To ask if your DH or DP still goes down on you?

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DH used to when we were dating. Then he tailed off as we became a proper couple. He hasn't done it once since we married 6 years ago.

I've made comments, joked about it, he says sure. Bit it's all funny. And then we have sex and he goes absolutely no where near it. Just wham bam thank you mam.

I could be more direct with my request but I'm fairly sure he actually really isn't keen on it and it makes me feel ashamed that he would need to be persuaded into it.

Not looking for relationship advice (though fuck knows I need it)...just intrigued to find out if it still happens for other women in long term relationships?

Or do all men stop when they think they don't have to anymore?

Mine does every time I can't orgasm otherwise. And he does that first.

No. Not every one stops trying when they dont feel they need to

Same as above. DH definitely doesn't need to be persuaded into it and it was the same for other boyfriends I had, i can't imagine them stopping.
Some marriage counseling/ sex therapy may help if your sex life is as 'straightforward' as that and you are not satisfied with it.

My partner has always been happy to go down on me.

It's my DH's favourite thing to do. We've been together 10yrs

Yes my Dh still does,I don’t have to ask.

Yes he does, been together 6 years and have a 1.5yr old.

Do you go down on him?

Yep. It's his favourite part of sex (and often just a thing by itself of a morning - I joke that's 80% of why I married him). But that's because he likes it too - so he's not doing it as a 'maintaining the level of effort', if you get me.

Tricky for you - as you say, he presumably isn't massively keen if he isn't making moves to do so, so you don't want to push him into it. Can you speak to him about it and ask why? If he says he isn't a fan, then you know, and if it's just that he's being lazy or didn't think you were bothered or whatever then you've brought the issue up.

My dh loves it but I guess we lump all men (partners) in the same heap. Seeing as it seems he only did it when he was trying to 'impress' you with his prowess when you were dating - I'd say he's a lazy lover who cares not a jot for your enjoyment. I hope you're not sucking his cock!!

Also Just wham bam thank you mam. doesn't sound very satisfying for you.

If you're not enjoying your sex life generally/it could be better, that's worth speaking to him about anyway.

Yes.
Sometimes his suggestion, sometimes mine.
together 23 years.

Yes sometimes it’s everytime before sex for weeks other times just a few times a month but I never have to ask.

Yes very often, and sometimes just that without sex after. I don't have to ask.

My dh would, as he likes it, but I don't like it, so he doesn't!

He still makes a lot of effort in other ways though. We've been together 22 years and married for 15 years.

Yes
he’s very keen on it

Stop having sex with him, he will soon learn.

Neither DH or I like giving it so we don't and we are "evens".

Are you giving him blow jobs and he’s not returning the favour ?

Your best off just directly asking him, he may just not like doing it.

DH does it pretty much every time still after 12 years, 7 married. It’s the only way I orgasm and he enjoys it so it’s very regular.

DH still offers whenever we're being intimate. I'm really self conscious so say no more often than not but he loves it when I say yes. It's one of his favourite things to do

It's not a regular part of our 'routine' but it still happens every couple of weeks. We both like it, we just like other stuff more so it's not an every time thing. I wouldn't be with someone long term who didn't put as much into my pleasure as I do theirs. We've been together 12 years and it probably was more frequent in years gone by, but we had more sex and no kids then!

Mine loves it and will give me oral even if he doesn't want sex.

Shocked at all the… err.. positive responses! I’m in the same dull boat as the OP.

@Goandplay same here with the suggestions. It's been a very important part of our sex life for 27 years.