Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

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My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

Perhaps eat in restaurants within your price range instead of hoping for discount?

Wow, you have a lot of audacity, sounds like you take their generosity for granted, you’re not inviting her but still expect her to help you out? Without even asking her nicely, just assuming and expecting it, by your replies here it definitely sounds like you are a rather entitled person and not the warmest friend. Maybe you should have a think about your behaviour and be grateful for any kindness in future.

So her DH gives them out to her….truly…bit unkind of you to assume she is being tight without knowing reason she hasn’t given you a voucher. My Sons DW has occasionally given me a voucher for her very expensive gym…but she gives them to other friends too and I don’t expect them.

Yes you are being unreasonable!

You gave your friend YOUR discount (cba to read through the comments to see if she asked for it or if it was given willingly and without question by you) but it is not for her to give you her partners discount.

What is wrong with you that you feel automatically entitled to it and furthermore reference the fact that she takes you for birthday meals using the discount while you pay full price for her?

If your friendship comes with such conditions attached such as the monetary value saved on both sides then it validates my belief that people in general are overrated ......

My friend worked at a department store for years and I never asked to use her discount.

Your friend, her spouse and immediate family are probably the only ones authorized to use the voucher/qr code. That's probably why on her birthday, she can't get you a voucher to take her out. Now if you asked your friend to use the voucher for her own birthday and paid her back afterward, that may be ok. She had always used the voucher and paid for the meal when she has been with you. What made you think she could just get a voucher from her partner for a meal when she or her partner is not there? YABU

Why didn't you ask her if she had any vouchers? I agree that it's a bit rubbish that she didn't offer considering the discounts you give her on multiple occasions.

On your next birthday treat meal, say you want to go elsewhere (where she can't get a discount). That you loved where you treated her for her birthday, so you'd like to go too.

EXACTLY 💯! That is what I said, too. Now if OP took her friend with her to their dinner and OP's friend brought voucher with her and OP's friend paid the bill, she may be able to get discount. I don't think OP's friend wants to do that. OP has never been given a voucher, friend has always been the one to use it.

So what happened with BIL? Hopefully he did not get the discount.

My best friends husband works for a company who have a really nice restaurant & deli as part of their company

He gets a very good staff discount. She uses it any time her & I go there. It wouldn't even cross my mind to expect it if she wasn't there.

I think you have a total brass neck

You're missing a trick. Why not sign up to Tastecard. 2-4-1 or 50% off the whole food order for tables of 2-8 people. 90 days free and only £4.99pm after or cancel before the 90 days is up. Doesn't include drinks.

The company may be getting tighter and more watchful about staff using, i.e. ABUSING, the “staff discount.” Your friend may not have said anything because she hopes you won’t ask and embarrass her by her having to tell you, “No.”

If you are any kind of friend, you will be grateful you could get discounts in the past, and continue to be friends WITHOUT expecting this perk, which could cost her her job.