To ask if your DH or DP still goes down on you?

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DH used to when we were dating. Then he tailed off as we became a proper couple. He hasn't done it once since we married 6 years ago.

I've made comments, joked about it, he says sure. Bit it's all funny. And then we have sex and he goes absolutely no where near it. Just wham bam thank you mam.

I could be more direct with my request but I'm fairly sure he actually really isn't keen on it and it makes me feel ashamed that he would need to be persuaded into it.

Not looking for relationship advice (though fuck knows I need it)...just intrigued to find out if it still happens for other women in long term relationships?

Or do all men stop when they think they don't have to anymore?

My ex did so the entirety of our 15-year marriage...and did it well! Sex was the ONLY thing not on the list of reasons we divorced.

I mean oral is fairly gross when you think about it. As is sex to be fair. But most of us still do it.

Hell yes, after 16years. You have a lazy, selfish lover

You need to speak to him. It's like buying something that's been falsely advertised.

Oh dear l suppose its not everyone's cup of tea but at 55 it's still happening (he's 58) though having said that only do it every couple of months as we still live apart ( long story but my choice).
So when we do get together always both ravenous😍

Great to read so many positive responses, there is hope for some of us, but so many guys not into anything but penetration for they own needs sadly, especially in long term relationships.

Um ..in a male going down on a female scenario ,how does the male breathe ? Is it all about a pillow under the female's hips ?

Asking for a friend (rather elderly) obviously !

I would love to no how you are picturing this 😅

My ex was similar to you, very self-serving just wanted a quickie, no notice at all if I enjoyed it. Basically you're there just for his masturbation purposes.
But I'm not the one who left... his selfishness led to him ditch his wife and kids for a much younger, child-free woman as soon as he got the opportunity.
Be wary.
Poor sex isn't an isolated issue.

25 years married, still going strong 🤣😂

Oh Battenburg ,now you've made me feel really stupid!
Help an old person (whoops ,friend I mean ) can
t you !

Been with my dh 17 years and he still does it but I really don’t like it so he doesn’t do it that often, I’ve never enjoyed it with him or anyone else makes me feel a bit 🤢

I found the whole process of sex icky. I couldn’t cope with bodily fluids although I did like all aspects of sex so I would get drunk to lower my inhibitions, which isn’t ideal. I have been celibate for the last 13 years and prefer it that way. I’m being assessed for Autistic Spectrum Disorder. I think that’s why I felt that way.

@peridito I’m sure you can google this is you really want to know otherwise it’s sounding slightly suspect coming on a ‘women’s’ forum asking folk to describe how to perform a sex act.

Not the first time they've asked www.mumsnet.com/talk/sex/4102814-oral-sex-for-a-female-a-question-for-MisterT373-and-other-experts
Long time poster though so I'm guessing genuine

Hmmm, looks like that question has been well and truly answered so no need to keep asking surely?

Well males usually have something called a nose. They can breathe through that

Nope, pervy troll alert. Google it if you need further description.

Guilty as charged ,this is a second time of asking in 2 years . An unsuccessful learner ,neither a perv nor a troll .

@BE22 thank you for guessing I'm genuine .I'm not in my first flush of youth and oral (giving and receiving) was not so common when I was younger .It's something of a shock to discover it now.It's amazing but not plain sailing ,my partner struggles a bit but does have various health issues .

@Trixiefirecracker is twice in two years really = to "keep asking " ? I suppose I could google but frankly (probably v silly) I'm nervous of what sites will attach themselves to my laptop.

@BattenburgDonkey seriously have a look through my posts ,I'm sure they don't fit the bill for a perv or troll

Though it is true that I was also worried about giving oral with my disgusting ,horrendous new upper plate .

He is saying he prefers his hair (if that is indeed what would happen taking testosterone) to intimacy with you. That's pretty appalling really.,

No. We don’t do oral sex.

Yes, even more often now than before.

I really feel for you OP, I couldn't live like this.

I am 44 and my DH is 59. The last year or two he's had some minor health issues so doesn't quite have the stamina he had but he makes absolutely sure that I am totally and utterly satisfied. Just this weekend gone we have had sex daily , with reciprocal oral every time. Typically, I orgasm 3-4 times for every time he does . But if we have sex daily, he can't always finish and he's ok with that as long as I'm happy. He's very very attentive and tbh I'm a bit of a pillow princess and he absolutely spoils me rotten in the bedroom. Always has, and I repay him in the kitchen. Works perfectly for us and we can't WAIT for the kids to leave home in a few years for university 🥰

I could. I hate it. It would really put me off if a man made a big fuss about wanting to do it.