To think DH will look like an idiot

[Waistcoatworrier]

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My best friend is getting married in a couple of months and I’m chief bridesmaid. DH is attending as a guest. Bride is in ivory, I’m in dusky pink/mauve and the other bridesmaids in a burgundy/maroon colour.

DH always tries too hard to fit in, Says he likes things other people like if he thinks it will make him sound ‘cool’ etc.

He has decided he wants to wear Mens Vest and Tie Set Waistocat Necktie with Pocket Square Cufflinks smile.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08L7XFJZ1/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_F94V0GP535KABDKPZJHQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 this waistcoat. I’ve said it’s something someone in a bridal party would wear. He says he likes it and wants to wear a waistcoat, I’ve said he’ll look ridiculous and should get a normal waistcoat to match/complement his suit. Who is BU?

AIBU - The waistcoat is suitable for a wedding guest
AINBU - The waistcoat will make him look like he’s trying to be part of the bridal party

Oh god no. If he buys it, set it alight.

Sorry, not quite sure how the link ended up in the middle of the text 🙄

Does he play snooker?

Let him crack on, it’s a formal look on a formal occasion. Maybe he likes waistcoats and there are very few occasions on which they can be worn.

No. No. No.

Presumably he is a grown man and can decide for himself what he wants to wear.

If his suit is a sensible colour (dark grey etc) then I think it’s great, especially as you will be in your bridesmaids dress. Let him get on with it.

He'll embarrass himself if he wears that

He will look a bit desperate to be part of the wedding party it's more what a groomsman would wear not the wife of a bridesmaid. You should show him this thread.

It's really cringe

Its a bit wacky

Just to be clear, I have nothing against waistcoats, and he will look lovely in one. Just not ‘that’ one! Or any other shiny wedding party type one. Especially one that doesn’t even fit the colour scheme.

Bloody gorgeous I'd be really happy if my dh not only wore that but put that effort into toning with me. My dh is quite out there clothes wise and I love it he regularly wear waistcoats.

I won’t be stopping him wearing anything, however I also don’t want him to look like a dick, and he wouldn’t want to either but he has little in the way of a fashion sense!

Yes, it's like a female guest wearing a bridesmaid dress. A strong no from me.

But he’s not toning with me. I’m in dusky pink, other bridesmaids in burgundy 🫣

Im nudging towards waistcoat to match his suit and a tie to complement my dress

I don’t happen to like it, but it’s perfectly appropriate. I would try and avoid policing his clothes (I’d hate it if DH policed mine)

I really want to say he should wear what ever the hell he likes

Then I'd be tempted to have an accident day of the wedding with some scissors 🤭

Imagine a man telling a woman what she could wear to a wedding.

That colour isnt anything like maroon or burgundy. I think he'll look lovely.

I’m won’t be stopping him wearing anything, and if he decides to wear it it’s his decision. But would you not want to know if other people would think you looked odd? Especially if you were trying so hard to fit in in the first place?

I really do love the colour ,but it looks like he wants to be in the wedding as Best man /Grooms man rather than a general guest

I’m not telling him what to wear, if he wants to wear it, he will. And yes, I’d want to know if something made me look like a tw*t 🙄

No. Very "bridal party". It's lovely for him to make an effort, but if he wears it, staff at the venue will constantly be asking him questions as if he is the best man, because he's extra fancy but not in the same colours as the rest of the groomsmen, iyswim.

He'll look great

I agree with you, he will look like he's trying (badly) to fit in with the bridal party. I think your only hope is to find him another lovely (less shiny!) waistcoat that he likes better. Happy hunting.