Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

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My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

If she's actually your best friend of 30 years then surely you can ask her, "hey can your OH still get those discount vouchers?"

Then she'll either get the voucher for you or explain why she can't/won't. Then you won't be left wondering. Simples.

*demand (not Sanand!)

Why don't you just ask her for a voucher?

She has returned the favour. Every year for your birthday.

So because you have consistently abused the perks that are offered to you by your employer, by passing on discounts to your friend that she wasn't entitled to, you think that her DH should abuse the perks offered to him by his employer so that you can benefit from a discount that to which you have no entitlement? Why on earth would you think that was reasonable?

Just go to a cheaper restaurant if you don't want to pay those prices.

But it's not the same thing as using your staff discount in store at all. She came in to the shop where you worked and you made sure you served her, so she got your discount. You wouldn't have given her a code to get money off a sofa without you being there. And she has reciprocated over the years by taking you out with her partner's staff discount. That's different from expecting to use it when the member of staff it applies to isn't present. Maybe they turn a blind eye to people sharing the code a little, but a friend of a partner of an employee is hardly immediate family.

OP take it as (cheap) lesson learnt for the future: now you know where you stand in your one-sided friendship.

Just ask her about it. How do all these people have such good friends on here but they can't ask them simple questions?

If you're close enough to pay for birthday meals etc just ask what the deal is.

Ask her directly, if it bothers you that much.

Maybe the company is cracking down on employees abusing the voucher system. These perks are really not meant to be used for employees' friends and families.

OP in your responses you seem to be ignoring all the people who are saying it's probably only for employees and family. there are ways they can check this - for example they can check who pays. People can lose their jobs and even end up in prison for this kind of thing (I know of a similar but different case where that happened). Either ask your friend directly or suck it up. Stop defending your original opinion on here when loads of people are saying YABU.

What's with the eye rolling?

When I worked for a well-known fashion retailer, it was made very clear that staff discount was for the employee only. Management would actually check the clothes sizes purchased using a staff card to make sure there were no discrepancies and I saw people disciplined for passing the discount on to friends and family.

It totally depends on the company's policy.

And yet the friend doesn't want to use the discount on her birthday, when OP is paying.

Regardless of the right or wrong or her giving OP a discount, she is sly.

His details will either be in the QR code or there will be a log of who ordered vouchers on that day. If they wanted to crack down it would be pretty simple to match names of guests to issued vouchers, then query any that didn't match....

There could be any number of reasons why she hasn't given you a voucher. Maybe the rules have been tightened up. Maybe her partner was always flouting the rules and doesn't want to risk getting caught, or caught again if he's already been reprimanded. Maybe today's has already been given to someone else. Maybe she's had a row with her partner and doesn't want to have to ask him a favour right now. Maybe she doesn't want to keep being used as a voucher dispenser by someone who feels that, just because they've done it, they have earned the right to demand the favour is returned.

Don't ask her for a voucher or why she didn't volunteer one; if it wasn't willingly offered then accept the situation with grace, not entitlement.

I'm not sure you understand how qr codes work OP. You've said several times there are no names, no way to trace as it's just a qr code. But a code holds lots of valuable information. Such as the promotion but also potentially who the voucher was issued to, date, time etc

So it absolutely would be traceable to her DH. You also don't know if policies have changed or capped.

You have made a lot of assumptions without doing the obvious things which is to ask your friend

Why didn’t you just ask? There may be a reason why she didn’t offer.

Did you actually ask her for a voucher, OP?

QR codes can be personalised. The amount of data that can be stored on one is huge so it might easily be linked to him. Or he might have been planning on using his code himself that day to go out with mates.

You sound very entitled.

I find it really hard to believe that the staff perk allowed you to use the discount for anyone and everyone. My old work was for me and my partner only. It was a disciplinary offense to misuse the discount. You're being a right CF.

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

If you had been caught doing that you could have found yourself without a job

It is not OPs birthday.

Yes, YABVU.

OP is still a lot better than a lot of people on this thread.

She has been called some absolutely awful things.

I hope she hides this thread.

I think you sound very entitled op. Can you not see that her getting a discount on a meal that she actually attends is a completely different kettle of fish to you going out on a date where she's not invited?

You have not understood my post, Xeno.