oral sex for a female - a question for MisterT373 and other experts

[peridito]

right in the spirit of nothing seems too [blush ] to ask on here -here we go

first time receiver here ,and I rather suspect receiving from a first time giver ( he's kind of quiet and 'm finding it hard to get him to talk about stuff ) but ..he was very out of breath ! He must have been suffocating ?

Is it to do with positioning ? I was flat on my back and he was ,well I'm not sure really as I wasn't looking ,but I presume face down .

I'm sorry to be pathetic and ask for delicately phrased replies but in my defence I'm 70 and not used to the graphics .

Propping a pillow under your bottom or lying on the bed with your feet on the floor with him kneeling may help with access iyswim?

feet on the floor with him kneeling may help with access iyswim?

aah ,that sounds possible ,thank you ! ( and beautifully phrased ) .

I must say ,this is all pretty exciting . Who knew ...

Is he unused to lying flat on his front while engaging in some sort of activity? Does he hold his breath while concentrating? Perhaps he is breathless with excitement; I know I am always really happy to be there for DW. Pillows and differing approaches as suggested can and do make a difference.

I think the majority of it comes down to, as the above poster mentioned, being on your front and occupied. I'm young and fit and very much still get out of breath, partly due to the focus required and also as a result of the position you need to be in.
Different positions can change this, such as sitting (but leaned back) with the partner kneeling on the floor in front of you, they can also loop their arms underneath the small of your back to lift the hips slightly, but there are many more options if the positions suggested don't quite work for you.

You on a sofa or in a chair, him on his knees in front of you. He can hold the backs of your thighs or you can put them on his shoulders. The alternative lying down is with something like a pillow for support with you leaning on your elbows as stated above.
You can see what is happening and he should be able to breathe. I don't usually get out of breath but I suppose that depends on what you are actually doing there. I could go into more detail but don't really want to here, feel free to PM if you want.
It's a very erotic act for a lot of men, I really enjoy it, it is so intimate.

He has to learn to breathe through his ears :)

No seriously he will get used to the breathing. He's using his mouth so has to breathe through his nose. Like other posters have said lying down can have an effect and propping your backside up by using pillows helps as he can get on his elbows a little.

So other ways that can help........
Lying on your side
On the end of the bed so he's kneeling
On the end of the table and when he's got you to the edge/orgasmed can enter you standing up. (A table ender)
Sit on his face
Side by side 69er
Normal 69er
Standing up so he's on his knees and you can put one of your feet on something to open you up more
Lots of imagination OP. Have fun :)

Thank you all that's very helpful .

Never mind breathing....He should be eating it like it's his final meal.

Kneel on all fours on a chair,the sofa or the end of the bed. He can kneel and pleasure you from behind :)

I would suggest avoiding chairs sofas and other acrobatics. A pillow, maybe 2, under your bum and ask him to approach from a kneeling position. Raise your own knees too.

You will soon discover the real reason men have ears; for positioning! They don’t listen after all (lighthearted, no bashing me please!).

What a great thread @peridito! It’s fabulous to see that you are discovering new things and enjoying them. You often see posts on here where people fear that they will lose their sexual urges as the menopause approaches. Obviously not the case! You seem to be enjoying yourself very much and I love that you ask for delicate explanations. ☺️ You are an inspiration to us all.

Thank you Starlight and Whatliesbeneath - I think it's me that's inspired by all the helpful posts here and elsewhere on this section of MN .

I do wish I'd known some of the stuff when I was young ,fit and starting out .It will probably seem strange to some but the whole concept that sexual activity = intimacy (with it's implications of trust and for me ,love ) as opposed to a rather shameful slating of base appetites is a revelation .

First of all I'd like to offer my hearty congratulations on experiencing oral at the age of 70. It is wonderful that you are able to do this.

Secondly, I write as a man who can have breathing problems if his partner has a fleshy pudendum. My nostrils seem to get closed off and I have to take a break; obviously, this can be a problem if someone is about to have an orgasm. My partner and I therefore always use a pillow (or something like one) under her hips so that her pelvis is tilted upwards for me. Not only does it mean that my nose isn't buried in her flesh, it also allows me to use my tongue on the entrance to her vagina without putting too much stress on my arthritic, old neck.

Best wishes.

Oh gosh xpc I've just realised that my very unselfish ,loving ,giving partner has neck problems .Quite significant ones I think .Mmm.

