To not want to send my just 14 year old DD on a plane alone

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My DM is going to Spain this autumn for 2 months. She has done this a few times and usually I have gone over alone to visit for a few days or have brought my DC.

This year we have had lots of trips (Covid backlog) and with the DC have been on a 4 night city break with DM and the grandchildren (I paid)

I can’t go to Spain this year as I am short on holidays and have a couple of weddings etc towards the end of the year that require holidays and money.

DM is adamant that I send my DC alone on a flight over to see her. DS is 10 so it’s not even an option as they wouldn’t take him and DD is 14 but I wouldn’t be at all comfortable sending her through an airport alone.
DM is fuming - I am ruining her break, ruining it for DC etc.

She is a very dedicated granny and the DC love her so AIBU for not allowing my DC to travel?

@toomuchlaundry

Interesting on other threads parents would be horrified by someone proposing to leave an 11yo home alone for ages, but on this thread it was perfectly fine to expect them to cope on their own in an airport and plane.

If there’s an inconsistency here - and I’m not sure there is - it’s hypocrisy only if the comments were made by the same people on both threads.

i take it you’ve undertaken some sort of thorough and auditable crosscheck. List the culprits We need to know.

Unless it’s not the same people.

In which case, what’s your point?