To think DH will look like an idiot

[Waistcoatworrier]

NC as my user name is outing

My best friend is getting married in a couple of months and I’m chief bridesmaid. DH is attending as a guest. Bride is in ivory, I’m in dusky pink/mauve and the other bridesmaids in a burgundy/maroon colour.

DH always tries too hard to fit in, Says he likes things other people like if he thinks it will make him sound ‘cool’ etc.

He has decided he wants to wear Mens Vest and Tie Set Waistocat Necktie with Pocket Square Cufflinks smile.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08L7XFJZ1/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_F94V0GP535KABDKPZJHQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 this waistcoat. I’ve said it’s something someone in a bridal party would wear. He says he likes it and wants to wear a waistcoat, I’ve said he’ll look ridiculous and should get a normal waistcoat to match/complement his suit. Who is BU?

AIBU - The waistcoat is suitable for a wedding guest
AINBU - The waistcoat will make him look like he’s trying to be part of the bridal party

This was going to be my question also!!

😂🤣😂

It looks cheap and people will mistake him for the magician.

Hahaha!!!!!

Same! Especially as he'll be wearing it as part of a suit.

It’s not very nice or tasteful. It’s a bit bridal party ish I agree

Its totally up to him what he wears, obviously

But it is as well to tell him

I think the waistcoat with matching tie is too much.

Not overly keen on the actual waistcoat.

I don’t know. My DH and I were invited to his colleague’s wedding reception. I have a lovely red dress I thought I’d wear. DH said, “Oh - it says on the notes invitation that the bride wears red at an Indian wedding - maybe something else would be better.” I was grateful for his input, which stopped me feeling a bit embarrassed on the day. How is this any different?

Because as far as we know there are no such notes on the invitation the Op has.
And of course if you had read the invitation yourself you would have known anyway & there would have been no need for "input" from your husband!

It wouldn't be my first choice. But if it is just the waistcoat (and not the whole set) with a neutral coloured suit, then I think it is appropriate wedding guest wear. I would encourage high towards something a bit less shiny though!

OP don't be disheartened by all the "you dont like your husband" or "I think it's fine" chat...🙄🙄🙄

Lol the waistcoat is not fine

Definitely the best course of action is "operation find better waistcoat" 😂 A waistcoat in the same material as the suit as another poster suggested is always good. Or a form of tweed also a nice option.

Some other halfs need a gentle nudge in the right direction when it comes to style. If I was with someone who was clearly more stylish than me I'd welcome feedback/advice. My husband welcomes clothes advice from me...because he doesn't particularly have an eye for it!!

I suppose so - but it was “his” invitation and on his email. Just like this is “the OP’s” invitation as it’s her best friend - and she’s probably better placed than anyone to know what will fit and what might be sensitive for the bride and groom.