Age 44-A baby, a masters or a hot bod?

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Been feeling a bit blah recently so need a goal/something to look forward to.
My only dc starts school in September. I have frozen embryos from years of infertility, I could try to see if they work.
I’m not 100% sure I’m not too old, although so wish I had more than one child.
If not this, I could do a masters or get my old bod back (would be a big project as need 2.5-3 stone to lose)

Which should I/would you do?

Baby. If you want to try, this needs to be first.

Body. Easier before you hit peri.

Masters. Can do any time.

Do you want to be parenting a teen in your 60s?

Masters and body. No baby 😂

Why are you talking to a 44 year old mother like she’s 12

Hmm, I probably wouldn’t suggest a baby just because you’re feeling a bit blah!
Have some chocolate. Then apply for your masters and join a gym.

Hot bod, absolutely no contest.

But that's just me 😳

I'm 42, have two kids already and mine are a bit older than yours. But personally, I wouldn't be considering having another baby at your age! Do you really want to go back to shitty nappies and night wakings?

Baby (I’m 43 ). Go for the baby

In your position Baby,Body then masters
me Masters, body baby but I have 3 eldest 21 youngest 12

Masters and hot body at same time. Routine of gym and then studying in the mornings, if you are lucky enough not to work.

No baby for me, my parents were 44 and 45 when they had me, and yes, I think it is too old. I am probably biased though because my parents were quite old fashioned and my mum died in her 50s. I know it works for lots of people, but not for me.

Baby if in your heart of hearts you know that's what you really want.

Otherwise, I'd have thought masters and improving your body could be worked on simultaneously. I'm not sure 'getting your old bod back' is necessarily quite the right aim - we inevitably change - but you might be able to get a stronger one than before (I did, at about 50)

@Cazzawazzawoowootoo At my age? Am I that ancient!

I'm 43 and feel it's too old for a baby but obviously that's just me and I know others feel differently (not saying either is wrong. It's just an opinion!).

I think a lot of women feel like this when their youngest starts school. Personally I'd go for the masters

@LazyJayne Thank you

Baby. Because you have the embryos.

Baby. The rest can come after and you could regret not trying. There’s no time limit on the others.

In your case, I’d say baby for sure.

I’m 40, have 4 kids and would love to do the hot bod thing but I have no time, inclination or desire to stop eating crap. Can barely manage work, kids and the house as it is. Masters- maybe in a few years when the kids don’t need me as much.

I think a baby is probably the thing you’d regret most if you didn’t try.

Do you have a DP to consider? If so do they want another DC?

Masters. I don't know why that would also stop you losing weight/getting fit though.
How great is your urge for a baby?
Having had one after the other started school. I'm not sure it was a great idea (not that both children aren't adored) but the dynamics were definitely tricky.

If age is all that’s putting you off having another baby, I’d go for it. The masters and body can be done later on. I’m 50 with a 4 and 6 year old. I’d say a third of mums in my DC’s classes are over 40. I’m not the oldest.

Gosh, I agree with having the chocolate. I also took the 'hot bod' to mean getting a hot boyfriend . In your shoes I would have some chocolate, go to Spain/Greece/Italy and have a steamy romance with a hot waiter, then come back and do a Master's. Baby? No way! A puppy, maybe, that gets me out walking so I get my hot bod back!

Because a 43 year old mother is wanting strangers on the internet to help decide if she should try for a baby, have a masters or get a hot body.

Sorry, 44.

I’d do masters + body but I don’t like children.

Masters
Body

Baby