To ask if your DH or DP still goes down on you?

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DH used to when we were dating. Then he tailed off as we became a proper couple. He hasn't done it once since we married 6 years ago.

I've made comments, joked about it, he says sure. Bit it's all funny. And then we have sex and he goes absolutely no where near it. Just wham bam thank you mam.

I could be more direct with my request but I'm fairly sure he actually really isn't keen on it and it makes me feel ashamed that he would need to be persuaded into it.

Not looking for relationship advice (though fuck knows I need it)...just intrigued to find out if it still happens for other women in long term relationships?

Or do all men stop when they think they don't have to anymore?

i cannot imagine many men refusing a bj can you? why would you.

Every single time for 28 years.

15 years together and it is a feature most times we have sex - on offer every time.

It's his favourite thing to do, together 15 years. Sorry you seem to be getting a shit deal, OP.

dh didnt have one for years, ex wife thought sex was dirty and would never do it.

I'm with you. Hate it too. Op's dh is completely entitled to change his mind as well.

Someone needs to tell interest rates to go down.

Together 21 years and he still does. He is always very keen to.

I don't really give him blow jobs, maybe a couple of times a year. This sounds like a stealth brag, but he is too big - it hurts my jaw for days after.

He would obviously love more blow jobs but doesn't see it as quid-pro-quo.

both of us are happy to give if that’s what the other wants but he does t really like blow jobs, and after 9 sexual partners I’ve never orgasmed through oral. So we do other stuff. He’s magic with his fingers though.

Why don't you put this in the sex topic section?

Mine does but I really think if he's stopped doing it because he doesn't like it then that's fair enough.

I get absolutely nothing from blow jobs 99% of the time so I don't do them apart from very very rarely.

I'd hate the idea of having to do it just because it was expected

My ex partner did it a lot. He wanted to and liked doing it. Mutual enjoyment.

I think you need to ask him outright if he doesn't like doing it. If he doesn't, then I would just leave it and find enjoyment in other ways. It's something that you enjoy but something that maybe he doesn't. There's lots of other ways for him to pleasure you.

I've done it with previous partners and it's been enjoyable but weirdly as I've got older I've got more self conscious, just can't get over worrying about taste/smell enough to enjoy it. Dp is keen I think but I just can't relax enough

No wonder wfh is so popular 😁

Same!

I've been with my DH for 10 years and he still does it without me having to ask.

Every time, before we have sex, it's the only way to ensure I orgasm so he makes sure that happens first. We still don't have sex as often as I'd like, but he always makes the effort when we do. Married 20 years fwiw.

All the time and we've been together over 20 years

I’m amazed at the responses and feel a bit left out. DH has pretty much stopped doing it too, I’m sure if I asked he would but I don’t want to ask for it as I’m not convinced he loves doing it.

All the time still, 12 years together. Was sat on his face just last night 😁

In spite of my user name - no! Neither of us like oral. I find bjs completely grim and he's not madly keen to put his mouth down there either. The thought of even a clean penis in my mouth makes me nauseous. That's not to say it will never ever happen but we're happy the way things are!

I'm the same as op and he’s gets plenty oral, feel your pain op I miss it

I don't necessarily believe in being a petty bitch (sometimes I do), but why are you giving him plenty and getting nothing in return?

I’m surprised as well!