40 yo DH wants to dress like Harry Styles.

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Dh has always been a "flamboyant " dresser.
hes toned it down over the years: wearing smarter , designer items - but still with "edge" and still has a "look".
we are attending a family wedding( fairly conservative) in the Summer ( my side) and he wants to wear :
a cream silk pussybow paisley shirt
with
pastel lilac flares.

i want him to dress smartly and appropriately ( maybe a cool tie or shirt pattern)

he says: if it was him telling me what to wear - itd be outrageous and is really sulking!

i say : hes free to dress how he likes 364 days of the year , and at his own family's get togethers, and pull focus from the bride ( has actually happened) but can he not reign it in for this?

whos being unreasonable?

*his whole Dream Outfit is also costing more than mine by a long shot!

Tell him he'll look like Austin Powers if he wears that outfit

Sounds like he’ll look really dapper. Be proud of him!

No he really isn't is he...

@AnyCakeButBattenburg ha Haaa ill tell him that !
i said hed look like a 70s rent boy( man)

@Pugfostermum yes he IS dapper but I absolutely drew the line at the flares 😁

He’ll think he’s channelling Harry Styles, everyone else will think he’s channelling Dick Emery (shows age) 😁

@CaitoftheCantii he'd probably know who that was hahaha

Hahaha 😂. I was thinking the same. Curious to know what shoes he was thinking of wearing OP?

Each to their own but at a formal conservative family wedding?
You'll get laughs and stares. The bride will NOT be impressed.

@HemanOrSheRa CHRIST knows ....
something wild no doubt

Now I can't get Dick Emery out of my head.
Oh you are awful😉

• off the google dick emery

But I like you!

😂 Can you steer him towards a David Bowie style suit? He always looked dapper with 'an edge' in suits. Mind you, I am an old gimmer (who remembers Dick Emery).

My husband only wears black and dark blue. Sometimes some grey and white.
im so jealous of you now!

I loved Clarence ‘Hello Honkytonks’. I know it’s not PC, but he still makes me laugh.

I’m all for a bit of flamboyant dressing, but you do have to be sure of your audience!

Well he isn't wrong in as much as there would be an outcry if it was a man trying to tell a woman what to wear. Give in on the flares and go for a plain shirt with a paisley tie. Not quite the same but maybe enough of a statement.

In all seriousness though, I love men who dress outside the box, it's fantastic. Big Prince and David Bowie props. However, weddings are different. There are supposed to be two people maximum who get all the attention for what they wear and your DH isn't one of them.

FWIW I had a couple of rockstars at my wedding, typically found in mesh shirts, plastic kilts and top hats. Nice dark suits for the wedding. Because they're not arseholes.

Bodily autonomy etc. he can and should wear what he wants etc. he's how own person etc. but I'm trying to think how I'd honestly feel if my DH told me he was going to wear pastel lilac flares and a pussybow silk blouse to a wedding we were attending. Would my bum pucker in embarrassment? Perhaps.

If he's always hinted at flamboyance I suppose it mightn't seem too wild. I'd probably leave him to it and get stuck into the champagne.

😂 This is what I'm visualising.

@Springdaisy ha yes, but often hes so flamingo-like, that i may as well wear a bin liner next to him. And not bother as am invisible!

He will look like an idiot and I think you should tell him so. He can do it at his own family events, but to yours you do expect him not to be the joke of the day.

Right Said Fred?

I think it depends if it suits him or not. On some guys it might look ridiculous and fancy dress, on others it might really suit them and feel quite natural...

So what if his outfit costs more than yours ? Sounds like you want him to tone it down because you care too much about what your family will think. You need to let go and let him be. If the others don't like it, why does it matter ?