@warofthemonstertrucks I hear quite often that people feel "stuck in a rut." Heck, I also feel stuck at times! But I find that eventually, every rut fills itself and life continues.
My best advice to anyone stuck in a rut (especially when it is caused by going through a divorce or navigating any of life's major obstacles) is to acknowledge the situation, which you have done, and then try to look at it from a new perspective, try to learn something about "you."
A divorce can actually be an enlightening chapter in life...opportunities arise that open a widow and provide insight into the past, present and future.
Divorce is actually a chance to "reboot"...change the things we do not like regarding the kind of person we have become; fix important things in our lives that have somehow become damaged or neglected; evaluate our priorities and re-align with updated goals if needed; experience things we otherwise would never have thought might be possible; and even take some new risks.
Divorce is a game changer. It gives us the chance to "lessen responsibility" to others, which is essentially what this post is addressing and actually "re-choose" the experiences in our lives that are truly important to each of us, as individuals.
Don't think of this phase in your life as being "stuck in a rut." Think of it as your chance to learn about whom you have enabled yourself to become and then find a new balance in your life, putting in check the "stuff" you want to change.
Love and romance will visit you again, but why rush it? First you need to nurture your mind and soul, lessen your responsibility to the world and focus on the one variable you alone can control...YOU!