As for experiencing oral for the first time at 70 ,I'm lost for words really . I'm awfully hesitant about hand action in that area and am convinced that my nether regions resemble the Norwegian coastline . But ...greatly encouraged by posts on here and my lovely partner I thought I'd try . And it was lovely .

....nether regions resemble the Norwegian coastline......

Considering it’s probably one of the most beautiful places on the planet I’d consider yourself lucky

peridito I am glad that my passing remark about an arthritic neck may have helped you (and him). I think that is part of the beauty of forums such as this one: most of us are not in any way experts at anything other than being ourselves, but every so often there is one of those Venn diagram moments when our life overlaps that of someone else's.

I absolutely concur with ifitaintgotnoswing about the Norwegian coastline. I love it there and your story is so uplifting - it deserves to be bottled and sold for Christmas.

Just so long as it is not autographed by Slartibaartfast!

Being classes as an oral expert has made my day- an even better accolade than my Local Expert status on TripAdvisor!

Everything that everyone has said here is correct. As we progress in life we get older and crankier and so we make adjustments to be comfortable. Nothing worse that being uncomfortable when you're trying to pleasure someone.

I have to say that face sitting is underrated and possibly the wrong description- I think face hovering would be better. The man underneath and the woman guiding herself onto mouth and tongue as opposed to sitting on his mouth. I do wonder how many men have died by asphyxiation that way- hell of a way to go though.

The man has to break off for air but it can be a quick gasp and if you include it in tbe rhythm then it is hardly noticeable . I too experienced a lady with a fleshy pudenda (beautifully put) and this created a perfect seal around my mouth and nose which reduced oxygen intake. I didnt give up though, just came up for air!

Perdito - Maybe you could persuade your gentleman to have free dive swimming lessons - the record for free divers holding their breath is about 9 mins. Guess that's a start for foreplay!

I'm liking the Norwegian coastline description. Perhaps those guys amongst us that love visiting the Norwegian coastline are all Vikings :)

I don't know if I should share this but I'm going to - the man in question has said that he doesn't need oxygen as being near me provides all the life support he needs .

Mister you did provide examples of some very specific exercises ( eg eating the filling of a pita bread doner kebab ? ) which might help improbe the giver's technique . But they were a little too much for me to really take on board .

Hello OP....to reiterate the points about being fleshy in your Norwegian coastline (love that saying!!) the pillows help.

Also one you and your man can try is as follows (and apologies for the TMI and possible odd description).

So you lie on your back with your legs apart...not too wide otherwise this can hurt you. Your man gets on his knees (his left knee should be in the bend between your left hip and your body) and then leans forward to take his bodyweight on his left forearm which should be close enough to you to allow him to insert a finger or two inside you (he should be on all fours now with your left thigh near his armpit).

You have to be wet enough for him to insert either one or two fingers inside you, with his palm facing upwards, he should look for the g spot inside you (it's a slightly rough feeling small mound on the top wall of your vagina, you will know when he hits it!) and just apply constant pressure (but not too much, again you can guide him) with either one or two fingers to this point.

With his right arm (palm facing down) he needs to use his index and middle fingers in a V shape either side of your clitoral hood to retract the skin. Again this must be done gently at first so as not to hurt you. Once the hood is retracted, he should lean forward and with his tongue oh so gently flick the end of your clit, making sure there is plenty of saliva...the wetter the better! You can guide him as to the intensity of the pressure both inside you (left fingers) and on your clit (his tongue)as you (hopefully) feel the orgasm building inside you.

You can switch the above to your right hand side if you want to....use the above instructions but just replace left for right for each body part. You stay in the same position though.

I'm sorry this sounds like a bad game of Twister, but if he gets it right it will blow your mind!!

I forgot to add that I have neck problems but the above can be done quite easily without affecting the neck too much

All men brag "i don't need oxygen" when they are giving oral- just make sure your CPR skills are up to date.

As for the exercises here you go

41MisterT373

I have exercises to improve mana oral skills

1. Get a donner kebab and eat the meat and salad without eating the pitta bread

1. Bite the top off a Creme Egg and scoop out the middle with your tongue (Creme Eggs probably be back in stores on Boxing Day so good timing)

1. Hold a Tic-Tac between your teeth and practice flicking it with your tongue.

1. Hold a tissue up to your mouth and practice shaping your tongue round and then punch a hole through the tissue. Once you've mastered the tissue try a tortilla or crepe.

I like to give the instruction of an 'ice cream lick' - you know, when your delicious 99 flake is dripping down the cone, so you give it a cheeky lick, right from the bottom to the top to catch the drips...