Me and DH have two young DC (toddler and baby). He also has two older DC from his previous relationship who are 9 & 12.
We fell out the other night about something and I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable.
Basically he was saying we need to spend some time with older DC on our own, take them out somewhere or whatever so, in his words, they still feel special to us.
I get what he's saying about feeling special and he does have 1 on 1 time with them a lot, whenever he wants, I'd never stop him. But from my POV I don't know why this needs to involve me.
My parents help out with our DC (for which I'm very grateful!) whenever we need it and have done quite a lot when me and DH have gone out together or with friends so he's saying to ask them to watch our DC whilst we take out the older ones maybe once every month or so.
I've said no. He's okay to have one on one time whenever he wants but I'm not shipping my children off so I can join. I don't see the need. Apparently I don't show them any focus anymore since having our DC... what does he want from me? I'm perfectly nice and get on with both of them really well but I don't think we need loads of one on one time or to make a big fuss about them being special to me.
They don't live with us 24/7 they have a very involved mum so not like they need that from me.
Quite happy to go out as a family but don't see why I need to join these special 1 to 1 trips. AIBU?
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Loco323 · 09/05/2022 15:20
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Am I being unreasonable?
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