Is this your son?

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Not sure it's an AIBU but could not find a topic to put his under if anyone has any ideas please report and asked to be moved.

Been feeling quite crap for a while with family issues, also have let myself go, but on a bit of weight, skin gone to shit, hardly ever doing make up living in old clothes basically just feeling meh.

Last three weeks had hair done, nails, facials etc bought some new clothes felt loads better about myself, today at work with DH we both have customers, he shouts me over to answer a question, and before I can even reply woman (about 65-70) says awwh your son is adorable (realise she is talking about DH cos I only have girls) My reply he is my husband hers reply did you have him young, I walked away DH explained I am 4 years older, apparently she felt bad her husband was embarassed, knocked all my confidence, wish I had replied is that your grandson about her husband because he was 50's or you should go back to specsavers cos your prescription was wrong!!

No sat here feeling like crap and whilst knowing I was never gonna look like 21-35 again feel like I have been crushed xx

Not an age thing but despite our child looking like a carbon copy of me, Social Services assumed my DH was a single parent and that I was his "fancy piece". Yes, they used those words and apparently hadn't noticed the massive wedding photo of us on the wall either...

Oh yes, DH was mistaken for being my father while I was doing a sporting event (he's 2 years younger than me).

And yet a couple of years later, a woman insulted me (also at a sporting event, tensions sometimes run high) and accused me of "looking as if I was in my seventies"). Ironically, she herself was somewhat grey haired and older than me.

I also had a man once start arguing with me in a car park who suddenly started saying "I bet I'm younger than you as well". I said "Well I'm 43 (which I was then), I don't know what happened to you, you must have had a hard paper round" and he was so shocked he literally shut up. I think for some people, youth is the only thing they have to boast about in their lives, so its very important to them to be under a certain age.

People also say nasty things out of sheer spite, not rationality, like playground bullies who have never grown up.

@5128gap that’s what I’m trying to say. People don’t question it when they get a compliment.
But when something comes across as an insult, there may be reasons other than the person who said it being intentionally nasty

My friend took a wedding photo into work and got loads of compliments about how great her and her Dad looked. It was actually a photo of her with new husband who is 1 year younger. While I agree he looks 10 years older there is no way he looks like her Dad. People are weird.

Another to say people are weird. DH answered the door the other day and the person there asked him if ‘his mother was home’. He’s 40!!

ooh this is a really good point. If I'm in a shop with DSS's and hubby and they want something I will say ' go and ask dad' as if he is my dad too .. and my dad actually calls my mum 'mum' when they are out... LOL
I was on holiday with my ex and the kids years ago on a campsite - I was inside struggling to make something for dinner and a neighbouring kid asked my ex: "ou est la mere?"
My husband delighted in telling me that the kid thought i was his mother... No matter how often i tried to explain he was actually asking "where is THE mother" - not "where is YOUR mother"!!! he still (its been 20 years) says ' remember when that french kid thought I was your son...
fek off ex... no he didnt - your french is just crap LOL

@AchatAVendre I don't know what happened to you, you must have had a hard paper round!

I am definitely going to pull this one out if the bag one day!

Poor you! When I was pregnant with DS1 (I was 35 exDH was 40) ex DH was involved in an accident. I was waiting in A&E and a nurse said to him ‘does your mum want to come in with you?’ 😂

At a McDonald's drive through I got called Sir twice. At first I consoled myself with the fact that I have a slightly husky deep voice, but they actually have cameras and can see you. I still go hot and cold at the thought. I was under the illusion that I was extremely feminine looking. Not anymore! 😆