40 yo DH wants to dress like Harry Styles.

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Dh has always been a "flamboyant " dresser.
hes toned it down over the years: wearing smarter , designer items - but still with "edge" and still has a "look".
we are attending a family wedding( fairly conservative) in the Summer ( my side) and he wants to wear :
a cream silk pussybow paisley shirt
with
pastel lilac flares.

i want him to dress smartly and appropriately ( maybe a cool tie or shirt pattern)

he says: if it was him telling me what to wear - itd be outrageous and is really sulking!

i say : hes free to dress how he likes 364 days of the year , and at his own family's get togethers, and pull focus from the bride ( has actually happened) but can he not reign it in for this?

whos being unreasonable?

*his whole Dream Outfit is also costing more than mine by a long shot!

If he wants to look a little different then a plain navy or grey (good quality) suit would look cool worn with a shirt like this

www.charlestyrwhitt.com/uk/made-with-liberty-fabric-semi-cutaway-collar-shirt---sky/CSB0028SKY.html?cgid=shirts&pf=browse#prefn1=pattern&prefv1=patterned%7Cprint&srule=price-low-to-high&currentPageNum=1&sz=22&start=0&cgid=shirts

Imagine being worried about what you're wearing just in case grown adults laugh at you

@Heartofglass12345 i think you need to rtfft

I'd be annoyed OP. He could wear something more appropriate for a wedding and still have his own stamp on the clothes.

😂😂😂

OP if he is Jared Leto forget my earlier comment! He can wear whatever the fuck he wants and sod the bride and groom 😂

It’s interesting that the norm for men is so boring. There is part of me that would be a bit cringe if it was my husband but part of me that really admires the fact he’s not afraid to play with colour/design. I don’t think he’d be upstaging the bride. If a woman was wearing similar colour combinations no/one would bat an eyelid. Also probably depends on his physique as to how well he can carry that off. If he’s a 6ft rugby player stacked liked a brick, it’s probably not a winner of an outfit.

Isn't a grown up Harry styles basically Laurence Llewyn-Bowen?

Isn't a grown up Harry styles basically Laurence Llewyn-Bowen?

I think it sounds cool and I applaud anyone who dresses to please themselves and has individuality. Surely, Op must have known he dressed like this when they met? I don't get all the comments about not out dressing the bride and groom... At my wedding, my cousins wife wore a green dress with huge pink splodges all over it and a matching floppy hat. We all smiled a bit about it (not to her face) but she didn't take the "attention" from us and it certainly didn't cross my mind to be upset about her dress choices.

Is he very good looking and is he slim? If the answer to both questions is yes, then go for it. If not, don’t.
Also, shoes? Coat/jacket?

In a day when navy / black / grey suits dominate, I think its great that your DH is a bit 'out there' but maybe tone it down to avoid upstaging the bride / groom.

@Remainiac yes he is...but ....
@Bbq1 yes but you dont remember her fondly, it seems...

He sounds fun. Can’t say I wouldn’t be embarrassed in your shoes but I’d imagine being married to him and knowing who he is/what he likes would be enough indoctrination.

Jeez, so many things to worry about in the world and here you are fussing about your husband wanting to look nice at a wedding. Why in god's name would it be an issue? Good for him for having a style and the ability to enjoy life.

Nonsense. Plain and less than slim people are allowed to wear what they want too.

Axl and Slash? Please let it be Axl and Slash

Love the Jared Leto comparison

We smiled about it with fondness, not with malice, jealousy or annoyance. It was a truly awful outfit but it didn't spoil our day. I think we laughed when the wedding photos came back as she stood out a bit in the group photos. Other than that I only thought about it today because of this thread. I still see her occasionally at family occasions and she's now quite a Conservative dresser!

Jesus. Good looking and slim to wear what he wants. So if we aren't, what then? 🤔

I think the flares would be cool, I’m tired of seeing pencil straight pants all the time. Maybe flares in a more subtle color and he keep the whimsical the bow shirt. I think he’d look smart and edgy.

The norm for men is boring, but its a rule that you dont upstage the bride at her wedding.

I think ynabu but only because it's a wedding.

I would say the same if genders are reversed (recent wedding guest dress as an example).

Weddings aren't the time to dress at your most flamboyant. If he dressed like that the rest of the time, he could get away with it, but he doesn't so he can't.

He'd be pulling attention from the bride & groom which is a no-no and disrespectful. He can still dress individually, just tone it down for the day.

Suggest you plan an event where he can wear his lilac flares and pussy bow paisley :)

Harry Styles is extraordinarily stylish. If your husband can pull off the look then why not 🤷‍♀️
Also flares are very in right now. In a previous post, someone pointed out that Harry wore a black suit to a recent wedding, but the trousers were flares and he had a white lace shirt on. Could your husband be convinced into something more like that? Still classy but with an edge.
Also the purple suit someone posted further up is fantastic, I love it.

Harry Styles looks like he's trying very very hard to look edgy and different. Stylish he is isn't. I don't know anyone who thinks he looks good.