and the dining room), made the bed up with fresh linens, stocked me up with snacks, and will be delivering meals. If I need to go outside to the garden “that’s fine” but I need to wear a mask until I’m outside let him know so he can avoid the back stairs and the room I’ll be walking through for 30 minutes after and then the same when I come back in

I’ve been home in my plush prison for a couple of hours now trying to figure out if I want to start a fight over this but- this is crazy, right? Both of us are fully vaxed, no health issues, slim, active, etc. and he has never expressed covid fear before, he stopped wearing masks when the critical mass died down, but suddenly all this? I did ask if this was the new normal if we had a cold or a stomach bug and he says “it’s different”.

We have a 19 yo daughter who lives at home when she’s not at uni but she’s travelling now- she did have covid a few months ago but was at uni so this is the first time it’s been “near” so to speak (we both work at home so it’s been pretty easy to avoid).

Honestly I don’t know how to say this without it sounding like a brag but we have a lot of rooms in this house. Enough that we could easily eat our meals and do our work and avoid getting too close without a huge amount of effort. I’m pretty comfortable in here and I’m almost curious to see how he handles serving all my meals on trays but on the other hand this feels insane and I might just to stay at a nice hotel for a week.

I dunno. Dh and I are in good health etc and it took us nearly a month to fully recover from our recent dose of covid. We felt absolutely shit for quite a while, then the tail end if it dragged on and on. It's really not nice - I think we'd been a bit blasé. Next time one if us gets it, I think we'll be more careful.

Regardless of your feelings about whether you want to quarantine or not, your partner has quite clearly indicated he doesn’t want to risk catching covid and you need to respect that.

DH has Covid, he's sleeping in the spare room but otherwise we're living fairly normally, just not getting too close!

If someone really doesn't want to risk catching it, there's not much you can do.

DH has just given me Covid. I wish we’d had somewhere he could’ve isolated when he got it, but we’ve just moved and are doing the house up, because I’m a week on and still feel absolutely horrendous.

People keep saying it’s “just like a cold”, for some it is but for others it’s really not. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being cautious.

He is only doing what one is supposed to do with Covid. I had Covid after having all vaccinations etc and it took me 3 months to feel normal again. No one should take it too lightly. We have all got a bit slack as you couldn't keep it up but it's best he avoids you as much as possible. I think he is great to go to so much trouble. My dh just moved into the spare room and l stayed in our room for 10 days as requested at that time. This is what everyone l know has been doing. My dd shares a house with 2 girls and stayed in her room for 7 days. It's life with Covid!!

Never heard of ‘a little peaked’ before (missed point)

I admire his organizer skills! Fresh linens!! Meal's prepared!

Slogging movingly desk's!

But I also think it's way ott and Barmey! ..will you keep us updated? I had it and DH didn't catching it. No special measures.

If he doesn’t want to risk catching Covid it would be selfish if you to expose him just because you can’t be arsed to quarantine yourself.

I suppose it depends. It's part of life now but as with all things it's finding a balance. My sister was staying with us and caught it so she did properly quarantine because we have a small baby who has some breathing issues so while we can't avoid it forever we are still cautious. Is he working with/ seeing people who are vulnerable? If he got sick for work right now would it be really bad?

If we didn't have the baby we would probably still have kept our distance, been careful with handwashing and wiping down surfaces but not, stay in your room at all times. That said getting it can still be really nasty, she is young, very healthy and vaxxed up but it really got her, not nice at all. Takes everyone differently. So maybe just enjoy the room service and relaxed week in bed!

The only thing I asked for was wearing a mask if moving around the house and handwashing.

Tbh if someone was willing to wait on me hand and foot so I could chill out like a boss I'd snap their hands off me

hope you feel better soon.

DP is young and healthy and ended up on an inhaler for 6 months after having covid as he couldn’t walk the length of himself and keep a breath. I’d just respect his want not to catch it and enjoy the week chilling out with him bringing you food!

Sounds mad to me.

Definitely no a cold for me.
I have been able to work through the heaviest colds. Not covid because it made me feel so tired a s teary etc

Dh has just finished covid isolation at home. Seemed sensible to us - yes omicron is milder but it’s still not nice and people are still getting long covid.

Dh is now fine thankfully and nobody else in the house got it.

YANBU! If you have plenty of room, there's no reason why you can't co-exist and just keep your distance from each other. I don't see why you need to be imprisoned in one room. If he's so concerned, why doesn't he go and stay in a hotel for a week? Why do you need to be locked up?

A member of my family had Covid last week too but we didn't lock him up! We just didn't get too close and regularly sprayed anti-bac spray around the house and on surfaces etc. Beyond that we lived normally.

I wore a. Fp2 masks going to and from bathroom.

I’m fully vaxxed and no known vulnerabilities, but I’ve had covid for a fortnight and it’s bloody horrible. I don’t think people should be judged for isolating or not, but honestly if you have the chance to spare your partner the illness then do it. I’m sure you’ll both recover fine, but one or both of you could have some nasty symptoms along the way and that’s just worth avoiding.

He sounds great, if only other people were being half as cautious!!

Honestly Op, I’ve not got it and I’ve quarantined myself in the house because far from it being the mild cold we were told Covid would be after vaccinating it’s more like proper flu with the addition of weird symptoms and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone else here at home.

His body his choice. We've just had weeks off work (unable to do anything but wash and feed ourselves) another 2 weeks (having g tested negative) of just about being able to WFH in the day sleep the rest getting better now but still feel exhausted / brain foggy after the slightest exertion. Its understandable anyone not wanting to catch it if it can be avoided. It hit some people hard! Hope you feel better soon x

If he’s so worried then he should lock himself in a room for 7 days and let you crack on with things!

To be clear I won’t just break out and force him to catch my covid, my options are either stay in my cell or go to a hotel if I want to flounce. I am just wondering if anyone else is still doing this level of quarantine in the absence of pre-existing conditions or fragile health or whatever. I honestly thought that was over with and am just surprised that he is on a different page.

Just do it. It’s clearly important to him and you have no way of knowing how I’ll either of you may become. It isn’t as if he is expecting you to live in the outside loo for 2 weeks.

When I had it recently, I spent most of my time in my room because I felt pretty terrible. We all ate outside as a family, me sitting far apart from the others. What your DH is suggesting doesn't sound particularly over the top to me.