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Original poster

Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

386 replies

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:14

My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

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OneRingToRuleThemAll · 07/07/2022 13:16

Is she allowed to download and hand out these vouchers? I would think they are staff perks, for staff.

RampantIvy · 07/07/2022 13:16

I expect they have tightened up the rules about who can have a discount.

dementedpixie · 07/07/2022 13:16

Maybe you should ask for one rather than asking her to be psychic

Original poster
sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:17

Well her partner gives them out to her to use whenever she does anywhere.
They can use 1 every 24 hours

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Original poster
sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:17

@dementedpixie not really her needing to be psychic ...I've told her I'm going

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Vikinga · 07/07/2022 13:18

I would imagine they might be monitored in some way or people could be selling them and all sorts. So just for them to use as gifts or when they take people? Why didn't you ask??

Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic · 07/07/2022 13:18

I think if you were going weekly and expecting it that could be seen as taking the piss but it doesn't sound like you are. As you've helped her alot with your store discount i think it's acceptable to presume she would do the same, one good turn deserves another and all that. Maybe she just didn't think? Or Could it possibly be her DH objecting to her offering her friends the discount? Would you not ask her if she could get you the code to save you some money?

YetAnotherChanger · 07/07/2022 13:20

There’s most likely been a policy change, staff members and immediate family only.
I worked in a hotel chain that was like this, all vouchers were tracked to my staff account upon redemption and there was often random checks.

stuntbubbles · 07/07/2022 13:20

You didn’t ask her, though. It’s a bit uppity to just assume you can say you’re going there and she’ll sort you a voucher.

Did you only book because you thought you’d get a discount or because you actually like it?

QWE96 · 07/07/2022 13:21

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:17

Well her partner gives them out to her to use whenever she does anywhere.
They can use 1 every 24 hours

Maybe they've already used one or given one to someone else. It's not tight that she didn't get you a voucher, it's tight that you're put out by it. Why not just ask?

kweeble · 07/07/2022 13:21

She most likely has to be there for a voucher to be used; you could ask her directly rather than moan

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/07/2022 13:21

Depending on the company policy, it’s very likely this is against it: company perks and discounts are generally for the employee only, or possibly their partner as well. It might not “ cost him anything” to do it but may cost him his job if providing them to all and sundry is against policy.

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/07/2022 13:22

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off

I suspect if you’d been found out doing this it would have been a disciplinary offence.

Marvellousmadness · 07/07/2022 13:22

You sound like a terrible friend...

daisychainsandrainbows · 07/07/2022 13:22

So normally she takes you and brings the voucher herself but this time you're not going with her and still expecting her to produce a voucher for a meal she's not attending?

It's a staff perk and maybe at a push staff members' partners can use them and you've benefited from that previously. On this occasion however if nobody sat at the table has any connection to a staff member they can't just use a staff discount voucher. YABU.

Original poster
sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:23

The vouchers have no name
Just a QR code
There's no way for them to know if it was him,his partner or mr blobby using the voucher

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SunshineAndFizz · 07/07/2022 13:23

Has she ever given you one to use without her being there before?

Bubblebubblebah · 07/07/2022 13:23

Ours were restricted to us and family. Giving it up willy nilly would be a reason for dismissal.

It's entirely different when she is going or when she is not going with you. You are never getting the discount essentially. She is.

Happyplace88 · 07/07/2022 13:23

ComtesseDeSpair · 07/07/2022 13:22

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off

I suspect if you’d been found out doing this it would have been a disciplinary offence.

🙄

AverageJoan · 07/07/2022 13:23

I think YABU, you're not entitled to his work benefit. It's really their digression and as others have said the policy might have changed about who can and can't use it.

I work at the head office for a supermarket and we can't let anyone other than the people in our household use our discount.

Icecreamsodaloda · 07/07/2022 13:23

It maybe limited to the staff or family member to prevent abuse. I don't think she's tight, it's not her vouchers it's her husband's and it's for him to give them out if he's allowed.

est1899 · 07/07/2022 13:23

She's not unreasonable. You are.

worriedatthistime · 07/07/2022 13:23

They may only be able to give to their spouse though and not anyone , same as tesco etc my auntie cannot give me her card to use

Original poster
sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:24

She's gave them to her sister and parents to use ...so she wasn't bothered then

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MandSStoreManager · 07/07/2022 13:24

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:17

Well her partner gives them out to her to use whenever she does anywhere.
They can use 1 every 24 hours

I expect the policy says immediate family only, not immediate family and CF friends.