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Mum slapped me

298 replies

Ohdearrr · 30/04/2022 18:55

i don’t even know why I’m writing this but I just need to get it out and rant. I have my own home but I’ve been at my parents for a bit whilst they have been away watering their plants, putting their bins out etc. I left a bag of my DDs toy in their porch that they have at their house as I want to sort them out for charity, as some of them she has outgrown.

They came back today. My mum was annoyed that I’d left the bag of toys in the porch. She said ‘you could have sorted them instead of being sat on your arse’ I got really annoyed at this and said I’ve been fucking helping out putting your bins out etc. She then slapped me straight in the face saying don’t you swear at me in my face. I’m so cross. I’m 26 year old. Don’t even know what to think about this.

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Ohdearrr · 30/04/2022 18:57

it actually was hard and hurt too.

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muppamup · 30/04/2022 18:57

sounds awful OP. Has she got form for this kind of thing?

Original poster
Ohdearrr · 30/04/2022 18:57

@muppamup she’s never done this before!

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vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2022 18:58

HmmI would never swear at my mother.

Discovereads · 30/04/2022 18:59

You could report her to the police as that is assault/domestic violence. I’d be tempted to do so just to see her hauled off in handcuffs and get a talking to a pit how assault is terribly wrong. She had no right to slap you whatsoever.

As it is, I definitely wouldn’t be doing her any favours in future. No house sitting, putting bins out, watering plants.

LilacPoppy · 30/04/2022 18:59

You both behaved badly.

Original poster
Ohdearrr · 30/04/2022 19:00

Thanks but I never have before. It just came out. I was just really cross that she said I was sat down doing nothing when I’ve been helping them out all week whilst they have been away.

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CuriousCatfish · 30/04/2022 19:00

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2022 18:58

HmmI would never swear at my mother.

I would never slap my daughter around the face.

Maydaysoonenough · 30/04/2022 19:01

Wl leave her to stew. Next holiday she can pay someone to mind her house.. And tell her your dd won't be visiting either.

Norush4 · 30/04/2022 19:01

Discovereads · 30/04/2022 18:59

You could report her to the police as that is assault/domestic violence. I’d be tempted to do so just to see her hauled off in handcuffs and get a talking to a pit how assault is terribly wrong. She had no right to slap you whatsoever.

As it is, I definitely wouldn’t be doing her any favours in future. No house sitting, putting bins out, watering plants.

Do not do this OP. Unless your mother is constantly hitting you your mum will have a record and that is extreme!!

hihellohihello · 30/04/2022 19:02

Horrible. Sounds like a nasty aggressive conversation which quickly escalated into violence! Has she got form for this type of thing? I would start distancing myself from them if situations like this are on the cards. Certainly not good for your DD to witness.

frazzledasarock · 30/04/2022 19:03

I wouldn’t do anything for them again or speak to my mother unless she grovelled.

you don’t go around slapping people across the face.

WeCouldBeSpearows · 30/04/2022 19:03

LilacPoppy · 30/04/2022 18:59

You both behaved badly.

Yeah, op's a nightmare. Imagine helping out by looking after the house while the occupiers were away, and then having the audacity to be annoyed when they got criticised for their efforts!

Op, that's the last time I would be helping them out. Yanbu.

PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 19:03

Fancy reporting your own mother to the police... 😳

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2022 19:03

You both behaved badly, saying that no she shouldn't have slapped you.

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Ohdearrr · 30/04/2022 19:04

@PumpkinsandKittens I haven’t reported it!

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WeCouldBeSpearows · 30/04/2022 19:04

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2022 18:58

HmmI would never swear at my mother.

I would swear at mine if she started it!

FairyPolkadot · 30/04/2022 19:05

Upsetting for you and also a little concerning if it’s completely uncharacteristic behaviour. Could she have been jet lagged and not thinking straight?

HollyFromTheBongs · 30/04/2022 19:05

No she shouldn't have slapped you.

You shouldn't have sworn at her either.

You both sound like something from a soap opera. I don't know a single person in real life who would behave like this.

chisanunian · 30/04/2022 19:07

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/04/2022 18:58

HmmI would never swear at my mother.

I would never swear at my daughter.

almostmummyof2 · 30/04/2022 19:07

A swear word is just a word.. to be actually slapped by someone - especially your own mother, imo not okay.

Sorry op xx

MissyB1 · 30/04/2022 19:07

Well she’s going to have to grovel before she sees you or your dd again isn’t she?

And I would make her wait a long time.

Discovereads · 30/04/2022 19:07

PumpkinsandKittens · 30/04/2022 19:03

Fancy reporting your own mother to the police... 😳

Yes fancy reporting your own husband/father/son to the police for hitting you once. We encourage women to do so, but when it’s a wife/mother/daughter doing the hitting it’s all victim blaming (oh you both behaved badly, you swore) or it’s all misplaced concern for the abuser (oh, that’s extreme wouldn’t want there to be a record of the abuse).

dodobookends · 30/04/2022 19:08

LilacPoppy · 30/04/2022 18:59

You both behaved badly.

That is not an excuse for physical violence.

doveseternal · 30/04/2022 19:09

Report her for assault. She deserves to be arrested and put in her place- which isn't a place where she should be hitting anyone.