Is Best Friend ignoring me 🤔

[Safarigiraffe]

Hi I have a best friend whom I’ve been friends with for years now however lately past 3 months she ignores me as in leaves me on read & will reply back 2-3 days later saying she was busy & when I’ve said to meet up (always me that initiates the meet ups never has been her) she always says she’s working or let’s me down last min on the actual day - could this be the end of our friendship? Not sure how to address this with her as I really do want to bring this to her attention without her thinking I’m being clingy if that makes sense

hey OP. I’m following this thread. Those who are being rude probably have never had a close friend. They won’t understand.

I have known my best friend since I was 11. So that's almost 40+ years. It really should not be this difficult. We fall out, sometimes life gets in the way, you move away, circumstances change, people change. If she ever started being as needy and demanding as the OP. I would have cut contact. Give the friend a chance to breathe for goodness sake. She knows you are there. Constantly texting is not helping. All this angst. OP I mean this kindly and firmly as I honestly don't think you are taking anything in and just leaping on anyone who agrees with you. LEAVE HER TO COME TO YOU. If she doesn't you know where you stand.

Have you heard any more from her?

Nothing more since she told me about her blister this morning

I had the exact same recently, not a best friend, but I thought we were close. I find it really difficult to make friends. Think that's the reason why I let it drag on so long. She constantly let me down or conveniently 'forgot' we were supposed to meet up. At the end of the day I just felt worthless and that I wasn't really worth the effort out of her busy life. She let me down for the last time recently. She was very apologetic, as usual, however it was the last straw for me. I don't hold a grudge, and still chat if we bump into each other, but sometimes it's for the best to cut these people off. For your own self esteem

I’m between minds atm of whether I should block her as she’s not really worthy of my time or should I just delete her number to see if she contacts me after

Did you reply to her message from earlier?

Yes I messaged her to ask her how it happened but she didn’t reply back to me

So I think she’s just messaging me for the sake of messaging me

It would seem like it but perhaps blocking her may not be a good idea as it could burn bridges forever.

She's probably too busy making sure the bunny is safe.

I think from this update she likes having u dangling to be honest, like she wants to worry and ask and then gets joy out of the control of u hanging on. Let go.

So should I just ask her outright of what she thinks of our friendship or not

If it was me, I would just wait and see if she ever responds. Leave her to come running after you and if she really wants you as a friend then she will check you are ok. Friendship is give and take and shouldn't be one sided.

Latenightthoughts111 - so from the control she has then would you advise not to reply to her messages if she is just messaging me just for the sake of it

I think just about every poster in this thread has told you multiple times to stop messaging and bombarding her. I find your behaviour really weird, totally overwhelming and frankly if I was the friend you’d be blocked a long time ago. What adult has time to pander to your constant obsessive needs of her.

NO.

Just leave her be. She wants you to feel like this, you need to step back and leave the friendship in the past. You’ll always have memories of the good times and hopefully the way it has ended will fade in your mind but for your own sake please just stop messaging. I understand you want to be polite and not ignore so if you feel like you absolutely need to then message back if she asks something directly but don’t feel the need to do it immediately! And don’t expect anything back. Wait for her to genuinely be interested in you. Unfortunately I doubt she will be

What would be your answer?

Basically she’s not messaging so I think I have my answer here she’s not interested at all she’s just likes to message for the sake of messaging it’s a big step from us BOTH messaging all the time to virtually nothing from her past 3 months but nothing more I can do now

Yes she don’t have to reply back however to leave me on read with no reply while she’s been socialising with her other friends & messaging them as well isn’t very nice either

OP just LEAVE IT. It’s hurtful I totally get it but for goodness sake get some self respect and let her come to you, if she doesn’t then there’s your answer.

Stop bombarding her with texts or asking if you should. You’re coming across as a bit immature and creepy. Just leave it. If she wants to be your friend she‘ll make the effort, end of!!

would you advise not to reply to her messages if she is just messaging me just for the sake of it

So should I just ask her outright of what she thinks of our friendship or not

Should I ask her how she sees the friendship between us?

If she replies back to say she’s been busy what should I reply to her

should I add anything more or leave it to see what she says

If you're needing this much help from strangers interacting with a supposed best friend then I think it's probably not worth bothering with.

OP, I mean this kindly as you are clearly very kind and anxious about what you’ve done wrong. This situation is becoming ridiculous because she’s hardly giving this any thought and you are really preoccupied with it all and terribly worried. Please stop messaging her and trying to second- guess her thoughts. If she messages you, send a friendly reply. There’s no need to mention giving her space or questioning your friendship etc etc. You’ve made it perfectly clear that you’ve noticed she is seemingly busy and you’re doing the chasing: be in no doubt, she knows and understands this. You won’t bring her closer as a friend if you keep doing more of the thing that she’s clearly not reacting to (texting, asking to meet up etc). Back away and do what you said you would do: leave it to her. Any more is going to keep upsetting you.

She did contact me today to say she knows she’s not been in contact with me but I’m not actually sure how to answer her there