To think DH will look like an idiot

[Waistcoatworrier]

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My best friend is getting married in a couple of months and I’m chief bridesmaid. DH is attending as a guest. Bride is in ivory, I’m in dusky pink/mauve and the other bridesmaids in a burgundy/maroon colour.

DH always tries too hard to fit in, Says he likes things other people like if he thinks it will make him sound ‘cool’ etc.

He has decided he wants to wear Mens Vest and Tie Set Waistocat Necktie with Pocket Square Cufflinks smile.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08L7XFJZ1/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_F94V0GP535KABDKPZJHQ?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1 this waistcoat. I’ve said it’s something someone in a bridal party would wear. He says he likes it and wants to wear a waistcoat, I’ve said he’ll look ridiculous and should get a normal waistcoat to match/complement his suit. Who is BU?

AIBU - The waistcoat is suitable for a wedding guest
AINBU - The waistcoat will make him look like he’s trying to be part of the bridal party

I would want my DP to tell me if I look like a twat because I'm trying too hard to look like part of the wedding party😅

Omg I'm laughing at that one 🤣

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@HettySunshine, that really made me laugh 😂

It’s more than it’s a cheapo waistcoat and looks it.

But it’s basically fine - I wouldn’t think he wanted to be part of the wedding party (unless there’s a massive drip feed, why would anyone think that?). So if he wants to wear it I would leave him be.,

I like his choice. Says "celebration!", not "Look at me me me!"

I would leave him to it. It's a wedding, everyone plays dress up at a wedding.

God I really couldn’t care less. I have always found wedding etiquette baffling.

you can say you don’t like it, sure
but I would then say what he chooses to wear is up to him and if he’s happy with it - go for it

DH always tries too hard to fit in, Says he likes things other people like if he thinks it will make him sound ‘cool’ etc.

It is just so clear to me that he feels about shit about himself and lacking in confidence. Not that surprising given his wife’s response to the suggestion for a wedding outfit!

Agree with PP who suggested Joe Brown's.

They do some lovely colourful waistcoats that's aren't made of shiny fabric so would look great without being too obviously wedding-y.

Let him wear what he wants

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Well, neither of you are being unreasonable. He can wear whatever he likes, as long as it meets the dress code; but you're right that he will look like he's trying (and failing) to look like he's part of the wedding party. Personally, I think he should buy a waistcoat that matches his suit, as then he'll get more use out of it.

Let him wear it. I personally like it. Straight men are allowed to be flamboyant if they so choose. I bet there'll be plenty of women wearing some corking fascinators on the day. If you're really concerned, you could suggest a plain but co-ordinating tie in the same colour as his suit.

OP I prefer his choice to yours

My husband and his groomsmen all wore a kilt with a specific tartan. My sister was my MOH. Her partner wasn’t one of the groomsmen but instead of wearing his own kilt, he hired one with the same tartan. I thought it was a lovely thing for him to do. I’d reckon about 10 other guests ended up in the same tartan (they wouldn’t have known we chose it for the groom). At any given Scottish wedding it can be difficult to spot the groomsmen as every guy is in a kilt. It doesn’t bother anybody.

If he wants to wear it, why not?

I don’t know. My DH and I were invited to his colleague’s wedding reception. I have a lovely red dress I thought I’d wear. DH said, “Oh - it says on the notes invitation that the bride wears red at an Indian wedding - maybe something else would be better.” I was grateful for his input, which stopped me feeling a bit embarrassed on the day. How is this any different?

This is different. This was a note on the invite, not him saying “don’t wear the red dress you’ll look like an idiot.

Another batshit thread about wedding clothes. He's wearing it with a suit, it will look fine. You might have a point if he wanted to wear it with shorts and sandals but otherwise you don't.

I think it’s awful but he should be entitled to wear what he wants, providing it’s suitable for the occasion.

I love it! Sorry OP!

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It’s hideous OP, nobody would look cool in that.

me too, I think he will look fab and most people at the wedding will know who are in the bridal party so your hubby will just look like he has made an effort, it's just like us ladies wearing a wedding guest outfit after all!

I love it!

I think it's fab!

There must be something wrong with me, because I quite like it..