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… to not expect to have to quarantine like a leper with covid now?

333 replies

wallpoppy · 12/07/2022 22:41

Neither my partner or I ever got covid as far as we know until now, I was a couple of hours away at a holiday house with friends and was feeling a little peaked so took a test and it’s positive. I told my partner, he was sympathetic and asked if I was ok to drive etc, which I was- drove home without stopping to infect anyone else and he wasn’t home when I arrived- when I looked at my phone I had a message from him saying everything is all set and to let him know when I’ve settled in so he can come back.

Basically he’s fully set up one of the guest bedrooms and is expecting me to properly quarantine with the door closed and to be completely separate from him and to not go anywhere else in the house other than the toilet/shower room on this floor. He’s moved my work desk and computer setup in here (it’s normally in the study downstairs that connects the kitchen and the dining room), made the bed up with fresh linens, stocked me up with snacks, and will be delivering meals. If I need to go outside to the garden “that’s fine” but I need to wear a mask until I’m outside let him know so he can avoid the back stairs and the room I’ll be walking through for 30 minutes after and then the same when I come back in

I’ve been home in my plush prison for a couple of hours now trying to figure out if I want to start a fight over this but- this is crazy, right? Both of us are fully vaxed, no health issues, slim, active, etc. and he has never expressed covid fear before, he stopped wearing masks when the critical mass died down, but suddenly all this? I did ask if this was the new normal if we had a cold or a stomach bug and he says “it’s different”.

We have a 19 yo daughter who lives at home when she’s not at uni but she’s travelling now- she did have covid a few months ago but was at uni so this is the first time it’s been “near” so to speak (we both work at home so it’s been pretty easy to avoid).

Honestly I don’t know how to say this without it sounding like a brag but we have a lot of rooms in this house. Enough that we could easily eat our meals and do our work and avoid getting too close without a huge amount of effort. I’m pretty comfortable in here and I’m almost curious to see how he handles serving all my meals on trays but on the other hand this feels insane and I might just to stay at a nice hotel for a week.

OP posts:
HesterShaw1 · 14/07/2022 17:59

Sitting in the same room for a week and people don't see the issue.

No thanks.

dianthus101 · 14/07/2022 19:16

BiasedBinding · 14/07/2022 06:04

Of course you aren’t. But that doesn’t mean it’s ok for the OP’s partner to decide without consultation what she should do. why couldn’t it have been discussed?

Equally, OP didn't consult him before deciding that he wouldn't mind catching a virus that could potentially make him very sick so that she isn't inconvenienced for a week. It wasn't okay for her to assume that.

dianthus101 · 14/07/2022 19:20

HesterShaw1 · 14/07/2022 17:59

Sitting in the same room for a week and people don't see the issue.

No thanks.

People have been sitting in the same room for a week so that other people in their household don't catch covid throughout the pandemic.

BiasedBinding · 14/07/2022 20:07

dianthus101 · 14/07/2022 19:16

Equally, OP didn't consult him before deciding that he wouldn't mind catching a virus that could potentially make him very sick so that she isn't inconvenienced for a week. It wasn't okay for her to assume that.

Eh? What an odd thing to equate it to. You know that any other scenario this wouldn’t be ok. She told him before she came home that she had covid, she didn’t turn up, kiss him and then tell him.

BiasedBinding · 14/07/2022 20:09

Honestly, I would LOVE the OP’s set up, I was destroyed by the experience of covid isolation with toddlers. But I still don’t think this is ok.

HesterShaw1 · 14/07/2022 20:26

dianthus101 · 14/07/2022 19:20

People have been sitting in the same room for a week so that other people in their household don't catch covid throughout the pandemic.

Well some people have. And in many cases the rest of the household caught covid anyway.

Somethingneedstochange · 14/07/2022 23:08

😂😂😂

Nat6999 · 15/07/2022 01:03

Ask for a pile of magazines & books, several boxes of chocolates & bottles of wine, relax, watch what you want on television & text him a list of housework that must be done.

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