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Friend didn't give me a discount ....aibu?

386 replies

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:14

My best friend of over 30 years ...her partner works at a well known chain restaurant that isn't the cheapest.
They get 33% staff discount for that restaurant (any in country) and 40% off other restaurants owned by same company.
To use the discount her partner logs into his staff portal and downloads a voucher which is sent to email and you have 24hours to use it.
You can use a discount voucher every day.
Every time it's my birthday she gets him to get one and he forwards it to her and she gets the 40% off my birthday meal.

Tonight I'm taking my partner to this particular restaurant and when she asked what my plans were I told her -and she didn't offer to get me a discount voucher and just said "have fun"
Now it would cost them nothing to get me a discount voucher

I used to work in a department store and every time she came in I made sure to serve her and she got 30% off
This was off beauty /clothes /homeware even a sofa.
So I've saved her a fortune over the years.

Aibu to think it's a bit tight not getting me a voucher?
These vouchers have no names or anything
Literally just a QR code

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XenoBitch · 07/07/2022 13:38

YABU and a CF. It is not your friend's discount to give out. Her partner may have already given one out, or the rules about them may have been tightened.
The fact you give your friend discounts does not matter... as it is not her discount to give out!

WindsweptNotInteresting · 07/07/2022 13:38

If shes asked you for these discounts over the years, why dont you just ask her?

hulahooper2 · 07/07/2022 13:38

Maybe they are using one or had already offered it to someone else to be used that day

ElspethBoomingHowsen · 07/07/2022 13:39

Go somewhere cheaper then if you can’t afford the other place

LouLou198 · 07/07/2022 13:40

It's not her discount though is it? I honestly wouldn't have given this a second thought. You sound quiet entitled.

Womble75 · 07/07/2022 13:41

Just ask her??

PeanutButterOnToad · 07/07/2022 13:41

Yes, you are a CF.

jalapenita · 07/07/2022 13:42

sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:34

Well for two mains,2 starters and 2 drinks each it's around £120
So not cheap
I'm not a CF
But after years of her asking for discounts ..it would have been nice to have the favour returned.

It's her birthday and I take her for a meal ...my birthday we have to go somewhere she can use the discount vouchers

She asked, you didn't. You just told her, sat and waited for her to offer. She probably purposefully didn't because you was hinting and everyone hates hinters JUST ASK

Jedsnewstar · 07/07/2022 13:42

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daisypond · 07/07/2022 13:42

YABVU

Jedsnewstar · 07/07/2022 13:42

Partners not parents

Meraas · 07/07/2022 13:43

If she’s your best friend, surely you can just ask for a voucher code?

If you think she should offer, then it’s time to reset the relationship, so no more discounts from her where you work.

And don’t take her out for her birthday anymore, or insist you go somewhere she doesn’t get a discount on your birthday.

riotlady · 07/07/2022 13:44

I assume there’s something else going on here cos I can’t even imagine being annoyed at my best friend for something as minor as this? Not giving you a voucher you’ve not even actually asked for?

Bournetilly · 07/07/2022 13:44

‘But after years of her asking for discounts’

She asked you and you gave her the discount. You haven’t asked her you just expect one which is really cheeky and I can see why she hasn’t given it to you. Just ask her if you can use the discount! They might of changed the policy, maybe they can’t use it as much now.

IncompleteSenten · 07/07/2022 13:44

oh, i see. of course! sorry.

Well, ask her for codes then. She asks you so why can't you ask her?

If she refuses then you can always stop giving discount codes to her too if it is annoying you.

detectora · 07/07/2022 13:44

She likely can’t risk losing her job to give you a voucher. It sounds like you’ve benefitted in the past because she’s been with you, but that the discount is to be used by staff and their immediate family only - otherwise where would it end?

It’s been nice of you to give her discounts however I’m assuming that has been within company policy and that you weren’t risking your job for her? And even if it’s not within policy then that’s your choice and she doesn’t have to reciprocate.

You don’t sound like a very nice friend.

Original poster
sofaslofas · 07/07/2022 13:45

Yeah I sound like such a terrible friend saving her hundreds of pounds over the years .....yet she can't return the favour
Yes dreadful

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bg21 · 07/07/2022 13:46

and cf of the day goes to .......🤣🤣

purplecorkheart · 07/07/2022 13:46

I would assume that your friend's partner is allowed to give voucher to a certain number of family members who are named. The voucher I assume can only be used in the presence of one of these named people. Your friend is named but you are not. She is not going to be at the meal with your dp and hence her voucher cannot be used.

purplecorkheart · 07/07/2022 13:47

QR Code will have all the info saved on them

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ShirleyPhallus · 07/07/2022 13:48

So many things on mumsnet would be solved if people just talked to each other

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GoodThinkingMax · 07/07/2022 13:48

YABU. Your birthday is one thing - it’s a gift from her. But you taking your partner out? You want your partner to profit from your friend’s partner’s work perk?

You might be the right one here …

Redglitter · 07/07/2022 13:49

I love these threads

OP - AIBU??
Every single person on the thread - YES!!
OP - No I'm not

😂😂😂