To ask if your DH or DP still goes down on you?

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DH used to when we were dating. Then he tailed off as we became a proper couple. He hasn't done it once since we married 6 years ago.

I've made comments, joked about it, he says sure. Bit it's all funny. And then we have sex and he goes absolutely no where near it. Just wham bam thank you mam.

I could be more direct with my request but I'm fairly sure he actually really isn't keen on it and it makes me feel ashamed that he would need to be persuaded into it.

Not looking for relationship advice (though fuck knows I need it)...just intrigued to find out if it still happens for other women in long term relationships?

Or do all men stop when they think they don't have to anymore?

the pleasure you are supposed to get is seeing your partner enjoying it.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches 3/4 times a week, every week?? No I'm not buying it!

Yes he does. Quick question though OP, do you still give him blow jobs? If so maybe you should forget until he reciprocates....

@RubyWinters I don’t work. Our 3 children are in private school so slightly longer days than state school and I have a weekly cleaner. I doubt it’s only unemployed people who have regular sex though!!! Maybe you just got unlucky!!!

Hubby and I have sex 3/4 times a week easily, sometimes more, and we both work and have 3 young children. Our sex life has just got better and better as we got into our 40s.

And how about you don't judge me for thinking licking other people's bodily fluids isn't pleasant? I hate attitudes like this.

Sucks for you that this is beyond anything you can imagine.

@Louise0701 I couldn't care less if you think I got unlucky or not 😂

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My DH was always extremely squeamish about women’s parts.
It made me feel bad,but his latest wife ( He’s been married several times)asked me some pertinent questions, and he’s just the same witn her.
Perhaps find a new lover?
Ok, I jest, but bet a man would, if he wasn’t getting any action!

Oh hell yes!! My DH goes down on me pretty much every time we have sex as i don't orgasm easily from PIV unless I'm on top. The fact he used to do it makes me think that surely he can't hate it or why do it before. I think you need to have an open and honest conversation about it and not just make a comment. I wouldn't be happy if my DH suddenly stopped doing it with no explanation as to why.

@StrychnineInTheSandwiches half the people on here are a bunch of liars so think what you want. Ridiculous 🤣

@RubyWinters it's 3/4 times a week here too.

With my XH it was 6/7. (i was younger then. 20s and 30s)

Bit cringy to loudly announce you think people saying they have a busier sex life than you are lying.

And this is why employers don't want people to 'work from home' 😂

@Louise0701

nice life for you Louise! No wonder you can’t relate when people say they’re too knackered for sex!

49 years... still doing it. Still loving it.

Same here. I hated it.

Same here!

I knew a man like that- He had the marriage anulled because he never had sex at all with his wife who also thought it was “ Dirty”
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Yes. We've been together 25 years. He loves it.

DH goes down on me every time we have sex. Sometimes before and sometimes during. We've been together almost 13 years, married 4 years.

I think it really does depend on if you give him head though OP. It doesn't need to be transactional but there does need to be a willingness both ways I think.

No, but he would if allowed. Anatomy changes after childbirth, put me right off.

Together over 10 years and he does it. Never once had to ask

Back to the OP:

I think DH is entitle to change his mind, but i think he should have initiated a frank conversation to inform/reassure the OP a long time ago.

I would expect/advise any adult in a long term relationship to do the same if their sexual goal posts move.

I once dated a guy who lived for it. He would literally devour me like dessert, for hours if we had time.

I do miss it. But he also had p.e. so he was making up for that a lot of the time.

DP is very lucky in the size department and honestly the best fuck I've ever had, or probably ever will have. So we tend to focus more on the rest of shagging 😁 we do still do a lot of oral both ways though.

I think you might be overestimating any damage or 'adjustment' down there after childbirth unless you had substantial tears or a large bukging prolapse. Not much in childbirth would affect the exterior of your anatomy, or your clitoral area (apart from tears), for that matter.