40 yo DH wants to dress like Harry Styles.

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Dh has always been a "flamboyant " dresser.
hes toned it down over the years: wearing smarter , designer items - but still with "edge" and still has a "look".
we are attending a family wedding( fairly conservative) in the Summer ( my side) and he wants to wear :
a cream silk pussybow paisley shirt
with
pastel lilac flares.

i want him to dress smartly and appropriately ( maybe a cool tie or shirt pattern)

he says: if it was him telling me what to wear - itd be outrageous and is really sulking!

i say : hes free to dress how he likes 364 days of the year , and at his own family's get togethers, and pull focus from the bride ( has actually happened) but can he not reign it in for this?

whos being unreasonable?

*his whole Dream Outfit is also costing more than mine by a long shot!

Harry Styles looks a mess.

Granted he has his own look and that's great, but I don't think stylish is what he's aiming for tbh.

Why try to control what he wears? I think it's sad that men face challenges if they want to dress outside societal expectations.

it's not about 'controlling' is it? I mean, I thought this would just be the kind of normal conversations that many thousands of couples will regularly have. In fact, just yesterday I was shopping with my wife and we were both looking at outfits for a wedding we're going to in August.

There was a particular dress we both liked but i suggested it 'wasn't very weddingy' - she didn't bite my head off, she just ok and in the end bought a different, also very nice, dress. I was looking at some suits but didn't get one - I did buy some new shoes though. Throughout the trip we both had various agreements and (mild) disagreements about colours and styles. We both want to look nice but also both care what the other thinks.

Axl and Slash? Please let it be Axl and Slash

Of course it was. Just for you. In my dreams.

I'd have married Slash instead and I think DH would have agreed.

Yup, agree. He doesn't quite pull it off. The outfits wear him.

If he wants style, he should look at Wisdom Kaye. Now that man has style!

You married a flamboyant dresser so in my mind, you knew what you were getting yourself into! Maybe suggest the flares with a crisp white, slim fit shirt. Still very much out there, but not so much you'll be pretending you don't know him!

“He'll end up being a figure of fun. Everyone will be pointing and laughing at him behind their hands.”

This kind of comment and the idea that everyone will be staring at him reveal such a depressing view of life in my opinion. I can’t imagine going to a wedding and “pointing and laughing” at another guest for what they’re wearing (unless they were literally wearing a wedding dress). If I love someone’s outfit I will think about it (because I might be thinking about how to recreate it) and comment on it (“aah look at so-and-so! What an amazing dress”) but if someone had worn something a bit “out there” that in my opinion didn’t work for them I really wouldn’t give it a second thought… because I would be there to celebrate with the wedding couple and all the lovely people at their wedding, not fume over other people’s clothing choices.

OP I think your husband should go for it. I really don’t think it sounds THAT out there, and if he can pull it off he’ll look great! (And if he can’t, no one will care.)

Yeah, I was reading the thread thinking this. My DH would pick what he wanted to wear to an occasion like that, he’d ask my opinion and would take account of what I thought. If I said I really didn’t like it or thought it was hugely inappropriate for the occasion he’d respect that. And vice versa - I frequently ask his opinion on what I’m planning to wear.

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I agree!

Also, surely one of the enjoyable things about weddings is looking at everybody's outfits. This talk of upstaging the bride is completely ridiculous, people are supposed to get dressed up to the nines! And all the different outfits contribute to the wedding photos... give the bride and groom loads of pleasure to see everyone's efforts. I mean he's not proposing going in a tracksuit, he's actually giving a shit what he looks like and is prepared to spend money on it.

Well if you personally don't know anyone who thinks he looks good, I guess GQ, Vogue and Esquire must all be wrong 🤷‍♀️

The Esquire article title seems particularly relevant to this thread: "Harry Styles Made Dressing Up for Dressing Up's Sake Cool Again"

Harry Styles looks to me like he's been dressed by a pr and marketing team of 15 people. Everything looks so contrived.

My arsehole puckers when people compare Styles to David Bowie. Demonstrates how vapid things are in 2022.

He looks like he covered himself in super glue and ran through a wardrobe. But whatever, he is who he is.

I agree that Wisdom Kaye does it 100% better.

I've been trying to think who my friend's new Turkey teeth remind me of ... Dick Emery!

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I'm the poster that made the remark that you've quoted.

Goodness, you've taken a completely tongue in cheek post very seriously.

Of course no one's going to be pointing and laughing, well hopefully not, they're not 7 year olds in the school playground; although, I imagine it's likely a few eyebrows would be raised.

I was just trying to make the point, in a light hearted way, that the outfit the OP's husband wants to wear really doesn't sound suitable for what is going to be a fairly formal wedding.

My DH has dandyish tendencies. I think clothes are a fun part of life so if he asks my view, I always encourage him to wear what he wants. Who cares if you're overdressed or are the only person wearing a velvet suit?

I doubt your DH will take attention away from the bride (unless he really is Jared Leto!) 😄

Maybe he saw the story about the dinosaur bridesmaid and thought, ah feck it I'll go all out! 😂

metro.co.uk/2019/09/04/bridesmaid-wears-t-rex-costume-sisters-wedding-allowed-choose-dress-10684371/amp/

@WoozieFloozie HAHAHAhAa thats hilarious!!!
almost hilarious as the groom being called jobby.